Kungumqondo omuhle yini ukukhuluma nge-ex yakho nomlingani wakho?

ukhuluma ngomlingani wakudala

Ubudlelwano besikhathi esedlule abuzange busebenze ngaleso sikhathi futhi okuwukuphela kwento okufanele uyigcine kubo ukufunda emaphutheni enziwe. Manje kungenzeka ukuthi uthole umuntu omthanda ngempela futhi ocabanga ukuthi "ukhethiwe". Kodwa-ke, njengoba nobabili niqhubeka nokwazana ngezingxoxo ngezihloko ezithile, futhi nifunda kabanzi ngomunye nomunye, kungenzeka ukuthi ezinye izihloko zizoqhamuka ezingadala amagagasi emanzini azolile.

Kuzodingeka ukuthi ukulungele ukuphendula imibuzo ngendlela efanele ukuze ubudlelwano bakho bukhule buqine futhi buqine, kepha futhi kudingeka ukwazi ukuba nomqondo ovulekile ukuze ukwazi ukukhuluma ngokukhululeka ngalezi zihloko. Ukukhuluma ngobudlelwano obudlule nomlingani wakho wamanje ebudlelwaneni bakho obusha kungaba lula kakhulu noma kube nzima kakhulu. Ekugcineni, ngaphambi kokwenza lokhu, kubalulekile ukubheka izinto ezahlukahlukene ukukusiza unqume ukuthi ngabe umlando wakho wothando kufanele ucabangisise ngawo.

Kungani Kufanele Ukhulume Ngobudlelwano Bangaphambilini

Uma ukhetha ukuthatha indlela yokukhuluma ngobudlelwano obudlule, kufanele wazi izingozi. Kodwa-ke, kunezinzuzo eziningi kulokhu. Ngokukhuluma ngobudlelwano bakho obudlule nomlingani wakho wamanje, uvula iziteshi zokuxhumana. Ngokwenza lokhu, udala ukuxhumana, isibopho, nendawo yokwethembeka futhi okungenzeka kube sengcupheni.

Konke lokhu kuhle, yize kungengethusa, kuyethusa, kuyacindezela, kuyakhathaza, noma kuyacindezela, empeleni kuhle. Lapho utshela umlingani wakho ngobudlelwano bakho bangaphambilini, kubalulekile ukuthi uthembeke, uvuleke futhi ungathathi hlangothi ngakho. Kodwa-ke, njengoba udinga ukwethembeka, Kufanele futhi ukhumbule ukuthi awudingi ukungena kuyo yonke imininingwane yazo zonke izici zobudlelwano bakho bangaphambilini.

Noma wena nomlingani wakho nivumelane ngokuxoxa ngobudlelwano obudlule, akusho ukuthi ufuna ukuzwa konke ngempilo yakho yezocansi nakho konke okwenzekile. Kungcono ukufingqa ubuhle nobubi bobudlelwano. Xoxa ngokuthi bekubuhle kanjani kwesinye isikhathi kodwa futhi uchaze nokuthi bekuyini okonakalise ubudlelwano, kulesi sici ungangena emininingwaneni.

ukhuluma ngomlingani wakudala

Kukhona umugqa omuhle

Kunomugqa omuhle walokhu, kufanele uthembeke futhi uvuleke, kepha futhi kufanele ugcine ezinye izinto zigodliwe futhi zifihliwe ukuze kube lula. Futhi, enye inzuzo yokukhuluma ngobudlelwano obudlule ukuthi ungakhuluma ngalokho ongakuthandi, okuzotshela umlingani wakho izinto angazenzi uma efuna konke akusebenzele.

Abantu bangabona lokhu njengomqondo omubi ngoba kusho ukuthi uphakamisa ukuthi umlingani wakho kufanele ashintshe noma azifihle izingxenye zakhe. Kodwa-ke, akukubi impela ngoba ukhuluma kuphela ngokungahambi kahle esikhathini esedlule, ukuthi ikwenze wazizwa kanjani nokuthi kwenzekeni ngenxa yalokho.

Umlingani wakho ngeke aguquke ngenxa yalokhu, kumane nje kusho ukuthi bazoba namaphethini wezinto ezithile ezonakalise okwedlule nokuthi ubungeke uthande ukuthi uphinde wonakalise okwamanje. Kuyisiqondisi somlingani wakho okuthile okuzokusiza Sengathi ubudlelwano bakho bungaba ngcono nokuthi umphumela wokugcina awuhlangani nobudlelwano obudlule.

Futhi, kubalulekile ukuthi wazi ukuthi uma ukhuluma ngobudlelwano bakho bangaphambilini, kufanele ukuthi ukulungele ukuzwa ngobudlelwano obudlule bomlingani wakho. Gcina umqondo ovulekile futhi ufunde kokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kwangaphambilini ukuthuthukisa okwamanje.


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  2. Inhloso yedatha: Lawula Ugaxekile, ukuphathwa kwamazwana.
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