Ngabe kungcono ukwethembeka ngesihluku noma ngezikhathi ezithile uqambe amanga amhlophe ukugwema izimpikiswano ezingadingekile? Ngabe ukwethembeka ebudlelwaneni kubalulekile njengoba ucabanga? Ukuze ujulise isibopho sothando nomlingani wakho futhi nihlale nixhumene kakhulu, kufanele nithembeke ngokuphelele. Lapho uzibophezele ngokwengeziwe, ubuhlobo buzoba nothando ngokwengeziwe.
Kodwa-ke, ungaba nokwethembeka kweqiniso ebudlelwaneni kuphela uma uthembekile kuwe uqobo. Uma usukwazi lokho, ungakha ubudlelwano obuzinzile nabantu abakuzungezile.
Ukwethembeka ebudlelwaneni kuhambisana nokwethembana
Uma uzithola ufuna induduzo ngaphandle kobudlelwano futhi uze uthandane nomunye umuntu, iqiniso elilula ukuthi abajabule ngalobo budlelwano, bayanqamula kubo futhi, okubi kakhulu, awuthembekile kuwe naku umlingani wakho. Umsebenzi oyinselele lapha ukukhuluma ngalokho okungasebenzi futhi ubone ukuthi ungakulungisa yini futhi uthuthuke ebudlelwaneni.
Umlingani wakho mhlawumbe akaboni ukuthi kunenkinga futhi ukwethemba ngokuphelele. Zibuze ukuthi ungazizwa kanjani uma ungathola ukuthi uyakukhohlisa. Kodwa-ke, ebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside nasemshadweni, indaba yehluke kakhulu. Uthando nokuzibophezela kubophezela kakhulu; ubudlelwane bungokomzwelo kakhulu ngoba, ngokwemvelo, Njengemibhangqwana, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi bakhulise ukwethembana nokuxhumana.
Kepha uma isikhathi namandla kusaphazwa ngaphandle kobudlelwano nomunye umuntu, lokhu kungabhekwa njengokukhohlisa okusobala namanga. Ukungathembeki ngokungangabazeki kuyingozi njengoba kubangela ubuhlungu nokudabuka. Konke ukuqonda ukuthi wena no umlingani wakho omqongelele eminyakeni edlule akwenzi mqondo, akukho ukuthembeka ebudlelwaneni.
Kuzothatha umsebenzi omningi nesibindi ukubuyisa ukwethembeka kobudlelwano uma usutholile le kude. Inkinga ngokuqamba amanga ebudlelwaneni ukuthi ithwala umthwalo wecala; kukugcina ungazizwa kahle ngawe. Uma umthanda ngempela umuntu, kufanele uvuleke futhi uthembeke kuye, lezi yizinto ezibalulekile zokwethembeka ebudlelwaneni. Noma yibuphi ubudlelwano obunenjongo kumele busekelwe ekwethembaneni.
Futhi cabanga ngendlela okungacasula nokucindezela ngayo ukuthola ukuthi umlingani wakho ukukhohlisile. Lapho ukungathembani sekusungulwe ebudlelwaneni, ukuxhumana kuyafa.
Kubi ebuchosheni bakho
Ucwaningo lwakamuva, olokuqala ngohlobo lwalo olushicilelwe yiNature Neuroscience, lukhombise izindaba ezikhathazayo. Ukhombisile ukuthi ukukhuluma amanga amancane angaguquki kwenza ubuchopho bube buhlungu futhi kukhuthaze amanga amakhulu ngokuzayo. Lolu cwaningo lwenzeka e-University College London Experimental Psychology ngo-2016 lakhombisa ukuthi lapho ubuchopho buba namandla, Ukuqamba amanga kuba lula futhi ukukhuluma amanga amakhulu kuba lula.
Ngokwe-Cognitive Science, ngokushesha nje lapho uqala ukukhuluma amanga, uhlelo lwemizwa luqala ukuqoqa ama-hormone okuxineka abizwa nge-cortisol. Amazinga aphezulu e-cortisol esikhathini eside abangela ingcindezi futhi angabeka isiteji sezinkinga ezibucayi kakhulu zempilo yengqondo, njengokucindezelwa yisifo i-Alzheimer's. Kungcono ukuyeka ukukhuluma amanga kunalokho uhlose ukukhulisa zonke izinto ezinhle ebudlelwaneni obunempilo.