Awudingi ukuhleba ocingweni lomlingani wakho ngezizathu ezimbili ezibalulekile: akuyona eyakho, futhi wephula ukwethenjwa. Ngaphezu kokukwenza, kukwenza kucace ukuthi awuzethembi futhi nokuthi unokungazethembi okukhulu kakhulu kumuntu wakho nakulokho okuzwayo ngomlingani wakho. Ngaphezu kwakho konke lokhu, sisazokunika izizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani UNGAKHOHLEHI ocingweni lomlingani wakho.
Ungathola izinto ongazithandi
Uma uhleba, uyakwazi ukuthola imininingwane eminingi okungeyona eyakho. Ungathola imininingwane emincane efana nezingxoxo nabangani nomndeni ezingakuthinti. Kungaba ngama-imeyili noma imilayezo elula engxoxweni ye-Facebook. Kungenzeka kungabi yimfihlo enkulu, kepha kungaba njalo. Ukwazi izimfihlo zomuntu ngaphandle kwabanye bazi kuyethusa futhi kuzokwephula nokwethembana.
Vele kungenzeka ukuthi uzothola okuthile. Kepha ukungatholi lutho ngokuvamile kuholela emibuzweni eminingi kunezimpendulo. Ake sithi awutholi zimfihlo. Kuthiwani uma uxoxa nje nomlingani wakho ngemuva kwesikhashana bese usho imininingwane ongeke wayazi ngaphandle kokuthi ubheke ifoni yabo? Kungenzeka ungene enkingeni.
Uma uyihogela kanye, uzoyenza kaningi
Lokhu kungaxhomeka ebuntwini bakho, kepha ukuba nekhono lokudlula ngocingo lomuntu othile iwindi lempilo yabo yansuku zonke. Kuyinto yomuntu siqu, futhi, Noma ungenakho okufihlayo, okuningi kwakho ungaphakathi kwale divayisi.
Ukubheka kulo mshini kungadala ukushesha kwegazi ebuchosheni bakho, futhi ukushesha kwe-adrenaline kungakudla njengoba ubheka uhlelo lokusebenza ngemuva kohlelo lokusebenza, unethemba (noma cha) lokuthola okuthile. Lokhu kungaba umkhuba kalula, futhi mhlawumbe ngeke uzizwe ukhululekile uze "uhlole" ifoni yomlingani wakho njengoba wenza ngaphambi kokulala kahle ebusuku. Lokhu akuphilile nakancane futhi kungenza ubudlelwano bube yingozi.
Wephula ubumfihlo bukazakwenu
Sonke singabantu futhi ukuba sebudlelwaneni akukushintshi lokho. Ukwabelana kungenye into, kepha ukwephula ubumfihlo kungenye into. Ukubanjwa, okungenzeka kube lula kunalokho okucabangayo, kungakubangela ukuba necala, amahloni nokululazeka.
Uphula ukwethemba
Buyini ubudlelwano ngaphandle kokwethembana? Lutho. Umbuzo omkhulu okufanele uzibuze wona ukuthi uzama ukuthola ini? Kuleli qophelo, kungahle kube nezinye izingqinamba ebudlelwaneni benu, ngakho-ke okubalulekile ukuvuthwa nokukhulumisana ngaphambi kokuba lokhu kube ngumcabango. Khuluma nomlingani wakho umtshele ukuthi yini enokwesaba noma ukuthi ucabanga ukuthi kwenzekani.
Kungani uzihlupha ngokuhlala nomlingani wakho uma kungekho ukwethembana? Uthando luyesabisa, kepha kufanele lube nemithetho. Futhi lapho imithetho yephulwa, kuba nezinxushunxushu. Ngokuzayo lapho ucabanga ngokufinyelela leyo foni, yima. Ungakwenzi kuwe. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ungakwenzi lokho kumlingani wakho.