Okubaluleke kakhulu kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo phakathi kwabantu ukubekezela. Akukhathalekile ukuthi ubuhlobo noma ubungani noma ubudlelwano bomndeni, ukubekezela kuzohlala kudingekile esimweni ngasinye.
Uma unothando nokubekezela, usukulungele ubudlelwane obukhulu. Ukubekezela akubalulekile ebudlelwaneni obunothando kuphela, kepha kubaluleke ngokufanayo, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kukusiza ukuba ube nokulawula okwengeziwe ngempilo yakho futhi lokho kuza nesimo sengqondo esihle. Ukuba nesineke kusho ukungathukutheli noma ukucasuka ezimweni ezicindezelayo nezingajabulisi.
Akekho kithi ophelele. Asikwazi ukubekezela ngaso sonke isikhathi, kepha uma usuqonda ukubaluleka kwesineke ebudlelwaneni bothando obunempilo, uzoba ngumuntu olinganiselayo. Ukubekezela akuyona into ozalwa nayo; Kuyinto oyithola eminyakeni edlule, kuyikhono ongalifunda futhi, Njenganoma yiliphi ikhono, uyathuthuka ngokuhamba kweminyaka.
Ukubekezela kufana nobuchule obufanele ukuthuthuka ngoba, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kuzoba nokuzola okukhulu futhi uzoba nokulawula okwengeziwe ebudlelwaneni ekhaya. Ungazithola uzithola kwezinye zalezi zimo lapho udinga ukusebenza kakhulu ekubekezeleni.
Uke wathandana nomuntu oseke washada noma osanda kuphuma ebudlelwaneni obunzima?
Ngaphandle kokungabaza, Umlingani wakho uzonqikaza ukubamba iqhaza ngokuphelele okwesibili nxazonke, ngakho lindela ukuthi izinto zihambe kancane ekuqaleni. Uzibona umfuqa ukuthi ahlalisane, kanti uyafa ukuhlangana nabazali bakhe, kodwa yena uyanqikaza. Lokhu akusho ukuthi akanayo imizwa ngawe; uvele nje uqiniseke ukuthi awenzi iphutha elifanayo futhi. Yize kuyakhathaza, awunakho okunye ongakwenza ngaphandle kokuba nesineke ukuqhubekisela phambili lobo budlelwano bothando.
Uma kukhona ingane ethintekayo, kudingeka uqaphele futhi ubekezele lapho unquma ukuthi yini ezokujabulisa. Uma lobu budlelwano buyinto ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe, futhi ukhetha ukubulandela, kufanele usihloniphe isinqumo sakhe sokuba ngumzali ozinikele. Qiniseka ukuthi yilokhu okufunayo ngoba kuzodingeka ubekezele kakhulu. Kungakho:
Lapho umlingani wakho ephuzile ukudla, uyathukuthela noma unokubekezela?
Ube nosuku olubi ehhovisi; Ugijimela ekhaya uyokwenza isidlo sasemini sekhandlela ngoba wena nomlingani wakho benihlelele ukuthi nibe nesidlo sakusihlwa sababili, ubusuku obuthule ekhaya. Ukudla kwakusihlwa kuhhavini ubeka itafula, qiniseka ukuthi kubukeka kukuhle kakhulu futhi konke kusethelwe ubusuku bothando. Konke kulungele ihora lesi-8, isikhathi ovame ukufika ngaso ekhaya, Kepha akuveli. Uyazama ukushaya, kodwa ifoni yabo iya ngqo kwi-voicemail.
Lokhu kwanele ukuthi noma ngubani aphelelwe yisineke futhi athukuthele, noma kubukhali, ukucabanga isikhashana ngaphambi kokuphuma endlini aqonde kunina noma endlini yomngani wakhe omkhulu ebusuku. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi uthandane nale ndoda ematasa lo mkhakha osemncane okhanyayo owaziyo ukuthi unekusasa eliqhakazile emsebenzini wakhe omusha. Uthathe isikhathi wachaza ngomsebenzi wakhe odinga usizo lapho nihlangana nokuthi kuzosho ukuthini ngomsebenzi wakhe weminyaka ezayo. Umsebenzi wakho ubalulekile, futhi udinga ukucabanga ngekusasa lakho - lokhu, empeleni, kungukutshalwa kwemali kwesikhathi eside.
Kufanele ucabange ngemivuzo yesikhathi esizayo nangekusasa ohlela ukulakha ndawonye. Esikhundleni salokho, cabanga nje ukuthi kuzomduduza kanjani ukukuthola lapho efika ekhaya, ukuthi kuzomsiza kangakanani ukuba akhululeke ngokumane ube khona. Isoka lakho linezizathu ezizwakalayo zalesi sikhathi esengeziwe esingahleliwe emsebenzini; akusho ukuthi angikuthandi.