Idatha ikhombisa futhi ifakazela lokhu futhi ukuthi ngokufika kwehlobo, imibhangqwana eminingi iphela futhi igcina ngokuhlukana. Kuyinto engaba yinto ephikisanayo, ngoba okuphambene kufanele kwenzeke.
Phakathi nezinyanga ezinde zasehlobo, lezi zithandani zisisebenzisa kahle kakhulu isikhathi sazo samahhala, kepha kunezingxabano eziningi lokho kungabeka kakhulu ubudlelwano bakho engcupheni. Esihlokweni esilandelayo sikukhombisa izimbangela noma izizathu zokuthi kungani imibhangqwana eminingi ihlukana phakathi nezinyanga zasehlobo.
Izizathu noma izimbangela zezingxabano zombili ehlobo
- Ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi nomlingani wakho kwenza izimpi nezingxabano ekukhanyeni kosuku. Ukuphela konyaka, ukujwayela nokuba nesheduli ebekiwe, kwenza ukuthi laba bashadikazi bangabi naso isikhathi sabo, esivimbela izinkinga ezithile ukuthi zivele.
- Into eyodwa yilokho okulindeleke ukuthi kwenziwe ezinyangeni zasehlobo kanti okunye okuhluke ngokuphelele yilokho okwenziwe empeleni. Uma okulindelwe okwenziwayo kungafinyelelwanga, kungenzeka ukuthi izingxabano nezinkinga ezithile zivele phakathi kombhangqwana.
- Imvamisa akubikho ngazwilinye lapho kuhlelwa okufanele kwenziwe ngesikhathi samaholide. Ukungafinyeleli esivumelwaneni, isivele idala izinkinga ezinkulu ngaphakathi kwabashadikazi.
- Ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi nomlingani wakho akukuhle futhi ingayigqiba kanzima. Yize kungamaholide, kuhle ukuthi iqembu ngalinye lisengaba nesikhathi esincane sokuzinikela endaweni yalo.
Ungavimba kanjani ukuthi izithandani zingahlukani ehlobo
- Ukhiye ukuze izithandani zingazivezi izingxabano ukuxhumana. Kubalulekile ukukhuluma nokudalula yonke imibono ukuze kufinyelelwe esivumelwaneni esizuzisa izinhlangothi zombili.
- Ukuba namaholide akusho ukuthi kufanele uchithe amahora angama-24 ngosuku nomlingani wakho. Kubalulekile ukuthi ube nesikhathi esincane sakho bese usinikela kulokho okufunayo. Lesi sikhathi sigcina sizuzisa futhi sanothisa lo mbhangqwana.
- Kufanele wazi ukuthi ungakwazisa kanjani onakho. Akubona bonke abantu abanenhlanhla yokuthola umuntu obathandayo. Akukho lutho oluhle njengokwazi ukuchitha isikhathi samahhala nomuntu omthandayo. Kusuka manje, konke kuzoba lula kakhulu ebudlelwaneni uqobo.
- Ukuba nesikhathi samahhala sokukwazi ukuchitha nomuntu omthandayo, kuwubukhazikhazi okufanele busetshenziswe. Ihlobo liyaphela kungekudala futhi kufanele ubuyele esimisweni sonyaka wonke. Kufanele ubeke ingqondo yakho eceleni futhi ujabulele ngangokunokwenzeka enkampanini kazakwenu.
Ngamafuphi, ukulandela lolu chungechunge lwamathiphu kuzokwenza izingxabano nezinkinga zigqame ngokungabikho kwabo futhi abashadikazi bazogcina beqiniswa kuzo zonke izici. Kufanele unakekele ubudlelwano futhi ufune inhlalakahle yabo ngaso sonke isikhathi.