Ukuba umzali kungenye yezinto ezinzima kakhulu futhi eziyinkimbinkimbi abazali okufanele babhekane nakho. Kungumgwaqo omude futhi okhathazayo ogcwele izithiyo okufanele zinqotshwe futhi uthole imfundo engcono kakhulu. Ngezinye izikhathi abazali basebenzisa amasu athile noma izinsiza ezifana nokujezisa noma ukweqa ezingafanele nhlobo mayelana nokukhulisa izingane.
Esihlokweni esilandelayo sizokutshela kungani kuyiphutha ukusebenzisa isijeziso kanye nokukhwabanisa njengezinsiza ngaphakathi kwemfundo yezingane.
Iphutha lokusebenzisa isijeziso kanye ne-blackmail ekukhuliseni izingane
Izizathu zokuthi kungani abazali abaningi basebenzisa lezi zindlela zingahlukahluka. Ukucindezeleka noma ukungabi nesineke bangase babe ngemuva kwezindlela zokufundisa ezingalulekwanga njengokujezisa noma ukuthunjwa.
Kwezinye izimo, imfundo abazali abayithole besebancane ingaba nethonya. Isizathu esisodwa sokugcina singaba ngenxa yokuthi kokubili ukukhwabanisa nokujezisa kungamasu amabili Ngokuvamile zisebenza ngokushesha noma esikhathini esifushane.
Kodwa-ke, kuwudaka nje kuphela futhi kungenxa yokuthi esikhathini esimaphakathi nesikhathi eside zingamasu amabili lokho kuzodala izinkinga ezinkulu ekuzihlonipheni komntwana nasekukhuleni kwayo.
Umthelela ongemuhle wokujeziswa kanye nokuthunjwa ekukhuleni kwezingane
Endabeni yokujezisa, kuyindlela umntwana aphucwa ngayo okuthile ayithandayo noma ngokumphuca uhlobo oluthile lwelungelo eyayinalo. Endabeni yokuthunjwa ngokomzwelo, kusho ukuxhaphaza ingane ukuze imenze enze noma ayeke ukwenza okuthile. Akuyona into engaphezu kwendlela yokuphatha kabi ingane ngokwengqondo lokho kungabonakala kahle ekukhulisweni kwendabuko.
Kunoma yikuphi, kokubili amasu ahilela ukuwohloka okukhulu ngokuba isibopho esakheka phakathi kukayise nendodana. Endabeni yomntwana omncane, ulahlekelwa ukuqiniseka okuthile ngomfanekiso kayise futhi endabeni yomuntu omdala, akazinaki ngokuphelele izidingo ezingase zibe nazo. Kuyiqiniso ukuthi kokubili isijeziso kanye nokungathembeki ngokomzwelo kungasebenza esikhathini esifushane, kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kuba nemiphumela ebulalayo enganeni. Kunezimo lapho izijeziso zingaveza umphumela ophambene futhi ingane igcine idlubulunda.
Abazali kufanele benze kanjani ngokuphathelene nokukhulisa izingane zabo?
Inkinga uma kuziwa ekufundiseni noma ekukhuliseni izingane ibangelwa ukuthi abazali babodwa lapho bebhekene nenselele enjalo ukuphila okubanikeza yona. Kwesinye isikhathi basebenzisa isijeziso noma ukuhlambalaza, ngephutha bekholelwa ukuthi benza okufanele. Imfundo kumele ngaso sonke isikhathi isekelwe ezimisweni ezibalulekile njengozwela, uthando noma ukwethembana. Lapho ingane iziphatha kabi, kufanele iqondiswe kabusha ngendlela yokuthi ingahlukumezeki ngokomzwelo.
Maqondana nokukhulisa izingane, abazali kufanele bakhumbule ukuthi izingane azizalwa zazi nokuthi ukufunda kuyaqhubeka kuze kufinyelele eminyakeni yobudala. Ukuze lokhu kufunda kube kuhle kakhulu, ingane kufanele ibe nabazali abakwazi ukukuqondisa ezimisweni ezibalulekile njengenhlonipho nozwela.
Kafushane, kuyiphutha langempela ukufundisa noma ukukhulisa izingane usebenzisa amasu noma izinsiza ezithile njengoba kunjalo ngesijeziso noma ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo. Lezi zinhlobo zamasu zingase zibe nokusebenza ngokushesha, kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi zibangela imiphumela emibi ekuthuthukiseni izingane. Ngakho-ke, ungakhohlwa ukuthi abazali kufanele bafundise ngokucabangela inhlonipho ethile nozwela ezinganeni zabo.