Umshado uyisikhathi esimnandi, sothando, kanye kanye, kepha kungakwenza uzizwe ucindezeleke kakhulu emasontweni nasezinyangeni ezandulele. Ukuthola ukuthi uhlela kanjani umshado ongenazinkinga kubonakala kungenakwenzeka, kepha ngokufunda amakhono wokuxhumana aphumelelayo nomlingani wakho, konke kuzohamba kangcono kakhulu. Lapho usebenza ngohlu lwakho lokuhlola lomshado, imibhangqwana eminingi igcina ngokulwa yodwa, noma nabangani nomndeni, mayelana nokuthi umcimbi uzohlelwa kanjani noma uzokwenziwa kanjani.
Into yokugcina oyifunayo ngaphambi komshado ukucindezela okuqhubekayo kokuthukuthelela umuntu osondelene naye, ngakho-ke ukwazi ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nengcindezi futhi uqaphele futhi uxazulule inkinga ngaphambi kokuba ibe yimbi kubalulekile. Ngokulandelayo sizokhuluma nawe ngezinkinga ezithile ezingase zivele nokuthi zingaxazululwa kanjani.
Izinkinga ezivamile
- Izimemo. Wena nomlingani wakho ningaba nemibono engafani mayelana nokuthi ngubani okufanele amenywe nokuthi ngubani ongafanele ukumenywa.
- Izindawo nokuhlobisa. Ungahle ungavumelani ngokuthi umshado kufanele wenzelwe kuphi noma ukuthi yini okufanele ibekwe eqhulwini lapho kukhethwa ukuhlobisa.
- Inkolo namasiko. Uma wena nozakwenu ninemvelaphi ehlukene yenkolo noma yamasiko, kungaba nzima ukuthola ukuvumelana okusebenzela zombili izinhlangothi.
- Imali. Imishado iyabiza futhi imibhangqwana ingaphikisana ngokuthi isabelomali kufanele sibe yimalini (noma kufanele isetshenziswe kanjani leso sabelomali).
- Umzamo. Uma omunye umbhangqwana uchitha isikhathi esiningi nomzamo omkhulu enqubweni yokuhlela umshado kunenye, kungaba ngumthombo omkhulu wokucindezeleka.
- Ukuziphatha. Abanye abantu bayacasuka noma babe nolaka lapho behlela umshado, okungadala ukucindezeleka okwengeziwe kubo bonke abathintekayo.
Ngenhlanhla, cishe noma iyiphi inkinga ohlwini olungenhla kungaxoxiswana ngayo futhi ixazululwe. Okulandelayo sizokunikeza amanye amathiphu ukuze uhlele umshado wakho ngokuxhumana okusebenzayo nomlingani wakho nokuthi ungabi nokucindezeleka okukhulu.
Ukuhlela umshado nomlingani wakho
Yiba nomdlandla
Kuzofanele uqale usebenze. Uma ubona ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle, noma ngabe kuyinto encane, kuzodingeka uqale ingxoxo ngakho. Izinto ezincane zivamise ukuphenduka izinto ezinkulu uma zishiywa zingashiwongo noma zibhekiswa, okusho ukuthi noma ukucasulwa okuncane kungaba ngumthombo wentukuthelo engapheli. Qala ingxoxo ngokushesha okukhulu.
Bhekisisa imicabango nemizwa yomlingani wakho kanye nanoma ngubani omunye umuntu obambe iqhaza ohlelweni lokuhlela umshado, bese ugxila emizamweni yenu ekwenzeni inqubo ibe bushelelezi ngangokunokwenzeka.
Khuluma ngokukhululekile
Ukukhuluma nomlingani wakho ngenkinga ababhekene nayo kungaba nzima kakhulu; Ungahle uphoqeleke ukuthi ubatshele okuthile okubi ngokuziphatha kwabo noma uvume ukungazethembi okuyihlazo. Kodwa-ke, kufanele unqobe lokhu kungabaza futhi ukhulume ngokusobala uma ufuna ukuxazulula inkinga. Tshela umlingani wakho ngqo ukuthi uzizwa kanjani nokuthi kungani uzizwa ngaleyo ndlela, bese ulungisa leyo nkinga ngqo ... Kepha khumbula ukuthi ukukhuluma, kufanele ulalele nokuthi bathini kuwe.