Lapho nixabana kwabashadile, indlela enizisho ngayo izinto ibaluleke kakhulu kunalokho enikushoyo. Uma ukhuluma ngenhlonipho, ngomoya ophansi nangezwi elipholile, izinto ziba ngcono kakhulu engxoxweni kunokuba kwenziwe ngendlela ejulile futhi engemihle. Ngale ndlela, kubalulekile ukuthi ulandele lezi zeluleko ukuze ukwazi ukukhuluma ngothando nomlingani wakho.
Finyeta
Hlanganisa umbono wakho ngale ndaba ngomusho owodwa ukuze umlingani wakho aliqonde kangcono ngaphandle kwenkulumo ende. Lapho othile ekhuluma kakhulu ngesihloko, kungazwakala sengathi i-avalanche yehla intaba. Lokhu kungenza umlingani wakho afune ukungenelela ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi angakuvumeli ukuthi ukhulume. Esikhundleni salokho, kungcono ukuthandaza okwenza umlingani wakho aphumule kancane futhi azizwe ebonakala kulokho okushoyo. Ukwenza lokhu kugcina umlingani wakho eceleni kwakho njengoba ukhuluma ngaleyo mizwa elimele.
Hlala uzolile ngokuphefumulela phezulu
Uma uphefumula kakhulu, ulawula isimiso sakho sezinzwa. Lokhu kukusondeza emizweni ejulile onayo ngenkinga futhi kukuvulele ukuxhumana nomlingani wakho. Lapho uqaphela ukuthi imizwa yakho enamandla kakhulu futhi emibi iqala ukukuthatha, misa isikhashana ingxoxo, udonse umoya, uphumule ingqondo nomzimba wakho.
Khuluma ngothando
Imibhangqwana ezinzile inokusebenzisana okuhle okungu-5 kukho konke ukuxhumana okungekuhle phakathi kwempi. Ngakho-ke uma usengxoxweni nomlingani wakho, engeza imibono eyakhayo, isibonelo singaba: "Ngiyakuthanda kakhulu yize kwesinye isikhathi ngiye ngikhungatheke ngoba ..." noma futhi: "Unenhliziyo yami ukuxazulula lokhu ndawonye."
Zinikele ukuze uzuze
Ngokushayisana, kungenzeka ukuthi umlingani wakho ulindele ukwenqatshwa, ngakho-ke lapho ugcina umbono wakho ngengxabano futhi unelukuluku lokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo, qeda imicabango yabo emibi ezenzakalelayo. Ungakwenza lokhu ngokubuza imibuzo evulekile njenge: «Lokhu kubonakala kubaluleke kakhulu kuwe. Ungangisiza ngiqonde ukuthi kungani? »
Kuhola ngokukhululeka ngokomzwelo
Nikeza isiqiniseko somphefumulo lapho umlingani wakho enza okuthile futhi avume iqhaza lakho ekusizeni yena ukuthi ahlale ezolile. Ungakwenza lokho ngokusho izinto ezinjengalezi:
- Bengingazi ukuthi uthukuthele kangaka ngengikwenzile, ngiyaxolisa ukuthi ngikwenze wazizwa ngaleyo ndlela.
- Ngiyazi ukuthi ingxoxo enzima kepha ngifuna ukuthi sikwazi ukuveza esikuzwayo ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ngokuthi ubudlelwano buzolimala.
Indlela ocabanga ngayo ngomlingani wakho inomthelela endleleni ophendula ngayo kuye. Ngesikhathi sezingxabano, khumbula ukuthi bakuthanda kangakanani futhi bakukhathalela kangakanani. Kuzofanele uzitshele ukuthi le ngxoxo enzima iyisibonakaliso kanjani sokuthi niyakhathalelana futhi nobudlelwano benu buzothuthuka. Le micabango izokusiza ukuthi uhlale uzolile futhi wethule.
Ngokukusebenzisa ngobuchule ezingxoxweni zakho ezingqubuzanayo, wena nomlingani wakho maningi amathuba okuthi nibe nezingxoxo ezivuthiwe ezizwakalisa imfudumalo nothando, kunokugqamisa ukushiyeka nokungapheleli komunye nomunye.