Ngemva kwamaholide kaKhisimusi kufika futhi umthambeka odumile kaJanuwari, isisho esivame ukubhekisela kuso ukwehla komnotho abantu abaningi abadlula kukho futhi lokho kubaphoqa ukuthi "baqinise amabhande abo". Nokho, ezimweni eziningi kungaphezu kakhulu kwendaba yezomnotho. Futhi ukufunda ukuphatha nokunqoba umthambeka kaJanuwari kuba yimfuneko empilweni yethu yengqondo.
kubiza wena buyela esimisweni ngemva kukaKhisimusi? Ingabe uzizwa unecala ngemva kwamakati enziwe ngamaholide? Uma unemizwa yalolu hlobo, ukuthambeka okudumile kukaJanuwari kungaphezu kwendaba yezomnotho kuwe. Uyafuna ukufunda ukuthi ungayiphatha kanjani kangcono? Sabelana nawe ngezikhiye ezithile esikholwa ukuthi zingakusiza.
imizwa evamile
Eminye imizwa evamile ngemva kwamaholide kaKhisimusi iyasivimbela bhekana nokubuyela esimisweni ku-100%. Ukuzikhomba nokuqaphela imvelaphi yazo kuyisihluthulelo sokwazi ukuthi zingaphathwa kanjani. Lezi ezinye ezivame kakhulu:
- I-Nostalgia nokudabuka. UKhisimusi yisikhathi lapho sivame ukubheka emuva futhi sikhumbule abantu abangasekho. Izinkumbulo ezingasenza sizizwe sifiphele futhi sidabuke, kodwa lokho akukubi ngempela. Yisikhathi futhi lapho sibheka lokho esihlangabezane nakho onyakeni odlule; uguquko olungasenza sibone ukuthi asikho lapho besifuna ukuba khona. Ingabe uzizwa uhlanganiswa nakho?
- Ukuba necala. Kungani ngisebenzise imali engaka? Kungani ngibuyela entweni efanayo unyaka nonyaka? Awazi ukuthi ungayibeka kanjani imingcele? Uma uzibuza le mibuzo, kungenxa yokuthi uzizwa unecala ngezinqumo ozenze ngoKhisimusi odlule.
- Ukukhungatheka. "Ngiphuma endleleni yami ngenxa yabanye futhi akekho ongenzela ...», "Ngihlala nginguye onakekela yonke into... »Ngezinye izikhathi icala elishiwo ngenhla lihlangene nokukhungatheka kokuzwa ukuthi thina sisodwa kulokhu, ukuthi singamukeli ngendlela esinikela ngayo
Ungawaphatha kanjani
Le mizwelo evamile ngemva kukaKhisimusi ayisisindi sonke ngendlela efanayo, futhi ayenzi njalo. Kodwa uma lokho kwenzeka futhi kusivimbele ukuthi siye phambili kuyadingeka ukuthi kuthathwe izinyathelo ngalolu daba futhi kuthathwe isinyathelo. Okokuqala kunikeza imizwa indawo futhi okwesibili ukuziphendulela ngayo. Kodwa kanjani?
- Nika indawo imizwa. UMasingana kungaba yinyanga enzima. Ukubuyela emsebenzini kanye nemithwalo yemfanelo kungasicindezela uma kuhlotshaniswa neminye imizwelo engemihle. Futhi isihluthulelo sokubhekana nakho ukuqaphela lokhu futhi wamukele ukuthi uJanuwari uyinyanga yokuthola imithwalo yemfanelo emisha. Khohlwa labo "kufanele" izinsuku ezimbalwa futhi ugxile kulokho osekuwumkhuba wakho kakade.
- Yakha isimiso esithengekayo. Ukuba nesimiso kusisiza ukuba sizuze ukuzinikela okukhulu emisebenzini yethu yasekhaya. Kodwa-ke, lo mkhuba akumele uthengeke kuphela kodwa futhi uhlanganise nomsebenzi othile omnandi ukuze wenze uJanuwari akwazi ukubekezeleleka. Lokhu kwakamuva kuyadingeka ukuze uma kwenzeka uzwa sengathi usenza into efanayo ngemuva konyaka kukhiqize ukukhungatheka, ukwazi ukulwa nakho.
- Lawula izinhloso ezingenakwenzeka. Bazama njalo ukusithengisela imishwana yohlobo: "noma ubani ofuna angakwazi", "umzamo uhlala unikeza imiphumela"... okusenza sizizwe sinecala ngalokho esingakuzuzi. Khohlwa ngabo! Lungisa imigomo nezinjongo zakho ukuze zibe ngokoqobo esimweni sakho kanye nezimo zakho. Futhi uhlukanise lezo ezidinga umzamo owengeziwe zibe yizinjongo ezincane ongazibophezela ngamunye ngamunye. Khetha imigomo esho okuthile kuwe futhi ukhohlwe "kufanele", "bangitshele ukuthi kuzoba lula ..." njalonjalo.
- sebenza ukuze wehluke. Futhi uma ucabanga ukujabulela uKhisimusi ohlukile phakathi kwezinhloso zakho? Yini ekucasula kakhulu ngabo? Cabanga ngakho unyaka wonke, hhayi manje, futhi uthole ukuthi yiziphi izinto ofuna ukuzishintsha nokuthi yini ozoyishintsha. Kungase kukusize uhlele uhlelo lokusebenzisa imali, ushintshe uhlobo lwezipho oziphayo, noma uyeke ngisho nokulalela izimiso zomphakathi ezenza isimo sibe sibi nakakhulu.
Ungazibeki imigomo ongeke ukwazi ukuyifeza noma uziphoqe ukuthi uphile. Ungazikhohlisi. Zama ukuphatha inyanga kaJanuwari ngendlela engcono kakhulu futhi uqhubekele phambili unyaka wonke ukuze ugweme ukudabuka nokukhungatheka okungaka ngonyaka ozayo.