Ukuthola umlingani ophelele kuyinto etholwa yilowo nalowo muntu omdala empilweni yakhe yonke. Ukwazi ukuhlanganyela nomunye umuntu amaphrojekthi ahlukene nothando nokuthandwa, kuyinto noma yimuphi umuntu omdala ayiphupha ngasikhathi sinye ayifunayo. Uma kutholakala uthando olunjalo, kuyinto ejwayelekile ukuthi ekuqaleni yonke into iyabukeka futhi kuhlale kucatshangwa ukuthi izithandani ziphelele futhi ziyimpilo. Kodwa-ke, kuyinto ejwayelekile ukuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, izinkinga ziqala ukuvela futhi ukungabaza ngobudlelwano obushiwo kubonakale kakhulu.
Akulula nakancane ukugcina ukuhlangana okuhle nabashadile, ikakhulukazi lapho izinkinga ezahlukahlukene ziqala ukuvela ezithinta ngqo ubudlelwano. Kulezi zimo, kubalulekile ukuthi ufune usizo bese uzama ngazo zonke izindlela ukonga ubudlelwano esesikhulume ngenhla. Lukwelashwa kwengqondo kuyindlela yokuxazulula izinkinga ezahlukahlukene futhi uphulukise lo mbhangqwana ngangokunokwenzeka. Esihlokweni esilandelayo sizokhuluma ngamacala lapho umbhangqwana kufanele uye ekwelashweni kwengqondo.
Ngabe i-psychotherapy isebenza nini?
Kujwayelekile impela ukuthi kunoma yibuphi ubudlelwane eminyakeni edlule, kuqubuka izingxabano ezithile phakathi kwamaqembu, lokho kuvame ukuxazululwa ngokuhlanganyela. Kodwa-ke, kwesinye isikhathi izimpi ziba zimbi kakhulu ngenxa yokushoda kokuxhumana kwabashadikazi noma ukuba khona kokuziqhenya. Uma izingxabano ezinjalo zinganqandeki, kungenzeka ukuthi ubuhlobo bonakaliswe kakhulu.
Ezimweni ezinjalo, kungakuhle ukuthi uzibeke ezandleni zikachwepheshe omuhle. I-Psychotherapy iyindlela yokwenza ukuthi izithandani zilalelane futhi sinciphise zonke izingxabano eziqubuka usuku nosuku. Ngenxa yokwelashwa kwengqondo, imibhangqwana eminingi iyakwazi ukuxazulula zonke izinkinga zayo futhi ibe nempilo.
Kuziphi izimo lapho kufanele uye ekwelashweni kwengqondo
Kunamacala amaningi lapho kulula futhi kunconywa ukuthi abashadile baye ekwelashweni kwengqondo:
- Izithandani zivame ukwenza izingxabano futhi zilwe nomkhuba. Lezi zingxabano zingaba ngokomzimba noma ngokomzwelo ngokwemvelo.
- Ubukhona besikhwele se-pathological kwenye yezingxenye zobudlelwano.
- Kube khona ukungathembeki okuthile nganoma yiziphi izingxenye zombhangqwana.
- Ukuxhumana phakathi kwalaba bashadikazi kulahlekile ngokuphelele, okusho ukuthi izingxabano nokuphikisana kuya ngokuya kujwayelekile.
- Ukuya ocansini nothandekayo kuba yinto engagculisi futhi imvamisa yabo incipha ngokweqile.
- Kunobunzima obukhulu uma kukhulunywa ngokwazi ukufundisa kahle izingane.
Ngamafuphi, lonke usizo lincane uma uzama ukusindisa ubuhlobo obuthile. Kwesinye isikhathi izingxabano nezingxabano kuba yinto ejwayelekile futhi kungabeka engcupheni ukuqhubeka kwezithandani. Kulezi zimo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzibeka ezandleni zikachwepheshe owaziyo ukuthi angazisingatha kanjani izinkinga ezinjalo. I-Psychotherapy iphelele uma kukhulunywa ngokuxazulula izingxabano ezinjalo nokuphatha ukuqinisa izibopho zobudlelwano.