Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi neminyaka, kujwayelekile ukuthi uthando luguquke futhi kungafani nasekuqaleni kobudlelwano. Ukuhamba kweminyaka kuthinta isici esingokomzimba nesingokomzwelo sabantu, kuguqula ubudlelwano. Ngakho-ke uthando luyaqhubeka lukhona nakuba ngendlela ehlukile kunalokho okwakuyikho phakathi neminyaka yokuqala yobuhlobo.
Esihlokweni esilandelayo sizokutshela ukuthi isikhathi siluthinta kanjani uthando nobudlelwano.
Ukuhamba kwesikhathi kanye nokuguqulwa kobudlelwano bababhangqwana
Akungabazeki ukuthi ukuhamba kweminyaka kuzoguqula noma yibuphi ubuhlobo. Kuvamile ukuthi phakathi neminyaka yobusha uthando lushube kakhulu, lunobuthi futhi alunampilo. Ngokuhamba kweminyaka, uthando luvuthwa kakhulu futhi lunempilo kuzo zonke izici. Nakuba indlela yokuzwa uthando ishintsha futhi ishintsha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ingqikithi ngokwayo isekhona, ikakhulukazi kulawo mabhangqwana azibheka enempilo.
Izigaba ezintathu zothando ngokwesikhathi esedlule
Ebudlelwaneni obuthathwa njengobunempilo, izigaba ezintathu noma izigaba zingahlukaniswa: elokuthatheka, uthando lothando nothando oluvuthiwe.
isigaba sokuthatheka
Lesi sigaba sothando sibonakala ngentshiseko abantu bobabili abazizwayo kanye nokuthuthukisa zonke izici ezinhle zabashadikazi. Ucansi lukhona impela kulesi sigaba ngoba kunokwanda kwamahomoni. Lolu hlobo lomuzwa uma kuziwa othandweni alukwazi ukubekezelelwa ngokuqhubekayo, ngakho kuvamile ukuthi lunciphe ngokuhamba kweminyaka.
isigaba sothando lothando
Kulesi sigaba, uthando nothando kusekhona, nakuba ngendlela eqaphela kakhulu. Umbhangqwana wamukelwa njengoba unjalo, kokubili ngobuhle babo kanye namaphutha abo. Kulesi sigaba kufanele kube nokuxhumana okuhle nabashadikazi kanye nezindinganiso ezibalulekile njengoba kufanele kube khona inhlonipho noma ukwethembana. Izinkinga ziyavela futhi abathintekayo kumele basizane ukuze bazixazulule ngendlela engcono kakhulu. Kulesi sigaba, imibhangqwana eminingi inquma ukuqeda ubudlelwano njengoba ingakwazi ukuxazulula lezi zinkinga, okubangela izingxabano nokulwa okuqhubekayo.
isigaba sothando oluvuthiwe
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi neminyaka uthando luvuthwa. Umbhangqwana uyakwazi ukuxazulula izinkinga ezihlukene ndawonye. Uthando olukhululekile lapho ukwethembana nokuhlonipha omunye umuntu kubusa ngaphezu kwakho konke. Ingozi enkulu yothando kulolu hlobo lombhangqwana ukuwela ku-monotony ecisha ilangabi elishiwo. Yingakho kubalulekile ukuyigcina futhi uqhubeke nobudlelwano obuhle naphezu kokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Ngamafuphi, kujwayelekile ukuthi uthando alufani ekuqaleni kobudlelwane njengoba kwenzeka uma usuneminyaka neminyaka. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi uthando luvuthwa kakhulu futhi amaqembu anika ukubaluleka okwengeziwe ezintweni ezifana nenhlonipho, ukubekezelelana noma ukwethembana. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, othandweni lwentsha, inkanuko nobulili kunokubaluleka kwangempela nokukhethekile. Into ebalulekile kunoma yikuphi ukudala isibopho esihle nomunye umuntu lapho behlonishwa khona futhi lapho uthando lunempilo futhi lukhululekile ngangokunokwenzeka.