Akuyona into elula ukujwayela ukubona ukuthi awusazizwa ngendlela efanayo ngomuntu omthandayo. Ukuthatha isinyathelo sokuqeda ubudlelwano kuyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu, ikakhulukazi ngenxa yomonakalo ongadalwa umbhangqwana. Akuyona into okufanele yenziwe kalula futhi edinga isikhathi sokuzindla.
Esihlokweni esilandelayo sizokutshela okufanele ukwenze nokuthi wenze kanjani uma kwenzeka uphelelwe uthando nomlingani wakho.
Izimpawu ezikhombisa ukuthi uthando seluphelile
- Kukhona ukuhlukana ngokomzwelo kwabashadile, okusho ukuthi ufuna ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi nabangani noma nomndeni.
- Uhlala ucabanga noma uphupha ngoshintsho olukhulu empilweni yakho. Umbhangqwana awuveli ezinhlelweni zesikhathi esizayo ezishiwo ngenhla.
- Kunokuntuleka okukhulu kogqozi mayelana nobudlelwano bezithandani.
- uncamela ukuba wedwa ukwabelana ngezikhathi ezihlukahlukene zosuku nombhangqwana.
Okufanele ukwenze uma ungasamthandi umlingani wakho
- Kubalulekile ukuhlala nomuntu oseduze futhi uveze imizwa. Ukukhuluma ngakho nomngane noma ilungu lomndeni kusiza ukuthatha isinyathelo sokuqeda ubuhlobo.
- Sonke isenzo sinomphumela waso. Ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuzindla ngendaba futhi uhlole izinketho ezahlukene ezizonikezwa ngemva kokuhlukana nothandekayo.
- Kuyancomeka ukuthi kuhlale phansi nabashadikazi kukhulunywe ngakho njengabantu abadala. Ngaphezu kokukwazi ukuveza konke okuzwayo, ukwazi ukuthi umlalela kanjani umlingani wakho kubaluleke kakhulu. Ukukhulumisana okuhle kusiza ukubhekana kangcono nokuhlukana okungenakugwenywa.
- Akudingekile ukuhlehlisa isinqumo kusenesikhathi ngoba ngale ndlela kuyogwenywa ukuhlupheka okuthile phakathi kwabashadile. Lesi sinqumo akufanele sinwetshwe ngaphezu kwalokho okudingekile futhi sibhekane nendaba ngobuqotho.
Amaphutha okufanele uwagweme lapho ulahlekelwa uthando kumlingani wakho
- Ubekezelele ubudlelwano ngoba usaba ukuba wedwa. Isizungu singaba sikhulu kakhulu ukuba eduze nomuntu ongasazizwa lutho kuye.
- Ukuzizwa unecala futhi unomthwalo wemfanelo wenjabulo yombhangqwana. Lokhu kusho ukuthi izithandani azihlukani, nakuba uthando lungasekho. Omunye unelungelo lokwazi ukuthi kukhona ukuntula okusobala kothando nokuthi asikho isidingo sokuqhubeka nobudlelwano.
- Ukungasithathi isinyathelo nokuqhubeka nobudlelwano ngenxa yokuba khona kokukhathazeka okuthile kukho. Akusizi ukuqhubeka nabashadile uma uthando lubonakala ngokungabi bikho.
Ngamafuphi, Ukuphuma othandweni nomlingani wakho akusona isidlo esimnandi kunoma ubani. Nokho, naphezu kokuba isikhathi esinzima ngempela, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi ukuthatha isinyathelo ukuqeda ubuhlobo. Kufanele uchithe isikhathi nawe futhi wazi ukuthi ungayilalela kanjani imizwa ehlukene ngaphambi kokukhetha ukuqeda ubuhlobo.