Ubudlelwano buyinto eyinkimbinkimbi, enhle, enengcindezi, ethokozisayo, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ekhathaza impilo. Izinto ebudlelwaneni zingahamba kahle futhi kahle. Noma, izinto ebudlelwaneni zingashuba, zihambe kancane, kepha zihlale zilungile. Kodwa-ke, ubudlelwano bungaba nengcindezi, bube lusizi, futhi bukhathazeke ngokushesha okukhulu.
Ungacabanga ukuthi ubudlelwano bakho bunedethi yokuphelelwa yisikhathi. Kodwa-ke, abantu abaningi bafinyelela kuleso sigaba ngoba impilo iyenzeka, kukhona izingcindezi emsebenzini, izinkinga zomndeni, izinkinga zempilo noma izinkinga zobudlelwano. Uhlu alupheli ngokwezobuchwepheshe, ngakho-ke noma yini eyenzekayo, kungenzeka ufike kulelo phuzu.
Uma uqaphele ukuthi umlingani wakho wenza okuhlukile, musa ukuma uzimele, cabanga ukuthi yini ongayenza ukuze ukungezwani kungabuqedi ubudlelwano oqale nabo ngomdlandla ongaka.
Thola ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze
Ukwazi okufanele ukwenze lapho umlingani wakho eqala ukwenza okuhlukile kunzima. Noma imuphi umuzwa owuzwayo lapho lokhu kwenzeka uvamile. Kodwa-ke, ungangezi ukuzizwa unamahloni kulengxube. Kujwayelekile ukuthi ungazi ukuthi wenzeni. Ngakho-ke noma yini oyenzayo, ungazizwa unamahloni, asikho isizathu sokwenza.
Cabanga ngale ndlela, uma wenza okuhluke ngokuphelele, uzophendula kokuthile okuhlale kusebenza futhi kukufanele njengoba kunethezekile futhi kuphumule. Noma uzophendula inqubo engalindelekile. Noma kunjalo, Kufanele uqiniseke ukuthi lokho okukhethayo kungcono kakhulu kuwe, kumlingani wakho, nakubudlelwano.
Yinike isikhala
Noma ngabe kubonakala sengathi ubudlelwane bakho buyabhidlika, buphela, noma ukuthi umlingani wakho akakudingi ... Udinga ukumnika isikhala. Noma kunjalo, kufanele ukwenze kahle lokhu. Kusafanele uthumele umbhalo ngezikhathi ezithile othi "Ngiyakuthanda," "Ngiyakukhumbula," "Ngiyethemba ukahle," noma "Ngilapha uma usukulungele ukukhuluma." Ngaphezu kwalokho, futhi udinga ukumbona, ukumgona futhi umkhombise ukuthi uyakhathala nokuthi ukhathazekile.
Isikhala singaba yinto enhle futhi sizovumela umlingani wakho ukuthi asule ikhanda lakhe. Noma kunjalo, kungenza izinto zibe zimbi kakhulu. Yilapho-ke lapho kufanele ubheke ukuthi kwenzekani ebudlelwaneni bakho nasempilweni onayo, ukubona ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze, ngoba umazi kangcono.
Lokho ukuxhumana akusweleki
Lokhu kungenzeka kuyindlela engcono kakhulu ongayisebenzisa lapho umlingani wakho enza okuhluke ngokuphelele. Noma umlingani wakho elahle ifoni yakhe kwenye indawo futhi engakuthumeli imiyalezo noma ekugwema. Kumele ubhekane nabo ngendlela emnandi nenothando.
Ngokwenza lokhu, uzovula isiteshi sokuxhumana, naso, izokunxusa futhi kube yiyona nto oqhutshwa ngayo umlingani wakho ekuchazeni ukuthi kwenzekani. Lapho usukwenzile lokhu, kufanele ube nokuqonda futhi ubuye ukhulume ngemicabango nemizwa yakho ngendlela abekade enza ngayo nokuthi uzizwa kanjani. Kumele futhi umkhumbuze ukuthi uyamthanda nokuthi uma esakuthanda, ungalwa ukuze uthuthukise ubudlelwano bakho.
Khumbula… Uma kusekhona uthando, likhona ithemba!