Ubudlelwano kufanele busekelwe ngaso sonke isikhathi, othandweni phakathi kwabantu bobabili nasekufuneni injabulo. Noma yini engaphandle kwale mingcele ingathathwa njengobudlelwano obunobuthi, okumele kugwenywe futhi kubhekwane nabo. Kulokho okubizwa ngokuthi yi-bonding nge-trauma, alukho uthando noma uthando noma yini futhi ngaphandle kwalokhu, umuntu ohlukunyezwayo akakwazi ukwephula isibopho esinjalo nomuntu obalimazayo.
Isimo sokuthembela sikhulu kakhulu, ukuthi umuntu ohluphekayo akakwazi ukubona nganoma yisiphi isikhathi ubuthi obubandakanya lobu budlelwano. Esihlokweni esilandelayo, sizokhuluma ngokuhlangana ngenxa yokuhlukumezeka nokuthi yini okufanele yenziwe ukuze sikuqede.
Yini engaqondwa ngokubopha ukuhlukumezeka
Luhlobo lwebhondi lapho ukuhanjiswa kwelinye lamaqembu kudlondlobele khona ngokumelene nokusetshenziswa kabi kwamandla ngelinye iqembu. Ukuhanjiswa kulobu budlelwano kucace bha futhi ukuhlukunyezwa kungumkhuba wosuku. Isibopho asinqamuki ngoba ukusondelana ngokomzwelo komuntu ohlukunyeziwe kukhulu kakhulu futhi kunamandla.
Ekuhlanganiseni ngokuhlukumezeka, ingxenye ehlukumezayo nenobuthi ivelele ngokuba yi-narcissistic, ngaphezu kokuba nokuzethemba okuphansi nokuzethemba okuncane. Ubudlelwano obunobuthi obugcwele ngokuphelele lapho uthando lubonakala khona ngokungabikho kwalo, yingakho kubalulekile ukuthi buphele ngokushesha okukhulu.
Okufanele ukwenze lapho ubhekene nesibopho sokuhlukumezeka
Esinye sezici zalolu hlobo lwe-bond ukuthi umhlukumezi umhlukanisa umuntu obekiwe emndenini wakhe nakubangane bakhe. Ngale ndlela kulula kakhulu ukuphatha nokunciphisa umlingani wakho. Ukuthola ukwesekwa okuthile kubalulekile futhi kubalulekile ekuqedeni lolu hlobo lwezibopho ezinobuthi. Kunoma ikuphi, uma kukhulunywa ngokwenza ikhefu elihlanzekile ngokubopha abahlukumezekile, kuyalulekwa ukulandela uchungechunge lweziqondiso ezicace bha:
- Shiya ubuhlobo ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka futhi uhlukane nomhlukumezi.
- Isihloko kufanele sazi ngaso sonke isikhathi, ukuthi ubudlelwano akubo bunobuthi nokuthi uhlukunyezwa mihla namalanga.
- Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba nochungechunge lwabantu ozokwazi ukukhuluma nabo futhi wabelane ngemizwa yonke ekhona. Usizo lwangaphandle luyisihluthulelo lapho uvalelisa izithandani futhi ukwazi ukunqamula leso sibopho.
- Usizo lochwepheshe omuhle lubalulekile uma kukhulunywa ngokwakha kabusha impilo futhi. Ngenxa yokwelashwa, umuntu ozithobayo uyakwazi ukuphinde azizwe enenani eligcwele futhi enamandla, into ebalulekile lapho uqhubekela phambili nempilo yakho entsha.
Ekugcineni, kubalulekile ukuqeda ubudlelwano lapho kungekho thando nenjabulo kugqama ngokungabikho kwabo. Akunakwenzeka ukuvumela ukuthi kwabashadikazi ukusetshenziswa kabi kwamandla nemizwelo kunqobe inhlonipho nothando.