I-Othello syndrome ibhekisela kumlingiswa emdlalweni womlobi waseNgilandi uShakespeare. Lo mlingiswa ubhekene nokuhlushwa umona wezifo, okumenza acabange ngaso sonke isikhathi ngokungathembeki komkakhe. Njengoba kulindelwe, umuntu onalesi sifo ubangela ukuthi ubudlelwane babo buzophela futhi nokuhlala phakathi kwabantu bobabili akunakuma.
Le yinkinga yangempela kunoma yimuphi umbhangqwana njengoba ubuhlobo buba yingozi. Esihlokweni esilandelayo sizokhuluma kabanzi ngalolu hlobo lwesifo nokuthi sibathinta kanjani kabi laba abashadayo.
Yini i-Othello syndrome ngenxa ye-
Kuyacaca ukuthi umuntu ophethwe i-Othello syndrome unokuthinteka okuthile ezingeni lomqondo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kukhona uchungechunge lwezizathu noma izimbangela ofika kuzo ukuhlupheka ngezinhlobo ezinjalo zomona: ukuzethemba okuphansi, ukuncika okukhulu ngokomzwelo kumlingani nokwesaba ngokweqile ukushiywa othandekayo futhi ushiywe wedwa.
Umuntu onalolu hlobo lomona angahlupheka nochungechunge lwezifo ezinhlobonhlobo njengoba kungaba njalo ngesifo sokucindezela ngokweqile noma uhlobo oluthile lokuphazamiseka kohlobo oluthile. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kucatshangwa nokuthi umona onjalo ungabangelwa ukusetshenziswa ngokweqile kwezinto eziyingozi nezilimazayo emzimbeni njengotshwala noma izidakamizwa.
Izimpawu ze-Othello syndrome
Njengoba sesishilo ngenhla, umuntu ophethwe yilesi sifo umhawu wezifo futhi ongenampilo womlingani wakhe. Lolu hlobo lomhawu luzoba nezici ezintathu ezihlukile:
- Asikho isizathu sangempela kungani kufanele kuvezwe umona onje.
- Ukusola ngokweqile nokwedlulele komlingani.
- Ukusabela akunangqondo ngokuphelele futhi okungenangqondo.
Ngokuqondene nezimpawu zomuntu onomona, kufanele kuqokonyiswe okulandelayo:
- Kunokulawula okweqile komlingani wakho. Ucabanga ukuthi akathembeki ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi lokhu kumenza ukuthi ahlale eqaphile.
- Awuyihloniphi imfihlo nesikhala somlingani wakho. Kufanele wazi ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthi umlingani wakho wenzani. Lokhu kunomthelela omubi ebudlelwaneni babo bezenhlalo.
- Inhlamba nokuhayiza sekukhanya emini. Konke lokhu kuholela odlameni olungaba ngokomzimba noma ngengqondo.
- Ayikho indawo yemizwa emihle noma imizwa. Kujwayelekile ukuthi umuntu onomona athukuthele agane unwabu usuku lonke. Akajabuli nomlingani wakhe, ngokuba nobudlelwano obuncike kakhulu.
Ngamafuphi, kubalulekile ukwelapha lolu hlobo lwesifo ngokushesha okukhulu. Umuntu onomona udinga usizo lochwepheshe, ukuze amsize abone ukuthi awukwazi ukuba nobudlelwano nomunye umuntu ngendlela enobuthi. Uma umuntu engavumi ukwelashwa noma engakwazi ukunqoba inkinga yomona, ubudlelwano buzophela. Ubudlelwano kufanele bususelwe enhlonelweni nasekuthembekeni okuphelele kwabantu bobabili. Umhawu wokugula awuvunyelwe ebudlelwaneni, ngoba uzogcina ububhubhisile.