Iingcinga ezimbi zinokuvela phantse ngokuzenzekelayo ebomini bethu kodwa ngenxa yoku kunokubangela ukungakhululeki okukhulu, ngakumbi ngokwasengqondweni. Baya kuba nefuthe ngendlela engafanelekanga, njengokuba benjalo, ngoko kulungele ukuhlasela ngokukhawuleza.
Ngenxa yokuba Ukuba asizisombululi, ukuxhalaba okanye ukudandatheka kunokuba yinxalenye yobomi bethu. Ekubeni ngokungakwazi ukuzilawula, iingcamango ezingakhiyo ziya kutsala ezinye iingcamango ezininzi zohlobo olufanayo. Ukuba le yimeko yakho, ungakhathazeki kuba unako ukumelana nabo.
Zeziphi ezona ngcinga zimbi zixhaphakileyo
Yenza umdlalo weemeko
Ukuba kukho into embi eyenzeka kuthi, sisafikelela kokubi. Oko kuthetha ukuba kwi-negative sisenza ukuba ingqondo yethu iqonde ukuba inokuba yinto embi kakhulu. Yiyo loo nto, sikwindawo ephantse yafa. Akufunekanga senze idrama kakhulu, nokuba intsonkothile kwaye ewe bona okulungileyo kuwo wonke umzuzu kuyo yonke imeko, kuba ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kubakho into entle kuyo yonke.
Hlala ucinga ngokugqithisileyo
Okugqithisileyo kusoloko kuthiwa kubi. Ngokuba, kufuneka sifumane ulungelelwano phakathi kwezi zimbini. Kufana nokuthi kumnyama okanye kumhlophe, hayi, kuba kukho isikali esingwevu esisithandayo kakhulu. Kuya kubakho ulungelelwano ekungazivumeli ukuba sithwalwe yiyo yonke into embi kwaye sijonge loo mtha welanga omncinane.
Hlala ubona 'iintlekele'
Kancinane enxulunyaniswa nokulinganisa, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha xa yonke into isigqitha thina sibona ikamva njengentlekele kunye nekhoyo ngoku, yonke into ebekwe phambi kwethu. Ngenxa yoko, siqalisa ukucinga ukuba ayizukuphumelela okanye into esiyenzayo ayiyi kuba sengqiqweni. Ngokuchasene noko! Ukuba akukenzeki, kutheni usilindele? Yenye yeengcinga ezimbi eziya kusichaphazela kakhulu.
Uluvo olukhohlakeleyo malunga nesiqu sakho
Iingcinga ezingakhiyo zikwanxulunyaniswa nokuba nembono engalunganga ngesiqu sakho. Kubonakala ngathi sifuna ukulwa nathi kwaye hayi, kufuneka silwe nezo ngcinga kodwa sinike okona kulungileyo ngenxa yethu ngamnye wethu wahlukile.
Bathanda ukwenza ngokubanzi
Ekubeni kukho into eyenzekayo kuthi rhoqo, ngokuqhelekileyo ngokubanzi ngokungathi izakwenzeka kuthi njengesiqhelo. Kodwa hayi, ukuba kukho into eyenzekayo kuthi akunyanzelekanga ukuba iphindaphindwe kwaye ukuba isemandleni ethu, ngcono kakhulu kuba siya kwenza konke okusemandleni ethu ukuze ingenzeki. Apho kuya kufuneka silwe neengcinga ezingakhiyo ngamandla ethu onke.
Ukutyhola wena ngayo yonke into
Nangona ngamanye amaxesha sinetyala ngento ethile, asifanele sizibeke ityala ngayo yonke into. Kodwa kuyinyani ukuba njengengcinga engalunganga yenye yezona zinto zixhaphakileyo. Asizithembi kwaye ngenxa yoko sicinga ukuba yonke into embi isijikelezile.
Indlela yokulawula nokuphepha iingcinga ezingalunganga
Inyaniso kukuba akukho nto ilula ukuyiphepha kodwa siyakwazi ukubalawula. Nokuba isibiza kancinci, iya kusifanela. Kuhlala kusithiwa xa ezi ngcinga zifika ezingqondweni zethu, kuhle ukuba sizibhale phantsi. Ngenxa yokuba mhlawumbi xa bedlula entloko yethu banokubonakala bebi kakhulu kwaye xa sele bebhaliwe kwaye bahlalutye abayi kuba kakhulu.
Kwelinye icala, kufuneka sizifunde kancinci, bahlalutye ukuba ngokwenene babi ngolo hlobo okanye banaso na isisombululo. Kuba ukuba bayakwenza, asimele sizikhathaze kangako. Ukongezelela, kufanele kutshiwo ukuba uninzi luya kwenjenjalo. Ukukwazi ukuzincothula neengcambu, kukuzijika. Zama ukufumana okulungileyo, isisombululo kunye ne-positivity. Ukutshintsha iimbono lelinye lamacebiso angcono esinokuwasebenzisa. Xa ezi ntlobo zeengcinga ziphindaphinda, kungenxa yokuba kukho enye into emva kwabo, ngoko lixesha lokubheja ekufumaneni isisombululo kwaye mhlawumbi yingcali enegama lokugqibela.