Enye yeengxaki eziqhelekileyo neziqhelekileyo ngaphakathi kwesi sibini, Kuyinyani yokungaziva uxabisekile kwaphela ngumntu omthandayo. Oku kuqhelekile kwaye nangona umntu ongathathelwa ntweni enokuziva onwabile kwiinkalo ezininzi zobomi bakhe, ukungabikho koxabiso kwicala leqabane lakhe kuthetha ukuba olu lonwabo aluzalisekanga.
Kwinqaku elilandelayo sikubonisa ezinye zezizathu zokuba umntu angaziva ezixabisekile kwiqabane lakhe kwaye ukuba wenzeni ngayo.
Izizathu zokuba iqabane lingaxatyiswanga
Zininzi izizathu okanye izizathu zokuba kutheni umntu enokuziva engaxabisekanga kwiqabane lakhe:
- Kukho ukunqongophala kwe ukuzithemba nentlonipho
- Inzondo phakathi kwaba bobabini iyaqhubeka kwaye iimfazwe zisekukhanyeni kwemini
- Kunzima kubo ukuba baxolise ngempazamo abayenzileyo kwaye ikratshi kuqala
- Kukho ukunqongophala okucacileyo nokucacileyo konxibelelwano echaphazela kakubi esi sibini
- Akukho zibonakaliso zothando imini yonke
Ngenxa yoku, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba ubudlelwane abuhambi kakuhle kwaphela kwaye omnye umntu akaxatyiswanga. Esi sibini siqhekeka kancinci kancinci kwaye akukho xesha lokuxabisa iqabane.
Indlela yokwenza ukuba iqabane lakho alixabisekanga kuwe
Ukuba uqaphela indlela iqabane lakho elingakuxabisi ngayo okwenzayo mihla le, kubalulekile ukuhlala phantsi ubonakalise imeko yobudlelwane. Ukusuka apha, kulungile ukuba ulandele ezi zikhokelo okanye iingcebiso zilandelayo:
- Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenzile kukucinga ngokuzithemba kwakho kwaye qala ngokwazi ukuba uyakwazi ukuzivavanya.
- Kubalulekile ukuqala ukucinga ngawe kwaye ube nexesha lokwenza into oyithandayo. Akukho mfuneko yokuba uphile iiyure ezingama-24 ngosuku kufutshane neqabane lakho.
- Akulunganga ukugwinya yonke into kwaye ungaxeleli mntu. Kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukukhupha iimvakalelo ezahlukeneyo kunye neemvakalelo.
- Unxibelelwano neqabane lakho kubalulekile Kwaye ukuba kukho into oziva iphosakele ngawe, kuya kufuneka uyixoxe ngoxolo nelinye ilungu lesibini.
- Kwimeko yokuziva ungaxatyiswanga sisibini ngamaxesha onke, lixesha lokuba uthathe isigqibo kwaye kuvavanye ukuba kufanelekile na ukuqhubeka nolwalamano.
Funa uncedo lweengcali
Ngaphambi kokuthatha naliphi na inyathelo elinokuthi licace gca, kuyacetyiswa ukuba uye kwingcali elungileyo eyaziyo ukusombulula ingxaki enjalo. Umgqirha kufuneka ahlalutye imeko ngokweenkcukacha kwaye ukusuka apha, ukucebisa umntu ongaziva ezixabisekile ngeyona ndlela ifanelekileyo. Kungenzeka ukuba ubudlelwane bunetyhefu kwaye abufanelanga ukuqhubeka nabo. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba umntu onwabile kwaye akunamsebenzi ukuqhubeka nesibini ukuba olo lonwabo alufiki. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba akukho mntu ubotshelelwe komnye umntu ukuze onwabe.Ulonwabo lwenene kunye nokuphila kakuhle kuya kuhlala ngokwakho, ngaphandle kwesidingo sokuba neqabane.