Uvelwano lelinye lamaxabiso abaluleke kakhulu emntwini. Sisikhundla ekudala sinaso ukusukela ebuntwaneni kwaye sifuna ukukhula okuthile ukuze sikwazi ukufunyanwa kwaye sisetyenziswe ngokupheleleyo.
Kwinqaku elilandelayo siza kukuxelela ukuba uvela kweliphi ixesha uvelwano kwaye ikhula njani kule minyaka idlulileyo.
Uvelwano ebantwaneni
Uvelwano yinto engokwemvelo kuye nawuphina umntu, nangona ifuna ukukhula ukuze kuthathwe amanyathelo. Kubandakanya ukukwazi ukuzibeka ezicathulweni zabanye abantu kwaye uzive zonke iimvakalelo zabo.
Abazali kufuneka bancede olu luvelwano lukhule ebantwaneni babo kwaye ngale ndlela baphucule ubudlelwane bezentlalo babantwana. Ngamaxesha onke abazali mababe ngumzekelo kubantwana babo kwaye shumayela ngovelwano nanini na unakho.
Kukholelwa ukuba abantwana bangaqala ukuba novelwano ukusuka kwiminyaka emithathu okanye emine ubudala, Kulapho ke bazi ngokupheleleyo ukuba zizinto ezizimeleyo ngokubhekisele kwabanye abantwana kunye nabantu.
Uvelwano lukhula njani ebantwaneni
Ukukhula kovelwano ebantwaneni kunezigaba ezine ezicacileyo ezahlukileyo:
- Leyo yaziwa njengovelwano lwehlabathi yile ibinayo kunyaka wokuqala wobomi. Umntwana uyakwazi ukulinganisa iimvakalelo zabanye kwaye azive ngathi zezakhe. Luhlobo lwantlandlolo nolungaphuhliswanga lovelwano.
- Uvelwano lwe-egocentric yinto eyenzeka kwiminyaka emibini ubudala. Umntwana uziva ezimele kwabanye nangona esacinga ukuba kufuneka babelane ngeemvakalelo ngendlela efanayo kunye nokudibana.
- Inqanaba lesithathu apho libhekisa kuphuhliso liyaziwa njengovelwano kwiimvakalelo zabanye. Ungatsho ukuba phantse ibe luvelwano olucacileyo kwaye lwenzeka malunga neminyaka emihlanu okanye emithandathu ubudala. Umntwana sele eyazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba umntu ngamnye uneemvakalelo zakhe kwaye uyakwazi ukwahlula iimvakalelo zakhe kwezabanye.
- Isigaba sokugqibela okanye inqanaba lelona elenza uvelwano lokugqibela. Ihlala ibonakala ekupheleni kwenqanaba lobuntwana kwaye umntwana sele ekwazi ukuzibeka ngokupheleleyo ezihlangwini zabanye abantu.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umntwana akwazi ukukhulisa uvelwano olunje ebuntwaneni. Ngale ndlela kuphela unokuqhubela phambili njengomntu kwaye uchonge iimvakalelo ezahlukeneyo eza kukwenza ube ngumntu ongcono kule minyaka idlulileyo. Njengoko besesitshilo, uvelwano yenye yezona zinto zixabisekileyo emntwini kwaye kuxhomekeke ekubeni umntu aphuhlise ezinye iintlobo zexabiso ezinje ngobuhlobo, uthando okanye intlonipho.
Khumbula ukuba ngumsebenzi wabazali ukukwazi ukunceda umntwana ukuba abe novelwano xa efikelela kubudala obuthile. Oko kuya kukwenza umntu ongcono Kwaye uya kuba nakho ukuseka lonke uhlobo lobudlelwane, nokuba lolosapho okanye abahlobo.