El ukuzithanda Ngamandla endalo iphela asidibanisayo, asomelezayo nathi athi, asivumele sizityebise ngobuhlobo nabanye. Ukuba awuzithembi kakuhle, oko kukuthi, ukuba awuzixabisi, ukuba awukwazi ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zakho, kunzima kakhulu kuthi ukuba nathi sonwabe kumaqabane ethu.
Inqaku elinye elibalulekileyo kufuneka liqatshelwe. Ukuzithanda akungomlinganiso uzinzileyo. Yinto yokwakha ngokwengqondo ethi, nangona iqala ukuzinza ebuntwaneni, itshintshe ngokuhamba kwexesha kwaye emva koko sesichengeni kakhulu kwimeko yethu, kubudlelwane bethu, kuyo yonke into enokuthi, ukuba asizikhuseli kakuhle, inokusenzakalisa. Masithethe namhlanje malunga nobukhulu obusisiseko kubume bethu kunye nokukhula kwethu: uthando lwakho.
Iintsika zokuzithanda
Ukuzithanda kudala kukholwa ukuba kuyafana nekratshi Ukuzingca. Ngamanye amaxesha kukho umbono ombi wentsika eyimfuneko kubungakanani bethu bangaphakathi kunye namandla ethu.
Nabani na ongazithandiyo ufana nonodoli ovumela ukuba athathwe, ongakhuseliyo amalungelo akhe, ongayiqondiyo loo nto ebomini, kufuneka sihlale abalinganiswa abaphambili, kwaye inganeli nje ukuxhasa abadlali beqonga.
Masibone ngoku ukuba zeziphi izinto ezinokusinceda sikhulise ukuzithemba okwaneleyo.
1. Ukuzazi
Ngelixa kuyinyani ukuba ukuthanda kwakho kuyakhula ngaphakathi ebuntwaneni kwaye ihlala ihleli ebusheni, kufuneka siyibone njengoluhlobo lwento engabonakaliyo ekufuneka ikhathalelwe kwaye inakekelwe yonke imihla.
Kwaye enye indlela yokwenza ngayo kukuzazi ngcono, ukuze sazi ukuba yeyiphi imida yethu, kwaye yintoni esichazayo njengabantu nanjengabafazi. Qaphela la manqaku:
- Cacisa malunga nenqanaba lakho amaxabiso, kwaye ngaphakathi kwabo awunakuze uvume ukuncama.
- Yazi ukuba yintoni ekonwabisayo, onayo ngoku, kunye nento onokuyenza ukufezekisa iinjongo zakho. Izicwangciso zexesha elifutshane kunye nexesha elide ziyasichaza, kunye namaphupha ethu.
- Yintoni le ungenakukwazi ukuyenza vumela ukhe wena? Yintoni eya kunyhasha amalungelo akho? Yintoni eyakuthinteleyo ekuqhubeleni phambili kwikhondo lakho lomsebenzi? Cinga ngayo.
2. Sukukutyeshela ukukhula kwakho
Uthando lwakho lokuzibona kufuneka luzibone luluncedo kwaye lukwazi ukufezekisa izinto. Yiyo loo nto ukukhula kwakho kubaluleke kangaka.
Ukuzibona uzalisekisiwe emsebenzini nangokobuqu, ukuba nezinto ozithandayo, zakho ubuhlobo, Ukulangazelela ukufezekisa izinto ezingakumbi kusenza ukuzithemba kwethu yonke imihla, ungakulibali.
3. Zive wonwabile ngesiqu sakho
Xa uzijonga esipilini, uziva ntoni? Ngaba wanelisekile wento onayo, wento oyifezekisileyo? Ngaba uyaziqhenya ngalo mfazi ubonakaliswayo phambi kwakho?
Ukuba ubona ulize ngaphezu kwezinto onokuzingca ngazo, zibuze ukuba ungenza ntoni ukuze uzive ungcono. Kuya kufuneka uthande umfazi esipilini, kuba khumbula, ukuzithanda akungokuzingca. Yintambo ekugcinayo, likhandlela elikunika umoya kwaye ngamandla atyhala intliziyo yakho.
Imikhwa etshabalalisa uthando lwakho
1. Nikela ingqalelo koko abanye bakuthethayo
Sukwenza impazamo yokungawahoyi loo magama angathandekiyo okanye ahlazisayo athethwa ngabanye abantu kuwe. Awuyiyo lo nto, awulilo igwala, awubuthathaka, kwaye ayingomntu oza kuthathwa ngumdlalo wabanye.
Ukuba unokuzithemba okuhle, uyazi kakuhle ukuba unjani kwaye ufanelekile, ke ngoko nakuphi na ukungafaneleki akukho nto ngaphandle komoya ukuwuyeka uhambe.
Ukuba uqala ukuthathela ingqalelo izinto abanokukuxelela zona, ukuba uyavumelana ngalo lonke ixesha usapho lwakho okanye iqabane lakho lithetha into ngawe engalinganiyo nenyani, ekugqibeleni uya kuba ngumntu ongenguye. Kwaye yinto ongafanele uyivumele.
2. Musa ukuzenza ixhoba
Sukuba nosizi, sukuzibonakalisa ithambile okanye udakumbile, njengomfazi ozinikelayo ukuze abanye bamhoye bamqonde.
Ukuba ufuna ukufezekisa into, zama ukuyifeza ngokwakho, kuba akukho mntu ufezekisa nantoni na ngokuba lixhoba. Ukunika iintlungu ayisosicwangciso silungileyo kwaye akuchazi. Yiphephe, yenza, zikhusele.
3. Musa ukufuna izinto ezingaphaya kwamandla akho
Umele ube sengqiqweni. Ukuba ucebisa izinto ezingaphaya kolawulo lwakho, ukuba ucebisa ngezinto ezingahambelaniyo nezinto onokuthi uzenze, kunye nobuchule bakho, ekuphela kwento onokuyiphumeza kukudana xa ubona ukuba uyasilela.
Lungisa ulindelo lwakho lube yinyani ngaphandle neyakho ngaphakathi. Ngqamanisa imikhosi kunye nokulindelweyo emva koko… Yenze oko!
4. Musa ukungafaneleki
Awusosidenge ngokungahambi kakuhle. Nokuba ndingazi ngokungakhange ndibethe ngalo mbandela. Sonke siyazenza iimpazamo, nangona kunjalo, kukho umlingo wobomi, ekufundeni nganye Impazamo yenziwe.
Ke, ungaze wenze impazamo yokungafaneleki okanye ukuzibeka phantsi. Sonke sihamba ngamaxesha asezantsi anokusenza ukuba sicinge kwaye sihlaziye izinto ezininzi.
Ngendlela efanayo awuvumeli abanye ukuba bakwenzakalise, ungazenzi ngokwakho ngeengcinga ezikwehlwaya.
Zihloniphe, zithande, ziqinisekise ukuba ufanele yonke into oyiphuphayo kwaye ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo, nguwe ophambili kubomi bakho.