Kunokuthiwa ukubanda ngokweemvakalelo kwesi sibini ngoyena nobangela wokuwohloka kobudlelwane obuninzi. Ukuziva unesithukuthezi nangona uneqabane yinto eyingozi kakhulu kulo naluphi na uhlobo lobudlelwane kwaye kubalulekile ukufumana unobangela obangela oko.
Kwinqaku elilandelayo siza kuthetha nawe banzi malunga nokubanda okanye ukuphambuka ngokweemvakalelo phakathi kwesibini kunye ukuba wenze ntoni ukuphepha okufanayo.
Zeziphi izizathu zokubanda ngokweemvakalelo phakathi kwesi sibini
Akufani nokuba umgama onjalo usenzeka kwasekuqaleni kolwalamano okanye oko kwenzeka emva kwexesha elithile. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba umntu omthandayo unobuntu obubandayo kwaye yiyo loo nto umgama unokwenzeka kwinqanaba leemvakalelo. Into ebaluleke ngakumbi xa kubanda kwenzeka emva kweminyaka yokuhlala kunye. Kule meko, kubalulekile ukufumana imbangela yale ngxaki kwaye ufumane isisombululo esona sisisombululo. Emva koko siza kuthetha ngezinye zezizathu zokuba umntu othile angabanda kakhulu kunye neqabane:
- Ukungabikho kothando ngexesha lobuntwana kunokubangela ukuba umntu onombuzo athande ukubanda kunesiqhelo kwaye akakwazi ukubonisa iimvakalelo ezithile. Ukuncamathela akwanelanga kwaye kunqabile kwaye oku kuyaphindwa xa befikelela ebudaleni, nokuba kunye neqabane labo okanye kunye nabantwana babo.
- Ukubanda ngokweemvakalelo kunokubangelwa kukude emntwini ngenjongo yokuzikhusela kumanqanaba aphezulu oxinzelelo okanye ixhala. Ezi ntlobo zokuphazamiseka zikholisa ukwenzeka ngaphakathi kubudlelwane ngokwalo kwaye ekuphela kwendlela yoku kukurhoxa ngokweemvakalelo kwiqabane likabani.
- Ukurhoxa ngokweemvakalelo kweqabane nako kunokubangelwa sisenzo sokuqonda ngokupheleleyo komntu, phambi kokunganeliseki okubangelwa ngumlingane ngokwawo kunye nokulahlekelwa luthando kuye.
Iziphumo zokubanda ngokweemvakalelo phakathi kwesibini
Ukurhoxa ngokweemvakalelo kubudlelwane kunothotho lweziphumo, azilunganga kwikamva elihle lesi sibini sithe:
- Kudalwa umoya wengxwabangxwaba engasixhasiyo kwaphela isibini.
- Imilo neengxabano ziyanda phakathi kobudlelwane.
- Ixhala kunye nokudakumba.
- Ukunqongophala kokuzithemba kunye ukuzijongela phantsi.
- Uphuhliso lwe umona we-pathological.
Zonke ezi zinto zibangela ukuba ubudlelwane bonakaliswe kakhulu kwaye oko kugwetyelwe ukuphela.
Yintoni ekufuneka yenziwe xa sijongana nokubanda ngokweemvakalelo kwesi sibini
Xa kuziwa ekusombululeni le ngxaki, kubalulekile ukuba isibini sikulungele ukugcina ubudlelwane.
- Into yokuqala kukuhlala ecaleni kwesi sibini kwaye uveze imeko. Kubalulekile ukuba wazi ngamaxesha onke ukuba kude kulonakalisa kakhulu ubudlelwane.
- Misela uhlobo oluthile lweenkqubo ezibandakanya ukusondela omnye komnye, mhlawumbi ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokwasemoyeni.
- Ukuya kunyango lwezibini Inokunceda ukusombulula izinto kwaye yomeleze amaqhina eemvakalelo ngakumbi.