Ukugcina ubudlelwane obunempilo kufuneka sazi indlela yokulinganisa i ixesha ngalinye, kunye nalowo uzinikele kwiqabane lethu. Sikunye singonwaba omnye komnye, someleze amaqhina ethu, kwaye sikhule ngemvisiswano. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuba sigcine indawo yethu yobuqu, apho sinokuqhubeka nokukhula ngokobuqu nangobungcali. Kubalulekile, umzekelo, ukuba nesangqa sabahlobo, imisebenzi yethu kunye nezo zithuba zethu ezizakhela ubuqu.
Impazamo edlalwa ngabantu abaninzi kukucinga ukuba ulonwabo lufezekiswa ngaphezu kwako konke ngokuba nolwalamano lweemvakalelo. Ukuba neqabane. Kodwa kufuneka sicace ukuba ulonwabo lokwenene kufuneka luqale ngawe, Ukufezekisa ulungelelwano lomntu ozimeleyo kwabanye. Ngokucacileyo ukuba nolwalamano kusinika ukoneliseka okukhulu ngokweemvakalelo, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba singaweli ekuxhomekekeni, ukucinga ukuba kufuneka sibekhona ngalo lonke ixesha nomnye umntu. Konke oku kunokusenza ukuba siphele sisakha ubudlelwane obunetyhefu, buyingozi kakhulu kuzinzo lwethu.
Ukuphila ngokwasemoyeni kunye nokukhula kwesi sibini
Ungazi izibini ezininzi eziziqhelileyo ukwenza yonke imisebenzi kunye: ukuyokuthenga, ukuya epatini okanye ukuya eholideyini, ukuya kuphunga ikofu ... Kwaye ngumngcipheko ukuqaphela. Ngokwesiqhelo, abo bantu bazntywilisela ngokupheleleyo kubudlelwane, becinga ukuba kuphela koku okuzisa ulonwabo lokwenene, aziguquli ngokwamntu kwaye baphela bekhathazekile.
Kwaye unxunguphalo lomntu lusibangela ukuba sigqibele ngokubonisana. Uxinzelelo, ukucaphuka kunye nomngcipheko wokuphosa izinto ezithile ebusweni bethu zizinto eziqhelekileyo kwezi meko. Ukunyamekela ukukhula kwethu buqu kukwafaka imali kuko impilo-ntle ngokweemvakalelo. Makhe sihlalutye ngokweenkcukacha ukuze siyiqonde ngcono:
1. Esi sibini senziwe zizithuba ezithathu
Kubalulekile ukuba uyithathele ingqalelo. Ubudlelwane benziwa sisithuba esenziwe phakathi kwala malungu mabini, apho singakha khona izikhokelo zethu, imigaqo, amasiko, iingxaki zethu ... siyayazi, kodwa, kukwakhona nendawo yobuqu yeqabane lethu, kunye neyethu.
Ngokwesiqhelo izithuba zobuqu ziyancitshiswa kakhulu ngenxa yenkolelo yentlalo yokuba "Isibini siyayeka ukubakho xa simanyene". Yiyo loo nto abanye bengamkeli ukuba elinye lamalungu, umzekelo, liya eholideyini lodwa, okanye ngeempelaveki bayokuphuma nabahlobo hayi namaqabane abo ...
Kodwa kufuneka sithathele ingqalelo enye into. Ityala lolwalamano apho izibini zityala imali ngakumbi kwiindawo zabucala kunakwinto eqhelekileyo, apho ubunzima, ukungqubana kunye, ekuhambeni kwexesha, uthando luphulukana ngokubanzi.
2. Tyala kulonwabo lwakho lobuqu
Ukonwaba kwethu akuyi kuxhomekeka kuphela kwiqabane lethu. Sukutyala lonke ixesha lakho kunye nemizamo kulwalamano lwakho ushiye iminqweno yakho okanye izinto ozithandayo. Ukuba uyayilandela le ngcinga, ngokuqinisekileyo kuyakufika umhla apho uya kuziva ukhathazekile, xa uziva ulilize kakhulu. Musa ukuzincama ngenxa yesazisi sakho, unganciphisi izithuba zakho ngenxa yale iqabane lakho ngalo lonke ixesha ... konke oku kuya kunciphisa ukuzithemba kwethu, esingaziva sizalisekisiwe. Fumana izithuba zakho, ukonwabele ubuhlobo bakho, umsebenzi wakho, iinkxalabo zakho ngokwasengqondweni ... Kuphephe ukuxhomekeka.
3. Ukonwaba kweqabane lakho, yenye into ephambili.
Sele siyazi ukuba ukuhlakulela ulonwabo lwethu kubalulekile. Kodwa oku akuthethi kuthi konke konke ukuba siyeke ukutyala imali kulwalamano ngokwalo, hayi kwaphela. Njengokuba sinendawo yethu, kufuneka sibavumele babenemisebenzi yabo, izihlobo zabo, nexesha labo. Izithuba zobuqu esiya kuthi kamva simanyane zibe nye, leyo ichaza isibini ngokwaso, apho apho ixesha ekwabelwana ngalo phakathi kwezi zimbini likumgangatho, apho sonwabela sobabini, apho sikwafundana omnye nomnye, sizityebisa kwaye sihlakulele olo lonwabo njengesibini.Ingavakala ngathi ayithandeki kuwe, kodwa ihlala isempilweni njalo ukunqanda ubudlelwane beempawu (apho bobabini banye). Amaqabane apho kungekho namnye kubo onobuhlobo, apho agcina indlela yokuphila eya ngaphakathi ngaphakathi ngelixa ephepha ingaphandle. Ezi ntlobo zokuziphatha zibangela ukuba amalungu aphulukane nawo isazisi sakho.
Kubalulekile ke ngoko ukuba nobabini nihlakulele indawo eniyisebenzeleyo, ukongeza kwi- Imozulu efanelekileyo ngaphakathi kwesi sibini. Ukuba unxibelelwano oluchaphazelekayo olufanelekileyo kunye nokuba nokwenzeka kweendawo zokwabelana kongezwe koku, ubudlelwane buya kuba sempilweni. Kwaye impilo-ntle kunye neemvakalelo, ngakumbi ngakumbi
Ke yenza imigaqo kunye neqabane lakho. Thetha-thethwano kunye nabahlobo bakho, myeke enze olo hambo kunye nabahlobo bakhe. Qhubeka unqwenela ukuphucula emsebenzini wakho, ukugcina izinto ozithandayo, izinto ozithandayo ... ukonwabele ukuzimela kunye nendawo yakho yobuqu, ukuzisa ukukhula kunye nolo lonwabo kubudlelwane bakho ngokunjalo.
Ukuphepha ukuxhomekeka komnye umntu kuya kusithintela ekuweleni kwingxaki ezinokwenzeka ngomso. Khumbula ukuba ubudlelwane abugcinwa kuphela ngothando esivakalelwa ngalo omnye umntu. Unxibelelwano, ukuzibophelela, ukuhlonipha indawo yomnye kwaye ukuququzelela ukukhula komntu kwaye ukonwaba komnye nako kubalulekile kwiintsika.