Enye yezinto ezimbi kubazali kukubona abantwana babo beqhubeka nokulwa. Yinto eqhelekileyo ukuba abazali bakhathazeke malunga nobudlelwane obubi phakathi kwabantakwabo kwaye izinto ziya zisiba mandundu. Ukuba abazalwana bayalwa kuyinto eqhelekileyo kwaye le nto ayifanelanga ukudlula kwimpikiswano elula okanye ukulwa.
Ingxaki ivela xa kusiliwa rhoqo kwaye abazalwana abakwazi ukuxolelanisa nokulungisa.
Oonobangela bokulwa kwabantakwenu
Xa kuziwa ekupheliseni umlo, Abazali kufuneka bazi phambi kwazo zonke izizathu okanye izizathu ezinokuba zibangele imbambano. Kukho izizathu ezininzi:
- Uninzi lwempikiswano kunye nokulwa phakathi kwabantakwenu kubangelwa kukufuna into anayo omnye umntwana okanye ukukhusela into yokudlala.
- Esinye sezizathu eziqhelekileyo zokulwa phakathi kwabantakwethu kukutsala umdla wabazali ngokwabo. Abantwana bafuna ukuba liziko lokuqwalaselwa ngawo onke amaxesha abantu abadala kwaye ukulwa kunokuba yenye yeendlela zokukufezekisa.
Ngenxa yoku, ngumsebenzi wabazali ukuseka uthotho lwemida kunye nemilinganiselo, evumela abantwana ukuba bangabi noluhlu lweendlela zokuziphatha ezingathandekiyo.
Bamele benze ntoni abazali xa abantwana babo besilwa?
- Ukuba ubona indlela abantwana bakho abalwa ngayo, Kuya kufuneka uhlale uzolile kwaye uzame ukuyiphelisa ingxoxo. Akukho senzo sokungxola kunye nokukhathazeka, kuba ngale ndlela uya kwenza izinto zibe mandundu.
- Kwimeko apho umlo udlula ngaphaya kwaye beza kubethwa, kulungile ukuba ubahlule kwaye ubathumele kumagumbi ahlukeneyo. Xa sele behlile, kulungile ukubabeka ubuso ngobuso ukuze bakwazi ukusombulula ingxaki.
- Umzali kufuneka amamele zombini iinguqulelo ezolile kwaye bonisa uthando kwaba bantwana babini, ukuze bazive beqondwa kwaye bethandwa.
- Abazali bayimizekelo yabantwana babo, Ngesi sizathu, kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhuthaza isimilo esihle kunye nokuziphatha okuhle ekhaya. Abantwana bakopa yonke into abayibonayo ekhaya, kungoko kulungile ukuba baziphathe kakuhle kangangoko ekhaya.
- Kuhle ukuhlala phantsi kunye ukuzama ukusombulula ingxaki. Nje ukuba zombini iinguqulelo ziviwe, ngutata okanye umama ophetheyo ophelisa umlo. Abantwana kufuneka baqonde ukuba akukho mfuneko yokulwa xa kuziwa ekusombululeni ingxabano. Iingxaki zisonjululwa kuthethwe ngendlela ezolileyo neyoxolo.
Ngamafutshane, Abantakwenu abalwa amaxesha ngamaxesha ayisiyonto yokukhathazeka. Ukuba kwelinye icala, umlo uqhelekile kwaye akukho namnye kubo obonayo isizathu, kuyacetyiswa ukuba uye kwingcali eyaziyo indlela yokuphelisa ingxaki enjalo. Into emele icace gca kukuba abazali mabajongane nengxaki ezinje ngokuzola kwaye ngaphandle kokuphulukana nendima yabo. Kukwabalulekile ukuba abazali bangathathi cala nakubani na wabantwana kwaye balingane ngokusemandleni abo kwaye ke kuthintelwe ukuvela kude kubo nabaphi na abantwana.