Ubuntu obunetyhefu: iprofayili enoburharha-yokungenzi kwesi sibini

Iprofayili enobundlongondlongo. Sonke siyamazi umntu onezi mpawu. Bubuntu ekunzima kakhulu ukuhlala kubo, apho ubuqhetseba obufihlakeleyo busetyenziswa ngokuziphatha okuchaphazela ukungakhathali kunye nokuhlaselwa.

Inyani yokuba badumisa iiprojekthi ezinkulu, umzekelo, iyamangalisa. Izicwangciso ezintle ezingabonisi mgudu wokuzifikelela. Kwaye okubi kakhulu, babeka "iindonga" kuthi. Bayathanda ukugxeka, ukugweba abantu, kodwa kwangaxeshanye, bahlala befihlakele kwiqamza labo. Ekuzimele yedwa, apho angakuthintela ukuthatha uxanduva, kunye nokuxhasa abo basecaleni lakhe. Namhlanje kwi Bezzia, Sifuna ukuthetha nawe malunga nokuziphatha okukhohlakeleyo kwinqanaba lababini.

Ungayichonga njani iprofayili enoburharha

1. Ukungabikho kwentsebenziswano

Ubuntu obunoburharha phantse buhlala bukhetha ukungahambi. Bavame ukubandakanyeka kakhulu kwezona ndawo zibalulekileyo ebomini babo. Xa kuziwa ekugcineni ubudlelwane kunye nabo, umzekelo, siqaphela indlela ngaphandle kokusixelela ukuba bayasithanda, asibuboni ubungqina obugqithisileyo bento yonke imihla.

Batyekele ekukhetheni izizathu xa sifuna into kubo. Ngabo bakhetha ukuthatha inyathelo lokuqala xa besenza izicwangciso ngaphandle kokumamela uluvo lwethu. Kodwa kwangaxeshanye, bayathanda ukusebenzisa amandla ngokugxeka abanye. Ukuhlaselwa kwemiba, umzekelo, ekwenzileyo. Bavame ukungakhathali kubomi babo bemihla ngemihla, isimo sengqondo, kude nokubonisa ukuzola okanye ukuzola, kukuswela nje umfutho. Uxanduva kwezabo nakwiziqu zabo.

2. "Umthetho womkhenkce" njengendlela yokunyanzelisa

Ndiqinisekile ukuba nje ukuba sikunike umkhondo omncinci malunga nokuba kuthetha ntoni "umthetho womkhenkce", uyakuwuqonda kwangoko:

• Ukuba kukho into ekukhathazayo umntu onobukrwada, abayi kukuxelela. Uya kukhetha ukuthula kunye nobuso obunzulu ukubonisa ukuba kukho into engabonakali ilungile, ngaphambi kokukuxelela ngamagama.
• Incoko ezinje ngezi: Ngaba ikhona into engalunganga ngawe? Akukho nto yenzekayo kum ».
• Ukuthula yindlela yohlwayo. Ayingabo abantu abasebenza kakuhle xa kusiziwa kunxibelelwano, nangaphezulu, bayayiphepha. Bazimela emva kwengqele yabo ukusibangela ukuba singakhululeki, sizisole kunye neentlungu.

3. Ukusetyenziswa kwesiqhelo kwempoxo

Esinye isixhobo esingenangqondo. Siqinisekile ukuba ezi mpawu azizukungaziwa kuwe. Siyazi ukuba sonke siyamazi umntu onolu hlobo lobunzima. Kunzima ukujongana nayo Nangona kunjalo, ukuya inqanaba leqabane iba ngaphezulu "ukuxhuzula."

• I-Sarcasm likrele elintlangothi-mbini elivumela umntu ukuba abe nalo iprofayili enoburharha, ukwenzakalisa nokukhohlisa.
• Sebenzisa obu buncwane ukubonisa izinto ezikukhathazayo, kunye nokuhlekisa ngathi. Isarcasm yi escudo. Iscreen sokufihla ngaphakathi, kuba ayisokuze isixelele ngokucacileyo nangamazwi aphezulu ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kuyo. Iyacaphukisa. Kungcono ukusebenzisa isigqebelo esifihlakeleyo nesonakalisayo ekuhlaseleni.

4. "Ndiyaphazamiseka" kutheni kufuneka uthethe nam ngoku?

Ngamanye amaxesha, sijonga loo maxesha afanelekileyo ukuze sikwazi ukuthetha neqabane lethu. Into eqhelekileyo kwaye esisiseko iba phantse ayinakwenzeka ngeprofayili enoburharha. Sichaza ukuba kutheni.

• Baye bathande ukunqanda ukudibana kwamehlo, baba neentloni ukusijonga xa sithetha nabo.
• Kwaye yintoni embi. Ngokwesiqhelo kukho ezo meko apho, emva kokuthetha into ebalulekileyo kubo, basiphendula ngo «uxolo, utheni na? yayikwenye indawo.
• Nokuba siphinda-phinda amazwi afanayo kubo kwakhona, nantoni na inokubaphazamisa kwakhona. Liqhinga elinokuphepha ukuthatha uxanduva lwezinto.

5. "Mna? Kodwa ukuba andikhe ndiqumbe ..."

Sibona ebusweni bakhe, kwisimo sakhe sengqondo, kunyango lwe "ice cream". Siyazi ukuba bacaphukile ngenxa yesizathu esithile esingaziwayo kwaye phantse akunakwenzeka ukuba kutheni.

• Bayabukhanyela ubungqina obusibangele ukubandezeleka, kunye nokuphakamisa iindonga kude.
• Abathandi ukunxibelelana, singasathethi ke ngeemvakalelo zabo. Ukuphika umsindo wakho yindlela elula yokuphepha ukuba uqiqe ngemiba ebalulekileyo kubudlelwane bakho. Kunqande, ngokuyintloko, ukuthatha uxanduva nangayiphi na indlela asonwabanga. Ukuba mhlawumbi banento yokugxeka.

6. Inkqubo endala yokuxhatshazwa

Ukudlala "ixhoba" yinto ebisoloko isebenza kwaye izakusebenza. Sisixhobo esilula kwiprofayili enoburharha, kuba ngayo, bayaphumelela konke oku:

• Thatha uxanduva.
• Bonisa ukuba benzakele, kwaye basiphendulise endaweni yabo.
• Bayazi ukuba ekugqibeleni, thina Siza kuziva sinetyala, kwaye siza kwenza ntoni akunakwenzeka Ukufuna impilo-ntle yabo.
• Ukuba bayaphumelela, ukuba ekugqibeleni siwela kulwaphulo-mthetho lwabo, baya kuba beyiphumezile injongo yabo: ukunqanda ukunxibelelana, ukuthatha uxanduva, kunye nokuqonda ukuba indlela abaziphethe ngayo ayenzi ukuba iqabane lakho lonwabe.

Ukuququmbela. Kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba iprofayili enoburharha ichazwe ngokubanzi kwiincwadana zengqondo ezinje nge I-DSM-IV. Nangona kunjalo, ayithathwa njengengxaki ngokwayo. Okwangoku kukungaziphathi kakuhle ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasentlalweni. Ubuntu obuneziphumo zombini kwinqanaba lomsebenzi, kunye nolwakho kunye noluchaphazelekayo.

Ukungafakwanga kwaye ngamanye amaxesha abantu abathandekayo ukuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo ngokubhekisele kwabo bahlala nabo, ekufuneka beyazi indlela yokuqonda. Njalo khumbula ukugcina iintambo zobomi bakho, kunye nokuzithemba okuhle okukuvumela ukuba ubeke imida. Kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke, soloko ucinga ngolonwabo lwakho.