Xa sisiva okanye sifunda igama elithi "ubukrelekrele," kulula ukuba sidibanise ngokuzenzekelayo kunye neengcinga ezinxulumene nobukrelekrele. inkumbulo kunye nobuchule bokuqonda. Eqhelekileyo. Kude kube kudala, akukho nto incinci siyichazelwe "ngolunye uhlobo lobukrelekrele." Nangona kunjalo, namhlanje kukho igama eliviwa ngakumbi nangakumbi: Ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo.
Kwaye, kude kube kutshanje nanamhlanje, akuqhelekanga ukuva ukuba: "Ulumke kangakanani! Yeyiphi ikhokhonathi onayo ...". Kodwa… bubukrelekrele bodwa obo? Kuphela ngengqondo elungileyo kunokwenzeka ukuba kuqinisekiswe ubomi obunempumelelo bobuqu kunye nobungcali? Abahlobo abangalunganga ... Kwaye kulapho ndizakuqala khona ukukuxelela malunga Ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo.
Uqale nini ukuthetha ngobukrelekrele bemvakalelo?
Nangona umxholo woBukrelekrele boMoya ufike ngamandla kwiminyaka yakutshanje, inyani kukuba ligama eliqale ukuthetha malunga namashumi ambalwa eminyaka eyadlulayo. Ukusukela ngo-1920, ababhali abanjengo U-Edward L. Thorndike, UDavid wechsler y UWoward Gagdner, Bathetha ngokubaluleka kokuqinisekileyo izakhono ezingahambelani nobukrelekrele kwaye, ezinokuba nobunzima obukhulu ekuziphatheni komntu.
Nangona kunjalo, yayiyeyona ncwadi idumileyo «Emotional Intelligence», ngo UDaniel Goleman, xa eli gama lathandwayo. Kuqala ngalo mzuzu, xa ukubaluleka kolu hlobo lobukrelekrele, okwaziwa ngokuba siseti ye Izakhono ezisivumela ukuba sizive, siqonde kwaye ngokufanelekileyo kwaye silawule ngokufanelekileyo iimvakalelo zethu nezabanye.
Zivela phi iimvakalelo zethu?
Umboniso bhanyabhanya, ngaphakathi ngaphakathi
Nangona okuninzi kuguqukile kuphononongo lweemvakalelo, kukho into eyaziwayo kwasekuqaleni. Zonke iimvakalelo zenza intshukumisa esishukumisela kwisenzo. Kwanele ukujonga abantwana abancinci ukuba babone indlela iimvakalelo ezibakhokelela ngayo kwisenzo esithile. Nangona kunjalo, amava esiphila kuwo kunye nezinto ezithile zokusingqongileyo ziya kusivumela ukuba simise, ekuhambeni kweminyaka, indlela esisabela ngayo kukhuthazo lweemvakalelo.
Ngoku, zivela phi iimvakalelo?zeziphi iindawo zobuchopho bethu ezinoxanduva lokuba sizive ngenye indlela? Enkosi kwindaleko yetekhnoloji, kunokwenzeka ukuba sazi ukuba kwenzeka ntoni emzimbeni wethu ngelixa sicinga, siziva, siphupha okanye sicinga.
Isiseko sobuchopho bobukrelekrele bemvakalelo
Ingcambu yengqondo yeyona ndawo iphambili kwingqondo yethu kwaye yeyona inoxanduva lokulawula eyona misebenzi isisiseko. Kujikeleze isiqu, i inkqubo yomlenze, ikwabizwa ngokuba yi «emotional emotional», kuba umsebenzi wayo unento yokwenza ne ukubonakala kwemeko yeemvakalelo. Kwinkqubo ye-limbic amygdala. Isakhiwo esincinci esimilise i-almond apho sigcine iinkumbulo zethu zeemvakalelo.
Kolu nxibelelwano lwengqondo, apho iimvakalelo zisekwe khona yomsox. Lo mmandla ngumahluko okwahlula ezinye iintlobo zezinto kwaye zeziphi izinto ezinje nge ukucinga, ukuqonda okanye ukubonakalisa. Yinto eyaziwa njengeyona ndawo isengqiqweni yomntu.
Ngenxa yoko, "ingqondo yethu yokucinga" yakhula kwaye yakhula ukusuka "kwingqondo yeemvakalelo," ebanjelwe kunye ngamawaka emijikelezo ye-neural. Sithetha ke ngoko izakhiwo ezimbini ezinxibelelene ngokugqibeleleyo nabanye. Ukucinga kunye nemvakalelo. Ukuhlengahlengiswa kunye nethuku. Ezi zinto zimbini zigqithileyo zokuqhubeka, ezidityaniswe kwinqanaba elifanelekileyo, zisenza abantu abakrelekrele ngokwasemphefumlweni.
Ingqondo ecinga kunye nengqondo evayo
Nangona sibonile ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba elona candelo lethu linengqiqo lilawula icandelo lethu elinomdla, akusoloko ukuhleleka kwethu kugqithisa kwiimvakalelo zethu. Cinga umzekelo, ixesha apho waphulukana nolawulo kwaye waqhuma emntwini ethetha izinto ongazange ucinge ukuba ungazithetha. Kutheni lento isenzeka?
Iingqondo ezimbini zisebenza kuye ngamnye wethu: umntu ocinga kwaye lowo uziva. Zombini zizimeleyo kwaye zinemijikelezo eyahlukeneyo yobuchopho, kodwa zidibene. Ngamaxesha amaninzi, ezi ngqondo zimbini zilungelelaniswe ngokufanelekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha, Inkuthazo ethile ivelisa kuthi iimpendulo zeemvakalelo zobunzulu obukhulu, ezenza iimpendulo ezizenzekelayo nezingalinganiyo, sikwazi ukuxhwila iingqondo zethu ezinengqondo, zisikhokelele ekuziphatheni okugabadeleyo okanye okungafunekiyo.
Kulapho kusebenza khona ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo. Obu buchule businika isitshixo, ukuba singayeki ukuziva neemvakalelo, ukongeza ekubeni akunakwenzeka kuya kuba yintlekele kuhlobo lwabantu, kodwa sifunde ukulawula imeko yethu yeemvakalelo xa siziva ukuba ingcinga kunye nemvakalelo ayidlali ngokuvumelanisa.
Ngaba uyafuna ukwazi ukuba zeziphi izakhono ezaneleyo zeemvakalelo ezisinika zona? Ndiza kukuxelela kungekudala!