Ngokuqinisekileyo unabo abo bahlobo okanye abahlobo, ababedla ngokupapasha yonke into abayenzayo kwezabo nomphakathi. Olu hlobo lokuziphatha luqhelekile ingakumbi kwizibini ezitshatileyo. Rhoqo, ngamanye amaxesha kwanemihla ngemihla, bahlaziya iindonga zonxibelelwano lwabo ngeefoto okanye amanqanaba achaza ubudlelwane babo, nkqu nolwalamano lwabo.
Emva kwezi ndlela zokuziphatha zininzi iinkcazo esiza kuthi sinike iinkcukacha ngazo ngezantsi. Ngoku, asitsho ukuba ukusetyenziswa kweendawo zonxibelelwano kuyinto embi, ngokupheleleyo. Ezi mijelo zilungile ngokuqinisekileyo yabelana ngamava amnandi con aquellos que queremos, no obstante, hay que conocer los límites y mantener un equilibrio. Hablemos en Bezzia sobre este tema tan interesante como polémico.
Ubudlelwane bomtshato kunye neenethiwekhi zentlalo
Sonke siyathanda ukwabelana ngezinto ezintle kubomi bethu kwimidiya yoluntu. Sonwabile kwaye iindaba ezimnandi, njengeemvakalelo, zihlala ziyinto esithanda ukunxibelelana neyethu. Ngoku, asizukugxeka apha into ayenzayo umntu okanye angayenziyo kula majelo eendaba. Umdla wethu ujolise kwesi sibini, ke makhe sibone ukuba yeyiphi imiba ebalulekileyo xa ujoyina le miba mibini: isibini kunye neenethiwekhi zentlalo.
1. Vumelana neqabane lakho ngento ekwabelwana ngayo nento engekhoyo
Kwenzeke ngaphezu kwesihlandlo esinye. Abantu abafaka iifoto kunye namaqabane abo kuFacebook okanye kuTwitter, ngaphandle kwemvume yakhe.
Kubudlelwane bethu, into yokugqibela ekufuneka siyenzile yile zithathe lula izinto. Kuba uthanda umntu, kuba uyinxalenye yobomi bakhe, awunalungelo lokwenza izinto esidlangalaleni ngaphandle kwemvume yakhe. Ke, kufuneka kuvunyelwane kwangaphambili ukuba yintoni epapashiweyo kunye nengakhuthazwanga, into esifuna ukuyabelana ngayo kunye nokuba yintoni esingayenziyo.
2. Musa ukwabelana ngolwazi ukuze ufumane ukuqiniswa kwengqondo
Iprofayile yabantu abaninzi ababedla ngokwabelana ngayo yonke imiba yobomi babo kwiinethiwekhi zentlalo inokuba zezi zilandelayo:
- Bubuntu obufuna ukuqiniswa okuqinisekileyo kwimiba eyahlukeneyo yobomi babo. Ukulayisha ifoto kuyaqiniseka "Ndiyakuthanda" kwisithuba esifutshane sexesha. Oko kukuthi, akukho mfuneko yokuba baye epatini okanye baye ezitalatweni ukuya kufumana ukunconywa.
- Ukuqiniswa kwengqondo okufumaneka kwinethiwekhi yoluntu kuhlala kusebenza ekuphakamiseni ukuzithemba okufanelekileyo.
- Ukuba ubudlelwane bakho buzinzile, buhamba kakuhle kwaye wonwabile, awunyanzelekanga ukuba ufune ukuqiniswa ngokwasengqondweni nakubani na nangaphantsi kwabo uqhelene nabo kunye nabantu ongabaziyo abahlala Facebook okanye kwi-Twitter. Ngubani esifanele sizixhalabise ngaye liqabane lethu, kwaye nguye ekufuneka asinike ezi mbono mihla le ngendlela esondeleyo neyimfihlo.
3. Awukholelwa kwiinethiwekhi zentlalo into ongeyiyo
Kwiintanethi zonxibelelwano sinokufumana isimilo sazo zonke iintlobo. Ukusuka kwabo benza iiprofayili zobuxoki ezibonelela ngeempawu zomzimba nezengqondo ezingahambelani nenyani, kwabo bafuna ukuqaqambisa ubungakanani ukuze "Yenza ngathi" ubomi obugqibeleleyo.
Kwinqanaba lezibini, siyakubona oku ngamanye amaxesha kwabo bahlobo bapapasha iifoto kunye namaqabane abo elunxwemeni, besitya isidlo sangokuhlwa, behamba uhambo, kwaye bepapasha izigcawu eziqhubekayo zothando ezitsalayo "Esi sibini sigqibeleleyo" ukuba wonke umntu uyabamonela.
Kuya kufuneka ufumane ifayile ye- ibhalansi kwaye ushiye indawo yabucala. Ubomi basesidlangalaleni buphantsi kokugxekwa kunye nezimvo, ke ngoko, siyachanabeka kwinto esiyenzayo "kuba siyayithanda" okomzuzwana, ungaqondwa kakuhle ngabanye.
Yabelana ngeefoto okanye ubume esidlangalaleni ngomlinganiso kunye nokulinganisela. Kwakhona cinga ukuba yonke into oyivezayo kula majelo eendaba, iya kuhlalutywa kwaye igwetywe ngabo bangabahlobo bakho, okanye ngabo uqhelene nabo kuFacebook owawuthandayo ngelo xesha, kodwa awazi.
4. Musa ukucinga ukuba xa ungaveli kwinethiwekhi "awukho"
Kungenzeka ukuba le ngxelo khange icace gca kodwa siza kukunika umzekelo olula. Isibini siceba uhambo. Xa befika apho baya khona, bafumanisa ukuba balahlekile ikhamera kwaye yabo iinqwelo (ngaso nasiphi na isizathu) azisebenzi.
Oku kuthetha ukuba ngekhe bakwazi ukuthatha iifoto zohambo lwabo. Kwaye nangaphezulu, ukuba abayi kuba nakho ukwabelana ngayo yonke into abayenzayo ngeholide leyo kwiinethiwekhi zabo zentlalo. Iyintoni ke ingcinga yokuqala? Ukuba andabelani nabanye ngayo, kufana nokuba andilwenzi olu hambo, Andikwazi ukungqina kubahlobo bam ukuba "bendilapha" kunye neqabane lam.
Ingabonakala ngathi iyabaxwa, kodwa yinyani eqhelekileyo. Gcina le milinganiselo engqondweni:
- Iinethiwekhi zentlalo sisixhobo esikhulu unxibelelwano, ilungele ukwabelana ngolwazi kunye namava. Nangona kunjalo, ubomi bokwenyani abukho kwiselfowuni okanye kwikhompyuter. Obu bomi bunokukuzisela olona lonwabo yeyona nto uyakhayo neqabane lakho.
- Gcina ibhalansi phakathi kwezi zithuba zibini. Oko kungaphathi iselfowuni yakho ukuya nayo ukuthatha loo selfie kunye neqabane lakho kuya kususa uncumo lwakho. Ulonwabo lusezitalatweni, kuloo mpepho yaselwandle, incasa yezo zidlo okanye kuloo ndlela ihamba epakini.
- Yintoni ebalulekileyo yile ukusondelelana neqabane lakho, leyo akakho umntu okhathalayo kuba ayihambi esidlangalaleni. Kungenxa yokuba nobabini niyakha emfihlakalweni kwaye kuba kungekho mntu ukhathalayo. Uthando lwakho lolwakho kunye neqabane lakho, ayisiyonto yokwabelana kwinethiwekhi yoluntu.