Nokuba uza kuyichitha njani imini Usuku lukaValentine. Nokuba uneqabane okanye awunalo, lo mhla ubonakalisa ukubonakaliswa kothando ngazo zonke iindlela zalo, unikelo kuthando, ukuthanda kunye nothando olufanele ukubhiyozelwa. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka sibeke ecaleni icandelo lezorhwebo kwaye sicinge ngokulula ukuba ingalusuku oluhle ukonwabela neqabane lakho, okanye neqela labahlobo. Uthando lunenani elingenasiphelo leefom kwaye zonke zifanelwe lusuku olukhethekileyo.
Ingcezu elungileyo yolwazi ekufuneka ithathelwe ingqalelo ngalo mhla inikezelwa yingcali yeengqondo uSteve Johnson kwincwadi yakhe "Ingqondo ivulekile". Kuyo ucacisa ukuba uthando luyimvakalelo esisiseko emntwini, umtsalane kunye nothando yinto esizalwa sinayo kuthi, kodwa ewe: akukho mntu uzelwe efundile. Ukuthanda, ukuba sisibini kufuna ukufunda okuqhubekayo, kwaye kunefuthe kuthi. Izitshixo zokwenza olu lusuku olulungileyo ziya kugxila ikakhulu ekuqondeni ukuba unaso esinye isiqingatha sakho okanye akunjalo, lo esisiseko uziphathe kakuhle. Ukuba uthando lufuna ukufunda, kufuneka sibe nomonde kwaye silinde esona sifundo silungileyo nomntu osinika ulonwabo lokwenyani. Ungangxami.
Usuku lukaValentine njengesibini: ubunzima kunye nethemba
Amandla yonwabele i-valentine kufuna ubunzima kunye nethemba, indibaniselwano eya kusinceda kule milinganiselo ilandelayo:
- Ukulindela kunye nesimo sengqondo: Ngokwesiqhelo, lonke uhlobo lombhiyozo luza noluhlu lwe okulindelweyo kunye namaxhala, ke ngoko, kubalulekile ukuba uhlalutye okubalulekileyo kuwe. Eyona nto iphambili yile sengqondoUkuba siziva sanelisekile kwaye sonwabile ngaloo mhla kunye neqabane lethu, elinye iqela liyakosulelwa lithemba lethu, kungenjalo. Usuku lukaValentine lukwangaphezulu komhla ogqibeleleyo wokuseka izicwangciso kunye nokwenza uvavanyo.
- Enkosi kwaye yamkela: sobabini. Kukulungele ukubhengeza yonke into elungileyo esiyifumeneyo ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, yonke into esele siyiphile kwaye sonwabile. Kuhlala kulungile ukwabelana ngezo mpawu kunye nezinto esizithandayo malunga nenye, kunye nendima abayidlalayo ebomini bethu.
- Ukucinga ngesipho: akufuneki ukuba ibe yinto ebonakalayo. Ngamanye amaxesha isithembiso esilula, iprojekthi okanye isincomo sixabisa ngaphezulu kwento. Ngapha koko, ukuba sityekele ekunikeni into ebonakalayo, siya kuzama ukuba yintsusa kwaye sijonge ukuba zeziphi ezenza njengophawu lobudlelwane bethu. Kananjalo, kububulumko ukujonga oko kubonisa ukuba siyalazi iqabane lethu, into echaza ubuntu babo, apho sibonisa khona ukuba siyazazi izinto abazithandayo kunye nezinto abazithandayo.
- Hlaziya uthando: ISanValentín ilungele ukuba neencoko ezisondele ngakumbi nezinzulu. Iingcali zisixelela ukuba isenokuba sisizathu esifanelekileyo sokuhlaziya uthando. Usuku lokuvula kunye nokuvavanya kungekuphela nje okuhleliweyo ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, kodwa kunye nokuseka izicwangciso zexesha elizayo.
Ukucamngca ke yinto ebalulekileyo enokuthi iwuchaze kakuhle lo mhla. Ukuba nobunzima beqabane lakho lokuthethathethana kwaye nikwazi ukunxibelelana, ukumamela kunye nokuvelana noko kwenzekileyo, ngokungathandabuzekiyo yimpumelelo ekufanele ukuba uyenze. Ngamanye amaxesha ikwalixesha elifanelekileyo lokwenza utshintsho oluncinci oluphucula ubudlelwane. Kutshanje kwimagazini "Psychology namhlanje" kwenziwa isifundo ukufumanisa ukuba zeziphi imikhwa ezona zibini zivuyayo nezona zihlala ixesha elide. Unokuba nomdla wokwazi idatha efunyenweyo:
- Bahlakulela umdla oqhelekileyo. Oku kuzisa ubudlelwane obutsha kunye nezizathu. Nangona kubalulekile ukuba ukhathalele iimfuno zakho ukunqanda ukuxhomekeka.
- Balala ngexesha elinye: Ngokwabo bavavanyiweyo, yinkalo exatyiswe kakhulu.
- Bahamba ngesandla okanye ecaleni. Ngamanye amaxesha sibona izibini apho omnye kwaba babini ehamba ngaphambili. Esona sibini sonwabileyo sihlala sisenza kunye.
- Ixabiso lokuthembela noxolelo: ezona zibini zisebenza kakuhle ziyaxabana kwaye zibeka iimfuno zazo phezulu, kodwa ngaphezulu kwako konke zixhomekeke ekuthembekeni nasekuxolelweni apho kuhlala kungekho nzondo.
- Bahoya izinto ezintle kwesi sibini ngaphambi kwezimbi.
- Bathanda ukuthi "Ndiyakuthanda" rhoqo.
- Bahlala bewola ngesiqhelo. Ukunxibelelana ngokwasemzimbeni kubalulekile, kukhupha uxinzelelo, kuqinisa iibhondi kunye nokwandisa ii-endorphins.
- Bathetha ubusuku obuhle yonke imihla, nangona benomsindo.
- Bayabizwa emini ukuba "babone ukuba usuku luhamba njani".
Wedwa ngoSuku lweValentine? ngokupheleleyo
Kutshanje sibona indlela ekuthiwa yinkcubeko ngayo Ongatshatanga. Ngapha koko, kuyinto eqhelekileyo eYurophu ukubhiyozela 'iiNtsuku zokuQala' nge-13 ne-15 kaFebruwari, ngelixa e-China, kwelinye icala, babhiyozela le holide inye nge-11 ka-Novemba. Kancinci kancinci kuphuhliswa iintshukumo ezigxininisa amaxabiso kunye nezibonelelo zokungatshati, njengoko kunjalo kwimeko ekuthiwa kukuqinisekisaIQuirkalone '.
Nokuba kwenzeka ntoni kuwe, uSuku lweValentine sisizathu esivakalayo sokushiya indlu kwaye uchithe ubusuku obuhle kwinkampani yabahlobo abanokubhiyozela ubuhlobo kunye nothando. Kwakhona, iindawo ezininzi zilungiselela imisebenzi enomdla yee-singles, yile nto sele ithandwa njenge 'isantya ukutshata', Iintlanganiso phakathi kwabantu abakwiminyaka yobudala efanayo, apho umjikelo wodliwanondlebe oluncinci phakathi kwazo zonke izibini ezingekho ngaphezulu kwemizuzu eli-10. Ixesha esinokuthi ngenze ngalo kwaye umntu othile usitsale ngendlela ekhethekileyo.
Ukuqukumbela, lo mhla kufanelekile ukuba wonwabele. Into ebalulekileyo kukushenxisa iingcinga ezinetyhefu nezingalunganga ngayo, sisebenzise onke amathuba okuba sonwabe kwaye sizisebenzise. Njengoko sisazi kakuhle, akukho mntu uzalwa eyingcali kwezothando nakubudlelwane, yinto yokufunda ende. Ukufumana umntu olungileyo kuthatha ixesha, ukungafihli nto kunye nethemba. Into yokugqibela ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo ihlala ekhaya. Yonwabele iValentine yakho.