Obunye ububi obukhulu kolu luntu siphila kulo Iselubundlobongela ngokwesini. Phezu kwayo nje inkqubela engathethekiyo eyenziweyo kweli candelo, maninzi amabhinqa asaqhubeka ephathwa kakubi ngamaqabane awo. Kwiimeko ezininzi i-sequelae inzima kangangokuba umfazi akakwazi ukuchacha ngokupheleleyo.
Iziphumo ziyingozi kwaye kukuba umntu udla ngokufumana ukurhoxiswa okuthile ngumxhaphazi okuchaphazela kakhulu inqanaba lengqondo kunye neemvakalelo. Kwinqaku elilandelayo sithetha nawe zeziphumo ezibi zobundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesini.
Umntu uzivumela ukuba abe nguye
Ixhoba lobundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesini liyayeka ukuba lilo ukuze abe ngulo mntu umxhaphazi afuna abe nguye. Kwiimeko ezininzi, umntu oxhatshazwayo unokuza kuthethelela ubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesini kwaye azive ethobekile ngokupheleleyo kwisimilo esibi somxhaphazi.
Kukho ubuthathaka obuthile kunye nokuxhomekeka okuqinileyo kumntu ophembelela ubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesini. Konke oku kuphelela ekujongeleni phantsi umntu oxhatshaziweyo kwaye ngokupheleleyo kwiindleko zomxhaphazi olawula oko akufunayo okanye akunqwenelayo.
Ukugquma ngokupheleleyo
Ezinye iziphumo ezibi zobundlobongela ngokwesini kukuzikhetha ngokupheleleyo kweyona isangqa ikufutshane, nokuba ngabahlobo okanye usapho. Akusekho naluphi na uhlobo lomdla kwizinto ezithile zokuzonwabisa kunye nezinto azithandayo kwaye yonke into isala ezandleni zomntu osebenzisa ugonyamelo olunjalo. Oku kukhe kwakhankanywa ngasentla kunye nokungakhuseleki okukhulu kunye nokungathembani kubangela uloyiko olukhulu ekunzima kakhulu ukuphuma kulo. Umntu akasazikholelwa kwaye uziva engenamsebenzi kunye nokusilela ngokupheleleyo.
ukufa akusiso sicombululo
Ngelishwa uninzi lwabantu abathwaxwa bubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesini imihla ngemihla, bagqibela ngokuthatha ubomi babo okanye bazibulale. Kwezinye iimeko, ngumxhaphazi ngokwakhe ophelisa ubomi bomntu. Enoba kuyintoni na, ukufa kuthetha ukoyiswa kokwenene noloyiso kumntu ophethe kakubi. Yiyo loo nto, nangona inokuba nzima kwaye inzima kakhulu, kubalulekile ukucela uncedo kwaye uphume kwesi sangqa sibi.
Kuyimfuneko ukuba uvule amehlo akho kwaye uqonde ukuba ukuxhatshazwa kukuziphatha okungafanelekanga okungenakuvunyelwa nangasiphi na isizathu. Ubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesini bububi boluntu lwanamhlanje ekufuneka bupheliswe ngokukhawuleza. Akucetyiswa kwaphela ukuba uzihlukanise ngokupheleleyo nabahlobo kunye nosapho kunye cela uncedo lokuphelisa ukuxhatshazwa okunjalo, enoba kusemzimbeni okanye ngokwasengqondweni.
Ubudlelwane kufuneka bube nempilo
Ulwalamano lwesibini kufuneka luhlale lusempilweni. Alukho uhlobo loxhatshazo okanye ubundlobongela ekufuneka buvunyelwe ngaphakathi kuyo. Ukuba kukho naliphi na ilinge lokuphatha kakubi, ulwalamano kufuneka lupheliswe. Akukho mntu ufanele ukuphathwa kakubi okanye ukuxhatshazwa liqabane lakhe. Akukhathaliseki nokuba ubundlobongela obukhoyo bomzimba okanye imvakalelo. Ayifanelanga kwaye ayinakuvunyelwa. Ngenxa yoku, kubalulekile ukuba ungazivaleli kwaye uzingqonge nabantu abakuxabisa ngokwenene. Khumbula ukuba uthando kunye nothando oludibeneyo kufuneka lubekho kubudlelwane kwaye uhloniphe amaxabiso athile anjengokuthembana okanye ukulingana.
Ngokufutshane, iziphumo zobundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesini zibi kwaye kwezinye iimeko ziyabulala. Ukufumana uxhatshazo oluqhubekayo kwiqabane yinto ejongela phantsi umntu oxhatshaziweyo ngokwasemzimbeni nasemphefumlweni. Khumbula ukuba nangona kubonakala kunzima kwaye kunzima, kubalulekile ukucela uncedo kwimeko yokuxhatshazwa ngokwesini liqabane lakho. Ukubalekela kunye nokwamkela uxhatshazo oluxeliweyo yinto eyenza umxhaphazi abe namandla nabo bonke ububi obubandakanya oku.