Isibini esitshatileyo sabelana ngomzuzwana
Kuya kusiba yinto eqhelekileyo kwaye iqhelekile ukubona izibini ezigqiba ekubeni zithandane ixesha elide ngaphandle kokuthatha inyathelo lokutshata. Kwiminyaka eyadlulayo ukuthandana kwaba linyathelo ngaphambi komtshato kwaye ube nakho ukudala uhlobo lomtshato oludibeneyo ebomini.
Nangona kunjalo, namhlanje baninzi abantu abaphepha ukutshata iqabane lobomi babo bonke kwaye Bakhetha ukugcina ukuthandana ngokungenammiselo kwaye ixesha elide. Emva koko siza kuthetha nawe malunga noncedo kunye nokungalunganga kokuthandana ixesha elide.
Zeziphi izibonelelo zokuthandana ixesha elide
Emva koko siza kukubonisa ezinye zeenzuzo ezibonelelwa kukuthandana ngaphambi kwexesha elide:
- Ukuchitha ixesha elininzi nomntu omnye kwenza kube lula kwaye kube lula ukusombulula iingxaki ezahlukeneyo. enokuza ukuvuswa imihla ngemihla.
- Ukuthandana ixesha elide kuya kuthandela ukusekwa kwesiseko ngaphakathi kwesi sibini ngokusekwe kukhuseleko kunye nokuthembana kwabo bobabini abantu. Oku kwenza ukuba ubudlelwane obudibeneyo bomelele ngokulungileyo enako ngekamva elihle lesibini.
- Ukuthandana ngaphambi kwexesha ixesha elide kuya kuvumela isibini ukuba simisele uthotho lweenjongo ezifanayo okanye iinjongo ezifanayo eziluncedo ngenene kulwalamano lwangaphambili.
- Olunye uncedo lokuba nokuthandana ixesha elide yinyani yokufezekisa impilo-ntle ebalulekileyo kwinqanaba lomntu ngamnye. Oku kubalulekile xa kuziwa ekubeni nenkululeko kunye nolonwabo kuwe. Oku kunefuthe elihle kwisibini nakwibhondi esekwe phakathi kwabantu bobabini.
Ukuhla okunokwenzeka kokuthandana okude
Ayizizo zonke izinto eziza kuba ziluncedo ekuthandaneni ixesha elide kwaye kunokubakho ezinye izinto ezingalunganga ekufuneka zibonisiwe:
- Ukuthandana ixesha elide kunokubangela ukuba iinkqubo ezithile zisekwe imihla ngemihla. Oku kunokukhokelela kwimvakalelo yokukruquka engakhokelela kwiingxabano ezithile okanye kwimilo phakathi kwesi sibini.
- Ukuba nomntu ixesha elide, Inokubangela ukuba uthando lunciphe ngendlela eyingozi.
- Uxinzelelo oluvela kusapho kunye nabahlobo yenye into eluncedo ekubeni kubudlelwane obude kakhulu Uninzi lwabantu abasondeleyo bacinezela abantu abatshatileyo ukuba bathathe inyathelo lokutshata.
- Kungenzeka ukuba ngenxa yexesha lokuthandana, ukuthandabuza okuthile kuqala ukuvela kwelinye lamalungu esi sibini. Oku kunokukhokelela kwiingxabano ezithile ezinokuthi zibeke emngciphekweni ukuthandana ngaphambi komtshato.
Ngamafutshane, ukuthandana ixesha elide kunokuba kuhle kwizibini ezithile ngelixa kwabanye kungakhokelela esiphelweni sobudlelwane ngokwabo. Ngayiphi na imeko kubalulekile ukuba uthethe nesi sibini kwaye ukufikelela kwinqanaba eliluncedo kubo bobabini ababandakanyekayo. Kukwabonakalisiwe ukuba ukuthandana ixesha elide kuya kuqinisekisa umtshato ophumelelayo kwixa elizayo. Ngokuchasene noko, ukuba ixesha lokuthandana ngaphambi komtshato liyaphikisana ngandlel 'ithile, kunokwenzeka ukuba ezo mfazwe ziya kuqhubeka zenzeka ngexesha lomtshato.