Kulo ubomi kuya kufuneka sinxibelelane kumaxesha amaninzi, nangona singasoloko sifezekisa iinjongo zethu. Baninzi abantu abaziva ngathi abayazi indlela yokunxibelelana nendlela abavakalelwa ngayo okanye into abayifunayo kwaye ngenxa yesi sizathu bayonzakaliswa, okwenza unxibelelwano lube nzima ngakumbi. Kungenxa yoko le nto kufuneka sigcine imigaqo embalwa engqondweni ukuze sibe sisithethi esihle.
El ubuchule bokuthetha nokunxibelelana Inokusivulela iingcango ezininzi, hayi kuphela kwihlabathi lomsebenzi, kodwa nakwimpilo yethu yoluntu. Baninzi abantu abanobunzima obuthile xa kufikwa ekufumaneni eyona ndlela yokunxibelelana nokunxibelelana nabanye, ke siza kukunika iingcebiso ezinomdla.
Sebenzisa ukuzithemba
Xa kufikwa kunxibelelwano, sinokukhetha iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokwenza. Kukho abo banendlela nje yokujongana nabanye, kule meko ngabantu abangazinyanzeliyo izimvo zabo nabahlala bethe cwaka phambi kwabantu abacenga okanye ababonisa izimvo zabo ngenkani okanye ngobundlongondlongo. Kwelinye icala, sinendlela yokunxibelelana nobundlongondlongo, kubantu abadla ngokuxabana kwaye babambe iimpikiswano zabo ngokunyanzelwa. Akukho khetho inokufumana unxibelelwano olululo, kuba siya kuhlala sidala ukungavisisani nabanye abantu okanye asizukuqinisekisa uluvo lwethu njengoko kufanelekile. Ukuqinisekisa kubandakanya yenza umbono wethu waziwe ukukhusela izimvo zethu ngaphandle kokungahloniphi okanye ukuba nomsindo okanye ukuba ndlongondlongo kwabanye.
Bonisa ukuba uyamamela
Xa kufikwa kunxibelelwano nabanye abantu, kunokubakho abantu abathetha kakhulu kwaye bangamameli, nabantu abangayeki ukuthetha. Ezi zinto zimbini zibi ngokulinganayo, kuba kuyo nayiphi na imeko kuyakubakho umntu obhengeza izimvo zakhe ngaphandle kokunxibelelana okanye nokwabelana nabanye ngeengcinga. Xa kuziwa ekusekeni unxibelelwano kunjalo kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba umamela njani, uyavuma, ubuze imibuzo kwaye senze omnye umntu aqonde ukuba siyaziqonda. Oku kuluncedo ngakumbi xa omnye umntu engathethi kakhulu, kuba oku kuya kubanceda banxibelelane ngcono.
Hlaziya iingxoxo
Xa sithetha nabanye okanye sifuna ukucacisa umbono wethu, kuyindlela elungileyo yokujonga kwakhona iimpikiswano asinike zona loo mntu. Oko kukuthi, endaweni yokuyichasa nje, singatsho ukuba olu luvo lulunge kakhulu kuzo naziphi na izizathu kwaye sichaze umbono wethu. Ngale ndlela omnye umntu uya kuyazi loo nto siyahlonipha kwaye sithathela ingqalelo uluvo lwakhoSimamele kodwa sinezimvo zethu, esizithi thaca kuwe.
Yongeza ii-anecdotes
Kubalulekile ukuba xa sizichaza sikwazi yongeza ii-anecdotes okanye izikweko. Ngale ndlela siya kuziqhelanisa nazo zonke iintlobo zabaphulaphuli kwaye sisixhobo esinokusetyenziselwa ukwenza ukuba abanye abantu baziqonde izimvo esizibonisa ngokulula. Ngale ndlela, unxibelelwano lwethu luya kuba nomdla omkhulu kwaye luya kubamba uluntu.
Gwema ithoni engacacanga, ye-monotone
Xa kufikwa kumba wokubala izinto, izinto esizibalayo zibalulekile kodwa nendlela esizibala ngayo. A buthuntu okanye ithoni monotone yenza oko sikuthethayo kubonakale kungathandeki. Abantu badla ngokuphulukana nomdla ngokukhawuleza ukuba akukho tshintsho kwinto esiyithethayo kwimeko yentetho. Ngokungathathi nxaxheba baphulukana nomdla, into ekufuneka bayiphephe. Oku kunokwenziwa ngokongeza ii-anecdotes, izimvo, uburharha kwaye ngakumbi ithoni eyahlukileyo ukubonisa izinto ngelixa sibhengeza izimvo esinazo.