Eyona nto ixhaphakileyo yile zilungele ukugxekwa sukuba lula. Akukho mntu uthanda ukufumana izimvo ezingenakuhamba ngendlela efanayo neyethu. Ngokukodwa xa ezi zigxeko zivela kubantu esibathandayo. Kodwa sinokuyiguqula yonke indawo kwaye senze ukugxeka okunjalo kuyakhe.
Ke namhlanje siza kubona ukwamkela ukugxekwa kodwa nendlela yokwenza oko. Kungenxa yokuba mhlawumbi kuninzi kakhulu kubo esingakhange sikuqonde. Mhlawumbi kukuvusa umnxeba okanye into ekufuneka siyithathile iyakhokelela kutshintsho oluthile kwindlela esiziphatha ngayo. Fumanisa!
Zithini izigxeko
Xa kuziwa ekugxekweni, kufuneka sitsho Sisikhalazo okanye isicelo. Sikhalaza kuba sifuna into okanye umntu atshintshe. Ngale ndlela, ngokugxeka sizama ukwenza utshintsho. Ngaphakathi kuyo, kufuneka sikhankanye ukugxeka okwakhayo kunye nokungalunganga okanye okonakalisayo. Ezi zokugqibela zihlala zijolise kubuntu bethu nakwangaphambili, khetha indlela esiziphatha ngayo. Yintoni eyenza ukuba sikwazi ukuyeka ukubonisa kunye nokutshintsha kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
Indlela yokusingatha ukugxekwa
Ayisiyonto ilula kwaye kunjalo, ayizukuba sonke esinokufana ukukwazi ukuzilingana. Kodwa amanyathelo kuyo yonke imiba ahlala efana. Kufuneka siqale simamele kakuhle kwinto abasixelela yona, kuba ngekhe sazi ukuba siza kufunda into entsha. Nje ukuba omnye umntu ayigqibe impikiswano yakhe, iya kuba lixesha lokuba asibuze umbuzo. Yiyo le nto unale ngcamango ngathi. Kufuneka sihlale sizolile kwaye sicinge malunga nokuba ulungile kuyo yonke into asixelele yona.
Eyona ndlela yokwamkela ukugxekwa kukuxabisa into abasixelela yona kwaye ucinga ukuba singanikeza utshintsho oluncinci. Mhlawumbi yindlela yokuphucula ubudlelwane obuthile. Akuthethi kuthi kufuneka sitshintshele umntu othile, kodwa oko kuthetha ukuba singakuxabisa xa ukugxekwa kuvela kubantu esibathandayo njengabazali okanye ezinye iintsapho. Ukuba ukugxekwa kukwenza ungonwabi, sukuphendula ngokweemvakalelo, kuba emva koko siyakwazi ukuba ayizukuba yinto elungileyo. Ke ngoko, kungcono ukuma kwaye ucinge imizuzwana embalwa ukusuka apho kuvavanye oko besixelele kona nesizathu sokuba la magama abe nawo.
Ewe kunjalo, konke oku, kuhlala kususela kwinqanaba lokuba sisigxeko esakhayo. Kungenxa yokuba izinto ezingakhiyo okanye ezonakalisayo aziyi kuvela kubantu abasixabisa ngokwenene okanye kubantu abasondele kakhulu. Nangona kunjalo, xa sisenza enye yolu hlobo, sihlala sinyanzelekile lawula ukuphendula ngokweemvakalelo. Kuba nokuba siyacaphuka, asizukufika ndawo. Siya kukuphepha ukuziphindezela kwaye eyona nto ilunge kakhulu kukungakuhoyi oko sikuxelelweyo. Isenokungabi lula i-priori, kodwa sesona sisombululo sisiso. Xa ukugxekwa okungalunganga kungenakuguqulwa kufundwe, kuya kufuneka kulahliwe.
Izibonelelo zokukwazi ukwamkela ukugxekwa
Ukuba uyakwazi ukwenza oku kungasentla, uya kufumana izibonelelo ezininzi kunokuba ucinga. Kwelinye icala iya kuphucula unxibelelwano phakathi kwakho nomnye umntu. Ke ubudlelwane buya kuchaphazeleka kwaye bube ngcono. Kwakhona siyanyanzelisa ukuba sithethe malunga uphononongo oluqinisekileyo oluvela kwindawo yethu esondeleyo.
Ke, siya kuba nolwalamano olungcono kunye nabo kwaye izinto ziya kuhlala zihamba ngendlela eyiyo. Iimbambano ziya kuncitshiswa, kuba xa kukho unxibelelwano oluhle, kubonakala ngathi siyazi Ungayigcina njani inkathazo. Uya kufunda ukumamelwa kunye nokumamela yonke into abayithethayo, uyayazi indlela yokuhlala uzolile kwaye, ubudlelwane ngokubanzi buza kutshintsha.