Uthando aluyonto umntu ayikhethayo, yinto evelayo kwaye izibonakalise ngeendlela ezininzi okanye ngeendlela ezininzi. Eyona nto ilungileyo kukuba uthando luthi lubuyiselwa ngendlela efanayo kwaye ngaloo ndlela dala ubudlelwane naloo mntu.
Ingxaki ivela xa umntu othandekayo enohlobo lobuntu obungazuzi nto konke konke kwaye bube yityhefu. Yiloo nto eyenzekayo xa iqabane li-narcissistic kwaye lizicingela. Kwinqaku elilandelayo sikuxelela into omawuyenze xa iqabane lizingca kwaye lizicingela.
Ubonakala ngantoni umntu onama-narcissistic?
Ekuboneni kokuqala kunzima kakhulu kwaye kuyinkimbinkimbi ukukwazi ukubona umntu onama-narcissistic. Kuyimfuneko ukuhlala naye rhoqo kwaye ujonge indlela aziphethe ngayo kunye nokuziphatha kwakhe kuqala ukuze uchonge uphawu lobuntu. Umntu onama-narcissistic ucinga ukuba ungaphezulu kwabanye, kuquka neqabane lakhe. Ukhathalele kuphela into enye kwaye yintlalontle yakhe kwaye uya kubeka nantoni na phambi kwakhe ukuze ayifezekise. Umntu othanda i-narcissistic uya kufuna ukuba iqabane lakhe lihlale limnqula kwaye liqaqambise zonke iimpawu zabo ezintle. I-ego inkulu kangangokuba icinga ukuba yinkokeli yokwenene kwesi sibini kwaye aluthatheli ngqalelo kwaphela uluvo lomnye umntu.
Yintoni enokuyenza ukuba iqabane li-narcissistic
Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba akukho lula okanye kulula ukuphelisa ubudlelwane nomntu othandabuzayo. Amandla omntu we-narcissistic makhulu kangangokuba alawula kakhulu umntu othotyiweyo, okwenza kube nzima ukuphelisa ubudlelwane. Kukho imeko yokuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo eyenza ukuba iqhina liqhubeke kwaye lingaqhawuki.
Umntu onarcissistic yi-manipulator yokuzalwa, usebenzisa ukukhohlisa kwiqabane. Oku kukhohlisa kukhulu kangangokuba kukho umonakalo omkhulu nobalulekileyo ngokweemvakalelo nangokwengqondo kwesi sibini. Into ecetyiswayo kwimeko enjalo kukuya kwisangqa esisondeleyo kwaye ufune inkxaso yabahlobo kunye nosapho. Uncedo lobuchwephesha obuchwephesha kulo mbandela lungundoqo kwaye lubalulekile xa kufikwa ekwaphuleni ubudlelwane obuyityhefu nobungenampilo. Into ebalulekileyo ngaphezu kwayo yonke into, kukubuyisela ukuzithemba okulahlekileyo kunye nokuzithemba kunye nokukwazi ukuqhawula ubudlelwane obudaliwe.
Isibini esitshatileyo esinemicimbi kubudlelwane, sigxeka omnye komnye ngeengxaki
Musa ukuwela kwi-blackmailing behavior ye-narcissistic partner
I-blackmail yeemvakalelo sesona sixhobo anaso umntu othanda ukubhuqa. ukuze iqabane lingamlahli. Ngaphandle kokuziphatha okunetyhefu ngokupheleleyo kunye nokuziphatha, umntu othanda i-narcissistic ucinga ukuba ungaphezulu kweqabane lakhe kwaye uya kwenza konke okusemandleni ukumgcina ecaleni kwakhe. Kubalulekile ukukholelwa kuwe kwaye ube nabahlobo kunye nosapho xa kuziwa ekwahlukaneni ngokuqinisekileyo nobudlelwane.
Kuhle ukuphepha naluphi na uhlobo lwengxabano okanye umlo onokubangela amathandabuzo athile malunga nesigqibo esithathiweyo. Ubudlelwane kufuneka busekelwe kuthando kunye nokulingana kwawo omabini amaqela, Ukuba oku akwenzeki, kunokwenzeka ukuba ubudlelwane buyityhefu kwaye kufuneka bupheliswe.
Ngamafutshane, akucebisi okanye kucetyiswa ukuba kugcinwe ubudlelwane nomntu onobuqhetseba. Umntu othethayo une-ego enkulu kangangokuba uya kuhlala ekholelwa ukuba ungaphezulu kweqabane lakhe. Kumntu onama-narcissistic, ubulungisa abukho kwaye baya kuqwalasela iqabane labo njengomntu ongaphantsi kwakhe abanokumlawula ngokweemvakalelo ngalo lonke ixesha befuna.