Xa sithetha ngazo ukuphathwa ngokweemvakalelo, kufuneka sicace gca malunga nomba omnye: luhlobo lobundlongondlongo obufihlakeleyo obunobundlobongela ngokomzimba. Kodwa ngokuchanekileyo kukungabonakali kwayo kangangokuba kunzima ukuyibona, kwaye kunzima ukuyikhupha. Kodwa kuyinyani ecacileyo. Inyaniso yokuba uninzi lwabasetyhini luyasokola kwaye ukusuka kwindawo yethu, sifuna ukubonisa.
Baninzi abantu abaye baba nesiphatho ngokweemvakalelo njengeqabane. Ukudinwa ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwengqondo esinokufikelela kuko kunzima kwaye kuyingozi, kungoko kubalulekile ukuba sihlale sinendawo elungileyo yoluntu enokusinceda. Ukuba ayinakusenza kuphela ukuba sibone okwenzekayo, kodwa ikwabonelela ngenkxaso yokuphuma ubudlelwane obunetyhefu. Bakwaziwa ngokuba "ngabaxhaphazi beemvakalelo", abantu abathi ngandlela thile bazi kakuhle ukuba zeziphi iinkangeleko abanokuzisebenzisa. Ukoyisa, ukulawula kunye nokuhlutha ngesimilo sakhe. Ke sikunika izitshixo ezisisiseko ukuze wazi ukuba ungaziqonda njani. Kufanelekile ukwazi ukuba ungabuchonga njani obu buntu bunakho ukusenza siwele kubudlelwane apho ulonwabo luya kuba lixabiso eliphezulu ekunzima ukulufikelela.
Iindlela zokuchonga ubuqhetseba beemvakalelo
1. Guqula iimfuno
Okokuqala, kufuneka sicace kwinto enye. Isidenge solawulo lweemvakalelo sihlala siqala ubudlelwane bakhe ngobuqili. Kuqala kuya kuba nzima kuthi ukwazi ukuba ngasemva kwalomntu unobubele ngokugqithileyo, kukho irhamncwa ngokweemvakalelo. Baqala njengabantu abakhathalayo nabanobubele. Bafuna ukusoloko besinceda kwaye bekhathalela zonke iinkcukacha ukuze sizibone sikhathalelwe. Kodwa kwangaxeshanye, kuya kwenzeka into ekufuneka siyazi. Yonke into abayithandayo baya kuba nexabiso kwaye iya kuba yinto abahlala beyiphosa ebusweni bethu. "Ndiyenzele le nto, khumbula, ngekhe undiphumelele ngoku."
Ezi ntlobo zamabinzana zihlala ziqhelekile. Babo iimfuno Ukufihla ii-covertt kuza kuza kancinci kancinci, kodwa phantse rhoqo ukusinyanzela ukuba senze izinto phantsi kwezisongelo zobuqhetseba ezinje, “Ukuba awuyenzi, kungenxa yokuba awundithandi. Ngayo yonke into endikwenzele yona. Kufuneka silumke.
2. Ukuphikisana rhoqo
Le ndlela yokuziphatha ngokungathandabuzekiyo yenye yezona zinto ziphazamisayo. Enye yezona zinto zidandathekisayo ngokweemvakalelo. Abaphuli ngokufuthi banomkhwa wokuwanyelisa amazwi ethu. Ngamanye amaxesha basixelela izinto abathi kamva baphike ukuba banxibelelana nathi. Bayayoliswa kukusidibanisa nokusibhenca esidlangalaleni nasekhusini. Umdla wokuphikisana nathi kwizihlandlo ezininzi ngenjongo yenzelwe ukuba usenze amandla athile.
3. Abakhohlisi beemvakalelo "ngamagosa asolwayo"
Inqaku linokukothusa, kodwa liyinyani ebonakalayo. Yintoni efihliweyo ngasemva kweli binzana yimfuno yaba bantu yokusenza sizive singalunganga. Baya kuhlala bevela njengamaxhoba angaqondakaliyo esingaziyo ukuba angakhathalelwa njani. Kulabo esingabaqapheliyo okanye esingakwaziyo ukubonakalisa uthando lwethu. Amaqhinga abawenzayo okusenza sizive sinetyala anokwahluka kakhulu. I-blackmail efundwe kakuhle apho sichanabekwa khona, apho siziva singalunganga okanye sisenze sikholelwe ukuba sithi abenzakalisa abakhohlakeleyo. Sukuwa kwezi nethiwekhi, gcinani engqondweni ukuba ixhoba kwezi meko liya kuhlala lihleli.
Uthando lokwenyani, iqabane lokwenyani kwisibini esisempilweni kwaye sonwabile, alifuni okanye liphange imali. Akaze afune ukukukhathaza.
4. Ukungabikho koxanduva
Umlawuli weemvakalelo akaboni kubhala kwakhe kwizenzo zakhe. Ukuba uyakukhalisa, akasokuze avume ukuba lityala lakhe, luxanduva lwakhe. Ngokusisiseko iya kuba ngenxa yethu kunye nokusilela kwethu ukuxabisa izinto. Abaziboni iziphumo zezenzo zabo, kwaye ukuba bayazivuma baya kuvela phambi kwethu njengamaxhoba bafuna ukuxolelwa, ukuba bafanele ukuxolelwa kuba yonke into abayenzileyo yenzelwe thina. "Ngothando". Kuya kufuneka ke silumke kakhulu ebusweni beli hlobo lokuziphatha, apho sijamelana nabantu abangakwaziyo ukubona uxanduva lwabo kwiindlela zabo zokuziphatha gwenxa, okanye ukusilela kokuvuthwa ngokweemvakalelo.
5.Ukwazi ukulawula imeko yeemvakalelo ngokunjalo
Luhlobo lokuziphatha olufihlakeleyo kakhulu, kwaye luphawu olufanayo ngexesha elinye. Xa umphathi weemvakalelo elusizi, wenza ukuba usizi lusingenelele. Ukuba unomsindo, uya kuyidlulisa eyakhe rabiye Kwimekobume. Ukuba wonwabile, wonke umntu kufuneka abelane ngesimo sakhe nokuba asikwazi ukuncuma. Iimvakalelo zakhe ziphambili kunezinye kwaye yile ndlela alindele ukuba abanye baziphathe ngayo: ngendlela efanayo naleyo ayenzayo. Yiyo loo nto, umntu ophatha iimvakalelo uhlala engenalo uvelwano. Ukhathalele kuphela ilizwe lakhe langaphakathi.
Ukuququmbela. Kuya kufuneka sikhumbule ukuba ekuqaleni, ezi ntlobo zobuntu ziyahamba zifihliwe ngomfanekiso wokusondela okucocekileyo. Ngomtsalane omkhulu kwaye ndedwa. Banobubele kwaye bafuna ukwenza ubomi bube lula kakhulu kuthi ngokusizalisa ngezipho kunye nokuqwalaselwa. Emva kwexesha, ezi ngqwalaselo ziya kuhlala zibanjiwe ngokufunwa nangokwehliswa.
Ngokwenyani, ukuzithemba okuphantsi kuhlala kufihla phantsi kwezi profayile. Bangabantu abafuna ukusebenzisa amandla kwaye balawule ukufihla ukungakhuli kwabo kunye kwabo ubuthathaka kwaye ubhetyebhetye. Abangobantu onokonwaba nabo, enyanisweni, abakwazi ukonwaba ngokwabo kuba bahlala bengonelisekanga. Iimfuno zabo zeemvakalelo azifane zifezekiswe. Bafuna ngaphezulu, kwaye ngenxa yoko ubuqhetseba kubo yindlela yabo yokulawula kunye nokuziva beqinisekisiwe.
Ubuntu obunetyhefu zezona zonakalisayo. Akufanelekanga ukunciphisa umlinganiso wethu, ulonwabo kunye nokuzithemba kwethu nabantu abangakwaziyo ukusibona. Ukuhloniphana. Kufuneka sihlale sizihlonipha, kwaye sifumane abantu abasemphefumlweni nabakhulileyo, abakwaziyo ukusizisela ulonwabo lokwenene. Lowo ungafuni kwanto ukuba abuye.