El inkqubo yokufunda nokukhula Isenza ukuba sixhomekeke kwabanye abantu ekuqaleni kobomi bethu, njengabazali bethu okanye abo bathathe indima yokuba ngabanakekeli. Nangona kunjalo, kuye kufike ixesha apho kufuneka siqale ukuzimela kwaye sizimele. Namhlanje abantu abaninzi baxhomekeke kwabanye abantu kwizinto ezininzi, nokuba ngabahlobo, abantakwenu okanye iqabane.
Ukuxhomekeka kakhulu kubandakanya ukungakwazi ukukhula njengomntu kwaye ukomelela. Kungenxa yoko le nto ukuba sixhomekeke kakhulu emntwini Kufuneka sifunde ukuzimela. Olu luphawu esinokulufumana ngokuziqhelanisa kwaye ezi ngcebiso.
Yamkela unjani
Abantu abaxhomekeke kwabanye banesidima kwaye abazamkeli ukuba bangobani. Bavame ukukholelwa kakhulu kwiimpazamo zabo kunye neempazamo zabo ke bavumele abanye bathathe imithambo yeemeko. Inkqubo ye- Ukwamkela isiqu sethu linyathelo lokuqala ukuphucula njengabantu. Kufuneka sizazi kwaye sizazi ukuba sinjani, iimpawu esinazo kunye neziphene ezikhoyo ebantwini bonke, hayi kuthi kuphela.
Kholelwa kuwe
Njengoko sisitsho, i Ukungabikho kokuzithemba kukhokelela ekuxhomekekeni kwabanye. Ngamanye amaxesha oku kuxhomekeka kuye kwafundwa, kuba sinabazali okanye amaqabane akhusela kakhulu kwaye akasivumeli ukuba sijongane nobomi kunye neengxaki sisodwa. Oku kusenza sicinge ukuba ngenene asinakho ukuyenza kwaye siyeke ukuzama, ukudlulisela uxanduva komnye umntu. Ukuba ufuna ukuzimela, into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenzile kukukholelwa ukuba ungazenza kwaye uzenzele izinto ngokwakho. Ukuba uyakholelwa kwisiqu sakho, ungaqala ukukhula kwaye uzimele.
Zithande
El ukuzithanda kubaluleke kakhulu kwezi meko. Baninzi abantu abaxhomekeke ngokweemvakalelo kumaqabane abo. Amaxesha amaninzi sivile ukuba umntu akanakuphila ngaphandle komnye umntu, kodwa ayiyonyani leyo. Ukuba siyazithanda ngaphezu kwayo yonke enye into, singonwabela uthando olusempilweni kwaye oluhle. Siyakwazi ukuhlala kubudlelwane obusizisela ulonwabo kwaye sibaleke ezo zinetyhefu kuba ukuthanda kwethu kuya kuthintela ukuba singazenzakalisi. Ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo kuyingozi kakhulu kuzo zonke iimeko, kuba kusenza ukonwaba kwethu kuxhomekeke kwinto yangaphandle esingenakulawula kuyo, kanti enyanisweni kufanele ukuxhomekeka kuthi.
Funda ukuba wedwa
Baninzi abantu abangafuni ukuba bodwa kwaye abangakuthandiyo oko. Nangona kunjalo, ukufunda ukuba wedwa kwaye uyonwabele nako kunokuba Inyathelo elihle lokufunda ukuzimela. Abantu abaninzi bayoyika ukwenza izinto bodwa okanye bacinge ukuba ngekhe bazonwabele. Kodwa oko kubalulekile ukuba ufunde ukuba wedwa, nokuba kukuya kwimiboniso bhanyabhanya ngosuku olunye, ukuba nekofu okanye ukucamngca wedwa.
Ukucinga okuqinisekileyo
Abantu abaxhomekekileyo phantse bahlala benembono engalunganga ngeziqu zabo kwaye banomdla wokucinga ukuba izinto azizukuhamba kakuhle okanye abazukukwazi ukuzenza. Ukucinga okuhle kuyimfuneko kwezi meko, njengoko kusinceda lahla uloyiko lwethu kwaye ukholelwe kuthi. Ngeengcinga ezintle sinokuzikhuthaza ukuba siphucule kwaye sifunde ukuzimela.
Yamkela izinto
Ukuzimela kukwathetha Yamkela ukuba abanye abasoloko bekho ngenxa yethu kwaye akukho nto yenzekayo. Kufuneka sifunde ukwamkela izimvo zabo kunye nendlela yabo yokuphila, kuba siya kuba nezethu. Ukongeza, kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba izinto aziyi kuhlala zihamba kakuhle kodwa yindlela yokufunda ukuphucula nokuzimela ngakumbi.