Ngokutsho UWalter Riso, Isayikholojisti kunye neengcali kubudlelwane obunomdla, ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo kuhambelana kakhulu Ukungavuthwa ngokweemvakalelo. Kwincwadi yakhe, uchaza iindlela zokuziphatha ezichonga abantu abangafezekanga kwinqanaba leemvakalelo. Zezi zilandelayo:
- Abakwazi ukuma baziva bezimele kwaye bebodwa.
- yakhe likhoboka lezinto ezintsha kunye nokuvuselela iimvakalelo; ubomi babo buyadika ukuba akukho kulila, idrama okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, ukuba abazifumani iimvakalelo zokuthandana.
- Abalunyamezeli unxunguphalo.
- Bazixhalabisa ngeemvakalelo zabo, nangaphezulu kokusombulula iingxaki ezizivelisayo.
- Abaziwa kuninzi kubo.
- Abakulungelanga ilahleko. Bacinga ukuba yonke into ingunaphakade.
- Abakwazi ukuzibamba: Baqala ngokwenza kwaye emva koko bacinga ngezenzo zabo (ngesiqhelo).
- Xa baneqabane, ubomi babo bujikeleze ubomi bakhe; abanabomi bobaboAzinazo iiprojekthi kunye namaphupha kwaye abatsali ekwabelaneni ngeendawo nabanye abantu.
- Uhlala ufumana amava ukuziva unetyala. Ukuba ubudlelwane buhamba kakubi bahlala becinga ukuba "yimpazamo" kwaye kufuneka aphucule.
- yakhe abantu abanomona kakhulu kwaye babanga ukuba bodwa, ukungamkeli ukuba amaqabane abo anobomi boluntu ngaphandle kolwalamano lwabo.
- Bacinga ngokugqithiseleyo kubudlelwane babo obunomdla, kwaye xa kukho into ebakhathazayo ngayo, abakwazi ukwenza omnye umsebenzi okanye bacinge ngayo nayiphi na into ngaphandle kobudlelwane babo bothando.
- Bayakwamkela nakuphi na ukuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo, nkqu nokwamkela ukuhlaselwa ngokwasemzimbeni nokungathembeki.
- Banokuzithemba okuphantsi kwaye bazithembile kakhulu.
Kulula ukuwela ekuxhomekekeni ngokweemvakalelo kunokuba ukholelwa ngokwenyani, kuba xa umthanda ngokwenene umntu, kwicala lothando lobudlelwane, bayasithengisela yona kwiimuvi okanye kwiingoma, kucingelwa ukuba yonke into ingenziwa ngothando. Ewe, ngokuyinxenye kuyinyani, uthando lokwenyani lufanelwe lukhulu, kodwa akufuneki ulahlekelwe sisidima sakho, kwaye akufuneki utshintshe nakubani na, ingakumbi ukuyeka ukwenza ubomi bakho ngenxa yeemfuno (zokwenyani okanye ezingezizo) zomnye umntu.
Ke, indlela yokuthanda ngaphandle kokuxhomekeka, usenokuzibuza ... Okulandelayo siyabona.
Ewe ungathanda ngaphandle kokuxhomekeka
Eyona ngxaki iphambili kwaye iphakathi kwabantu abaneengxaki zokuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo ubukhulu becala kukuzithemba kwakhe okuphantsi. Bathandana kancinci kakhulu, ke, kuya kufuneka usebenze ikakhulu nabo ukuzithemba, i ukuzazi kunye ukuzihlalutya ngokwakho, ngaphandle kwesidingo sokuba abanye basho ukuba mhle kangakanani okanye umhle kangakanani.
Inyathelo lesibini liya kuba nandipha imisebenzi yodwa. Ngokwesiqhelo, kucingelwa ukuba siyakruqula sodwa kuba asinabani esinokuthetha naye ngemovie, esinokuhamba naye ukuba sibethwe ngumoya, okanye senze umthambo. Ewe, aba bantu kufuneka bayiqonde kuqala, ukuthanda omnye umntu kakuhle, kufuneka sikhululeke kwaye sibe seluxolweni kunye nathi ngaphambili. Kuya kufuneka sikwazi ukuba sodwa kwaye singaziva kakubi ngayo; Kuya kufuneka sikwazi ukonwabela ukuba wedwa sisenza zonke iintlobo zemisebenzi ngaphandle kokukhanyisa ukuba sisodwa okanye siziva njani; Kufuneka sizithande kuqala ukuze sikwazi ukuthanda umntu wokwenene.
Hayi ngokuxhomekeka ngakumbi kumntu omfuna ngakumbi nangakumbi. Ungazikhohlisi!