Abantu abangathembekiyo Banoluvo lokuba abanakuthemba mntu, okanye phantse nabani na. Sithetha ngeemvakalelo ezimbi okanye imvakalelo enokuthi ichaphazele ubomi bethu phantse ngokungazi. Kungenxa yokuba ayisiyonto esinokuyilawula ngalo lonke ixesha.
Yiyo loo nto namhlanje kufuneka siye nzulu kule mvakalelo, kwinto enokusichaphazela ukuba singathembi bantu kwaye sicinge ukuba nabanye banjalo. Konke oku nokunye okuninzi ukuze sikwazi ukuqonda olunye lweemvakalelo esihlangana nazo mihla le. Ngaba kwenzeka into efanayo nakuwe?
Kwenzeka ntoni xa umntu engathembi kakhulu
Ukuba asithembi ngabantu, kungenxa yokuba ukuthembana ekufuneka kubekhona kuthi kunomgca obhityileyo. Ke ukuba ukungathembeki kuthi, kunokuba yingxaki ukumisa ubudlelwane nabanye. Ukuba ibhekisa kwabanye, ke iyafana. Kuba obu budlelwane abunakwenziwa ngesiseko esiqinileyo kuba kuya kuhlala kukho isithunzi sokuthandabuza. Ngenxa yoko, akukho lula ukuhlala ungabathembi abantu ngokubanzi. Kuba, kwiimeko ezigabadeleyo, sinokubathandabuza nabantu ababonakalise ngokwenyani uthando lwabo olungenamiqathango kuthi. Kuba ingqondo, inamandla njengoko injalo, iya kusenza sikholelwe ukuba asikufanelanga ngokwenyani okusingqongileyo.
Simele siyikhumbule loo nto umntu ongathembi mntu uhlupheka kakhulu. Uya kuhlala ehlalutya iimeko, iincoko kunye nezimbo zomzimba Zingakanani izinto ezithethayo ngawe. Ke le mvakalelo idala isilumkiso, imeko yoxinzelelo ngaphezulu kokuqhubeka, ebaphawula. Kwabaninzi, luhlobo lweqokobhe abalenzayo ukuze bangasokola.
Yintoni ebangela umntu ongathembiyo
Kwelinye icala kunokubakho umntu owakhe wonzakala ngaphambili. Yiyo loo nto, xa umonakalo uqokelela, kunzima ukukwazi ukuthembela ngokupheleleyo kwakhona. Kuhlala kukho ukuthandabuza, ukungathembani kwaye, ukuba awusebenzi, iyakwanda. Kodwa kukuba kwelinye icala akusoloko kukho loo monakalo kodwa kukungathembani, imvakalelo yokungabi nentembelo epheleleyo kubantu abasingqongileyo. Oku kungenxa yoluvo olusitsala sibuye umva endaweni yokuba sikwazi ukuya phambili. Ke, sinokuthi abantu abathembekanga hayi kuba bekhethile, kodwa ngenxa yokuba benoloyiko olubathintela ukuba babone elinye icala lengqekembe.
Ungamnceda njani umntu ongathembiyo
Ukuze uncede uphume kuloo loop, akukho nto injengokucaca kwabantu phambi kwabo. Oko kukuthi, akukho kuphambuka, ukuxelela yonke into njengoko injalo kwaye kuhlala kubonisa elona cala lethu lilungileyo. Ukongeza, kuya kufuneka uzame ukungazikhuseli kwaye uhlala umamela izinto abanye abantu abakuxelela zona. Ke akufuneki sibagwebe kuqala kodwa silinde ukubona iinyani zabo kwaye sibe nomonde omncinci. Oku kusivumela ukuba sikunike umda wexesha ukuze ukwazi ukusibonisa ukuba ukuthembana kuya kubakho ngokwenene.
Akufuneki sicinge mntu okanye benze oku kuthi. Kuba wonke umntu wenza iimpazamo, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha phantse ngaphandle kokuyiqonda okanye iimpazamo ezincinci. Ke ngoko, kuya kufuneka ubekezelele kwaye ungathembi abantu nangakumbi. Elinye icebo ekufuneka lisetyenzisiwe kukuba kufuneka babe bhetyebhetye ngakumbi, bangamiseli mda, kodwa bavule ngakumbi ngaphandle kweemfuno ezininzi. Ukuze uvelise ukuzithemba ngakumbi kumntu ongathembekanga, kuya kufuneka wenze okungakumbi kwaye unike izinto ezininzi kunamazwi.