Ngubani omnye kwaye ngubani omncinci ekuye kwafuneka ajongane naye ngamanye amaxesha, ngelishwa mhlawumbi amaxesha amaninzi, ngohlobo oluthile lwe abantu abenza okubi kuthi kunokulungileyo Kwicala lethu. Nantsi into esifuna ukuthetha ngayo namhlanje kweli nqaku likhethekileyo kwezengqondo: abantu abetyhefu, yabantu ekufuneka basuswe ebomini bethu okanye ubuncinci, "inyathelo" elilinganiselweyo kwimicimbi ethile yenyani yethu yemihla ngemihla.
Namhlanje sikwazisa kwiintlobo zabantu abanetyhefu onokuthi uhlangane nabo kwaye sikunike uthotho lwezikhokelo ukuze zingakuchaphazeli kubomi bakho, kwimpilo yakho nakwimeko yakho elungileyo.
Ungababona njani aba bantu
Ube nosuku oluhle, kwisimo esihle, kwaye emva kwengxoxo nomntu okanye intlanganiso elula, uziva udimazekile, udakumbile okanye uswele amandla. Mhlawumbi, ungaqondanga, ukhe wadibana nomntu "obile" la mandla kuwe. Inokwenzeka njani loo nto? Okulandelayo, siza kukunika uthotho lwamanqaku apho phantse zonke iintlobo zabantu abanetyhefu esinokudibana nazo zihlala zihambelana:
- "Bayiba" amaphupha ethu, ukucinga kwethu, ukonwaba kwethu ...
- Bayasibeka ityala Ukuzisola kwakho, ukungonwabi kwabo, ...
- Bayasirhalela kodwa kwangaxeshanye zisenza sizive sithotyiwe ukuze ungaqhubeki nokukhula njengomntu, uyeke, uyeke ...
- Ngamanye amaxesha bakulahlekisa ungakhange uqaphele, Ukwenza unodoli olulawulwa ngokuthanda.
- Banokufikelela kuwe ukubetha ngamazwi xa belahlekelwa ngamaphepha abo okanye xa ungazenzi izinto ebezilindelwe kuwe.
- Ngokwesiqhelo ukuzingca nokuxhomekeka kakhulu. Bahlala befuna indumiso, phantse ukunqulwa.
Iindidi zabantu abanetyhefu
Nangona phantse zonke zisebenza phantsi kweepateni ezifanayo, abantu abanetyhefu banokwahlulwa baba zezi ntlobo:
- I-Egocentric: Bathetha iziqu zabo kuphela kwaye abanandaba nawe, ilizwe lakho, ...
- Umona: Bahlala becinga ukuba eyakho ingcono kunabo kwaye yiyo loo nto kufanelekile ukuba umntu othile "akukhuphe efini."
- Okubi: Yonke into inento engalunganga, yonke into ine "kodwa". Nokuba zihamba kakuhle kangakanani izinto, uhlala ulumkile kuba kukho into engahambanga kakuhle ngaphambi kwexesha layo ...
- Kuhle kakhulu: Ngabo bakholelwa ukuba bazi yonke into, abasoloko bekholelwa ukuba baneyona nyani iqinisekileyo. Ukuba ngengozi awuvumelani nabo, banokuziva bekhubekile okanye bengakhululekanga.
- Amaxhoba: Unokuba mbi ngenene, kodwa baya kuhlala bebi kakhulu kunawe, kwaye baya kukwenza ukuba ububone ... . Benza oku ikakhulu ukuze bakunike ingqalelo kwaye babe yinto ekugxilwe kuyo.
- Ukungafaneleki kunye "namasela ephupha": Baza kuhlala bekuxelela ukuba into oyenzayo ayilunganga okanye ungangcono. Akukho kwanto uyenzayo eyoneleyo ...
Ewe, nje ukuba uzibone ezi ntlobo zabantu, eyona ngcebiso iphambili sikunika yona kukuba uhlale kude nabo kangangoko unakho. Aba bantu baya kugqiba ukubulala onke amandla akho kunye namaphupha owakhayo. Siyazi ukuba kulula ukuyithetha le nto kodwa ayenziwa, ngakumbi xa aba bantu bengengobahlobo nje kodwa kusenokwenzeka ukuba bakusapho lwakho.
Ukuba le yeyokugqibela, funda ukuthi "hayi", uzenze uhlonitshwe, ubeke izithintelo xa aba bantu bezama ukoyisa into engeyiyo inkxalabo yabo. Kodwa ngaphezu kwayo yonke into, intetho ethandwa kakhulu ekufuneka uhlala uyikhumbula ngaphambi kwezi ntlobo zabantu: «Akukho mfama imbi ngakumbi kunaleyo angafuniyo ukuyibona ...». Jonga kakuhle ngeenxa zonke kuwe kwaye uziqonde ngokwakho ngabantu abenza konke oku ngasentla kunye nawe (sebenzisa, ungafaneleki, njl.). Nguwe kuphela onesitshixo kumnyango wobomi bakho, kuphela unamandla okuthatha isigqibo sokuba ngubani ongena okanye ophumayo.