Uthando oludandathekileyo luhlobo lokuthabatheka apho elinye lamaqela akwibhondi inengxaki yokuphazamiseka kwengqondo enje ngokudakumba. Ekuboneni kokuqala, kunokubonakala ngathi akunantsingiselo kodwa luhlobo lothando olunempawu zalo. Kuyinyani ukuba kwiimeko ezininzi, ukuze isibini sibe nothando, kufanele ukuba kubekho ulungelelwaniso lweemvakalelo phakathi kwabo bobabini abantu.
Nangona kunjalo, kwezinye iimeko uthando oludlulileyo olukhankanyiweyo lunokwenzeka, ngaphandle kwengxaki enkulu yeemvakalelo ekhoyo kulwalamano olunjalo.
Uxinzelelo kunye nothando
Ekuboneni kokuqala kunokuba nzima ukukholelwa ukuba umntu oxinezelekileyo uyathandana kwaye uneqabane. Kwiimeko ezininzi, uxinzelelo yimvakalelo ebonisa ukuba lilolo kunye nokungabikho kothando, nokuba kukwindawo yobuqu, yosapho okanye yomsebenzi. Nangona kunjalo, uthando olufunyanwa komnye umntu lunokwenza indawo edakumbileyo izive ngcono kwaye ifune ukuphuma kwelo qula linzulu ludandatheko. Unokuthi umntu odandathekileyo ufuna uthando lomnye umntu ukuze azive engcono kwaye ndibubone ubomi ngokwembono elungileyo.
Yintoni uthando oludandathekisayo?
Ubudlelwane obuxinzelelekileyo benzeka xa umntu ophethwe yingxaki enjalo, fumana umntu oza kukunceda ujamelane noxinzelelo olunje. Ingxaki enkulu yolu hlobo lobudlelwane kungenxa yokuba isibini kufuneka sibe zizinto ezimbini kwaye ibhalansi eyimfuneko ayizukuveliswa.
Umntu oxinezelekileyo ufuna uthando lweqabane lakhe ukuze azive ulungile, kodwa omnye umntu akafumani oko bafuna ukuba bakwibhalansi ethile. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba icandelo elinikezelayo kodwa lingamkeli nto, uphela uyadinwa kwaye awunikeli nto kumntu onexinzelelo. Ke ngoko, olu lwalamano ngokuthe ngcembe luyancipha kwaye luphela luqhekeka ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Isidingo sothando kubudlelwane bexinzelelo
Uthando oludandathekileyo luya kugwetyelwa ukusilela ngenxa yokungabikho kothando kulwalamano ngokwalo. Ekuqaleni okanye kwixesha elifutshane, isibini sinokusebenza ngaphandle kwengxaki, kodwa ngokuhamba kwexesha iintanda ziqala ukubonakala ngakumbi kwaye ubudlelwane buphela buqhekeka.
Njengoko besesitshilo apha ngasentla, ubudlelwane kufuneka bulingane kuyo yonke into kwaye ubukho boxinzelelo komnye wabantu benza ukuba ulungelelwaniso olungenzeki. Isidingo sothando kwelinye lamaqela ngaphandle kokubuyisela nantoni na, yenza esi sibini singabinamva ingakumbi kwixesha eliphakathi nelide.
Ngamafutshane, ubudlelwane obudandathekileyo abuhlali busebenza kuninzi lweziganeko kwaye baya kugwetywa. Umntu oxinezelekileyo uthatha uthando lomnye umntu njengesiyobisi sokwenyani ekufuneka aphile ngaso kangangokoNangona kunjalo, akanikeli nto ngokubuyisela esi sibini. Ke ngoko, ubudlelwane bexinzelelo abusebenzi kwixesha elide kwaye buphele buqhekeka.