Asingabo bonke abantwana abakwaziyo ukuziqhelanisa nesikolo emva kwexesha leeholide. Ukungabikho kolungelelwaniso kuthatha inqanaba leemvakalelo kubantwana abaninzi, bafumana iimvakalelo ezinjengosizi okanye ukungakhathali. Liyinene elithi akukho lula nakubani na ukuba abuyele esiqhelweni kodwa ngokuhamba kweentsuku, izinto kufuneka ziqheleke. Kwimeko yabantwana, ukuba ukungaqhelani kakuhle nesikolo kuyaqhubeka ekuhambeni kweentsuku, abazali kufuneka bafumane unobangela wengxaki enjalo baze bafumane isisombululo kuyo.
Kwinqaku elilandelayo sikubonisa abona nobangela baqhelekileyo bokungaqhelani kakuhle kwabantwana abaninzi ukuba babuyele esikolweni nokuba benze ntoni ngako.
Izizathu zokuba kutheni umntwana engaziqhelani nesikolo
- Kwiimeko ezininzi, i-maladaptation ibangelwa yinto eyaziwa ngokuba yi-post-holiday syndrome. Ukubuyela esikolweni kuthetha ukuba utshintsho olukhawulezayo kwindlela abantwana abancinci, into enefuthe elibi kwizinto zombini kunye nengqondo. Kwezi meko, inkxaso yentsapho nokuhamba kweentsuku kuya kunceda umntwana agqibe kwelokuba aqhelane nendlela yokuya esikolweni.
- Kwezinye iimeko, i-maladaptation ibangelwa yinkxalabo abantwana ababa nayo xa behlukene nabazali babo. Oku ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka kwimeko encinci, ngakumbi xa kufuneka baye esikolweni kwaye yahlula kwiiyure ezimbalwa ukusuka kumanani aqhotyoshelweyo.
- Kwezinye iimeko amava abalulekileyo njengokuba kunjalo ngokwahlukana kwabazali okanye ukuzalwa komntwana wakowenu inokuba ngunobangela wokungaqhelani kakuhle nesikolo.
- Ngamanye amaxesha izizathu ze-maladaptation kufuneka zenze nayo yonke into ejikeleze isikolo: ukusuka kubudlelwane obubi kunye nabafundi ofunda nabo ukuya ekubeni baqalise ikhosi entsha.
Indlela yokunceda abantwana baqhelane nesikolo ngokweminyaka
Iminyaka 0-3
Kuyinto eqhelekileyo ngabantwana bale minyaka ukuba babe neengxaki ezinzulu zokuziqhelanisa nesikolo. Ukwahlula kwi-attachment figure sisizathu soku. Njengoko iintsuku zihamba, umntwana uya ezithemba kwaye uziva ekhululekile esikolweni.
Iminyaka 3-6
Ukutshintsha ukusuka kwi-nursery ukuya esikolweni kubaluleke kakhulu kuninzi lwabantwana, kungoko banobunzima obuthile obunxulumene nokuziqhelanisa. Kule meko, abazali bafanele benze konke okusemandleni ukuze abantwana baqhelane nayo yonke into engqonge isikolo.
Ngaphezulu kweminyaka emi-6
Kwimeko yabantwana abangaphezu kweminyaka emi-6 ubudala, kuyimfuneko ukufumana isizathu sokungaqhelani kakuhle nesikolo. Into eqhelekileyo kukuba yinto yexeshana esonjululwa ngokuhamba kweentsuku. Kwezinye iimeko ingxaki inokuba nzulu ngakumbi kwaye ibaluleke ngakumbi. Kule meko kubalulekile ukuhlala phantsi nomntwana nize niwuxubushe lo mbandela ngendlela ezolileyo nekhululekileyo. Kuhle ukumphulaphula nokuvelana naye kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
Inkxaso yomzali ingundoqo ekufumaneni esona sisombululo sifanelekileyo kwingxaki yokulungelelanisa. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, abazali banokufuna uncedo kubafundisi-ntsapho esikolweni. Naluphi na uncedo luncinci ukuze ufumane isizathu sengxaki kwaye ufumane isisombululo esona sisombululo.