Yikholwe okanye hayi, ngokophando olwenziwe kwiDyunivesithi yaseSt. Ingqondo yethu "yenziwe" ukuba iphinde ibuye kwakhona ekuphoxekeni, nkqu neemvakalelo. Yindlela yohlengahlengiso lwethu lomntu, ethi, kwaye ngenxa yomelela, sikwazi ukuqhubela phambili kumjikelo wobomi.
Siyazi ukuba akukho lula ukukholelwa. Sonke sidlule kula manqanaba okuphoxeka, tristezas y malestar emocional donde no es precisamente sencillo romper el vínculo con una persona que hasta no hace mucho, era el pilar de nuestra existencia. Ahora bien, para entender un poco más este proceso, hoy en Bezzia te invitamos a tener en cuenta estos aspectos.
Ukudana kunye nokuphendula kwayo kwingqondo yethu
I-Neurologists njengo-Ethan Kross, basixelele ukuba ukuphoxeka kufana "nokutsha" kwingqondo yethu. Kuvakala ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo kunomtsalane, ngakumbi kuba xa sibonile ngesandi, sinokufumanisa ukuba zeziphi iindawo zengqondo ezenziwa zasebenza, kwaye ngokwenene, ukuphoxeka kothando, okuvuselela iindawo ezithile ezizakuqinisekisa ukuba "umphefumlo wam ubuhlungu".
- Ukwenza uvavanyo kunye nokufunda, uGqr Kross wenza iimvavanyo kwiYunivesithi yaseMichigan ukuya Hlalutya imisebenzi yobuchopho ngokujonga ngemagneti kumavolontiya ahlukeneyo awayedlula kwixesha elinzima leemvakalelo.
- Emva kwexesha, ebona ulwakhiwo lwemithambo-luvo olwalugqithisile, wenza ezinye, iimvavanyo "ezingathandekiyo" kwiqela labafundi baseyunivesithi abavolontiya. Kwaye yayiluphi uvavanyo? Ikomityi yekofu eshushu yagalelwa engalweni yabo. Kwakumalunga nokuva iintlungu "zokutsha."
- Kuyamangalisa njengoko kubonakala ngathi, iindawo ezisebenzayo ze-neural zazifana, oko kukuthi, Ukuphoxeka okusebenzayo kunye nokutsha komzimba Iindawo ezimbini zobuchopho ezinxulumene nentlungu yomzimbai-cortex yesibini kunye ne-insors yangemva yangemva.
Oku kuya kubonisa, eneneni ukuba iintlungu zomphefumlo ngenxa yokuphoxeka, ukungcatshwa okanye ukwahlukana, kuyahambelana nesikweko esidala "Bazophule iintliziyo zethu", "Ndiphukile", okanye "Nditshisiwe".
Ingqondo yakho icwangcisiwe ukuze ukwazi ukoyisa
Siyazi ukuba eli binzana linokubangela ukuthandabuza, ingqondo yam iya kwenziwa njani ukuba yoyise ukuphoxeka kothando? Ukuba kunjalo ... kutheni indibize kakhulu ukuze ndiphile emva kokuba iqabane lam lindishiyile?
Ewe, ukuze siyiqonde ngcono kufuneka sithathele ingqalelo le milinganiselo.
- Ngokukagqirha wezifo zengqondo uBrian Boutwell, abantu, ngokwemfuza, bacwangciselwe ukuba bajonge iqabane kunye nokuseka amaqhina entlalontle. Ingqondo yethu inemvakalelo kunye nentlalontle, ke ngoko kufuneka sityhile iphepha ukuze sizivulele kwakhona kwihlabathi kwaye sifumane elinye iqabane. okanye ngokulula, sivumele ukuba siphile ngokulingana kwakhona nosapho okanye nabahlobo. Usizi ayisiyombuso wanaphakade, ayisiyongxaki, iluncedo okanye ityebise ingqondo.
- I-cortex yangaphambili sisakhiwo esinoxanduva lokuseka izicwangciso, izicwangciso, ukufuna izixhobo ezitsha zokuphuma kule meko yokuvaleka ngokweemvakalelo.
- Kukho izinto ezininzi kunye nee-neurotransmitters "ezihambisanayo" kunye nezinye ukuze siqwalasele ezinye izinto, ekuphumeni kunye nabahlobo kwakhona, ngokuthatha uhambo olude ngelixa sisitya ilanga, ngaloo ndlela siphinda sisebenze ukuhlanganiswa kweevithamini, sivumele i-endorphin ukuba ivele, loo hormone isonwabisayo nemvakalelo yempilo ...
Ngoku, kodwa kutheni kukho abantu abathi emva kokuphoxeka bawele kwimeko yokudakumba kwanokudakumba?
Imeko yemfuza
Ubunzima bemfuza bumisela kwiimeko ezininzi ukuba kubiza thina ngaphezulu okanye ngaphantsi ukuphuma kwinkqubo efanelekileyo yokudana. Nkqu Ukuhlala kwimeko yengcinezelo kunye nokungenzi lula kunokwenza ukuba iingcinga zethu zijolise kuphela kokungalunganga: «Andifanelanga kuthandwa», «yonke into ihamba gwenxa», «Ndizimisele ukubandezeleka ...»
Ukucinga kuyila iimvakalelo zethu, kwaye iimvakalelo zisikhokelela kwizimo ezinde kakhulu zokungancedi kunye nosizi.
Sonke sinokukwazi ukomelela
Ukomelela kukukwazi ukujamelana nobunzima kwaye ufunde kuyo. Sonke sinesi sipho kuba yinxalenye yale nkqubo yengqondo esivumela ukuba siphume ebunzimeni ukuze siqhubeke siye phambili.
- Qonda ukuba iintlungu zezokwexeshana ngoku, azizukuhlala. Thatha ukuba ubomi buyayazi indlela yokwamkela ukuphoxeka ukuze ufunde kubo kwaye ujike iphepha.
- Umsebenzi wethu kobu bomi kukufunda, kwaye sakhe ulonwabo lwethu. Ukuphila kabuhlungu kukuphulukana nenxalenye yobomi bethu kwaye kuvala amathuba amatsha.
- Ikuvumela ukuba ufumane uncedo, inkxaso yabahlobo kunye nosapho eya kwenza ukuba ubone ukuba ubomi buxabisekile.
- Zama ukuhamba ngamanqanaba ngokuxolela. Siyazi ukuba kubiza malini, kodwa ukuxolelwa yindlela yenkululeko yokuqhawula umtshato. Ngalo lonke ixesha khumbula ukuba inzondo iyakwenza ukuba ubuyele yonke imihla kwimemori yaloo mntu, uya kuba lixhoba laphakade leso sithunzi sexesha elidlulileyo.
Akufanelekanga. Xolela, vula iphepha, uphinde uhambe kunye nemibono emitsha ujonge kwikamva kwaye ube ngoyena mntu ufuna ukuba nguye. Lo mfazi ozijonga esipilini kwaye waziva enebhongo ngaye ukuba ungubani na kwaye ngayo yonke into emlindeleyo kwixesha elizayo. Kufanelekile!