Ukuthanda kwangaphambili okusichazayo nangoku

isibini ekuphumeni kwelanga

Uthando lwangaphambili luyinxalenye yomjikelo wethu ochaphazelekayo, kwaye ngandlela thile, bachaza nenxalenye yabantu esiyiyo ngoku. Ukuba siyabuqonda ubomi njengokuqhubeka kokufunda, asinakho ukungahoyi ukuba naluphi na ulwalamano olushiyekileyo okanye olwaphukileyo lelinye inqanaba lokudibanisa inkqubo yethu yokuvuthwa.

Ngoku, ukuba inye into esiyaziyo sonke, kukuba baninzi abantu abafuna ukulibala ngokupheleleyo olo lwalamano ludlulileyo. Nokuba kungenxa yokuba ibenze babandezeleka kakhulu, okanye kuba basabambe ingqumbo. Nangona kunjalo, zikwayinkqubo ekufanele ukuba ufumane uhlobo oluthile lokufundisa. Uthando lwangaphambili Banokuchaza, kodwa bangakugqibi. Hablemos hoy en Bezzia ngalo mbandela

Uthando lwangaphambili oluhlala lukhoyo ngoku

Isibini esiphuma ukuphuma (Khuphela)

Sonke siye saba nolwalamano oluhle kwaye alunalo ulwalamano oluhle kangaka. Kukho uthando olubuhlungu ekufuneka lukhunjulwe kunye nabanye esithi masiliyeke kuba bekufanelekile ukuba silungelelanise, ukuze siphile. Singatsho ngaphandle kwempazamo ukuba onke amava aphilayo akha okwangoku kunye nendlela onxibelelana ngayo nawe ngoku, nakwimeko yakho ekufutshane.

Xa kuziwa ekuthetheni ngobudlelwane obunomdla, kuyacaca ukuba sithetha ngeemvakalelo, kwaye ngabo abathi, ngendlela ethile, baveze elona gunya likhulu kuthi, kwaye ngokubanzi, emntwini. Iimvakalelo ezingalunganga ezinamava ngamandla, umzekelo, kunye ukungalawulwa ngokufanelekileyo kunokukhokelela kuxinzelelo.

Iqabane elinetyhefu elinobuqhophololo linokukujongela phantsi ukuzithemba kwethu kunye nengqibelelo yethu, yiyo loo nto ngamanye amaxesha, kuye kufuneke ukuba sijongane ngokufanelekileyo nakuphi na ukwahlukana, ukuze idityaniswe nenkqubo yethu yobomi ngendlela evumelanayo, ngaphandle kokuzimisela.

Xa sibhekisa kwinto yokuba uthando lwangaphambili luyasichaza, sithetha ukuba lonke ubudlelwane busenza silumke kancinci, silunge ngakumbi kwaye silumke ngakumbi kwimicimbi yeemvakalelo. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba uluthathele ingqalelo olu ngcelele lobungakanani.

1. Qonda, yamkele, uyeke

Ayikuko ukulibala uthando lwangaphambili, kodwa malunga nokuqonda inkqubo, yamkela iziphumo emva koko uyeke. Akukho mntu unokulibala imihla yakhe yexesha elidlulileyo, okwangoku akukho chiza lilungileyo lisinika i-amnesia ekhethiweyo, kuba enyanisweni, ukuhlala ngokusisiseko kuthetha ukufunda ngezinto ezintle kunye nezinto ezingalunganga kangako.

  • Xa usophula ubudlelwane, kufuneka kubekho isizathu. Sonke kufuneka sazi oonobangela kwaye sithi ndlela-ntle ubuso ngobuso kunye nesibindi.
  • Ukufumana inkcazo, ukuvalelisa okanye ukuxolisa ngobuqu, kuyanceda ukuvala imijikelezo kwaye uye phambili ngokuthembeka okukhulu. Ukungazi kusinqumamisa kumathemba obuxoki atshabalalisayo.
  • Uthando lwangaphambili luya kudityaniswa ngcono kwimemori yethu kunye nokulinganisela kwethu ngokweemvakalelo, ukuba kunikwa inkalipho kunye nokuvalelisa okufanelekileyo. Indlu engenanto okanye umyalezo olula owazisa ngokwahlukana kubangela umsindo kunye nokudana.
  • Kuyimfuneko ukuqonda ukuba yintoni ebangele eli khefu, yamkele ukwahlukana emva kwembambano kwaye ekugqibeleni, ukuvumela ukuhamba kwengqondo yethu yonke intlungu, Yonke irancor.

2. Isidingo sokungazondi ukuqhubela phambili ngokuthembeka

thanda isibini esithandanayo (Khuphela)

Kukho abo bathe bachitha iminyaka emi-2, 5 okanye eli-10, baqhubeka nokukhumbula uthando lwabo lwangaphambili ngomsindo, inzondo kunye nokudana. Oku akulunganga kwaye akusempilweni.

  • Njengoko besitsho, okucaphukisayo ukwenza ukuba ube libanjwa. Kwaye inzondo igcinwe ixesha elide, iyaqhubeka nokuseka ubudlelwane kunye naloo mntu.
  • Ungayivumeli, ukuthiya kuphela ukuvelisa iimvakalelo ezimbi kunye nokungathembani ebusweni bamaqabane amatsha avele ebomini bakho.
  • Kucacile ukuba awuyi kuba nakho ukulibala, kodwa ubuncinci, zama ukuba inkumbulo ayihambi neemvakalelo ezingalunganga. Thatha njengexesha elidlulileyo, isahluko esivaliweyo apho ufunde khona izifundo ezithile.
  • Kwaye yile nto iya kukuchaza: into oyifumeneyo kolo lwalamano

Ukuba ulumke ngakumbi, unganikeli yonke into ngento engekhoyo, ungalibeki phambili iqabane lakho ngaphezu kwazo zonke izinto, nangaphezu kokukhula kwakho nokuzithemba kwakho.

3. Awusosibalo samaqabane akho wangaphambili

pareja confianza bezzia

Kukho abo baphila ngoku okwangoku kuphawulwe ngamanxeba angapheliyo weemvakalelo abangelwa ngabo bathanda ixesha elidlulileyo:

  • Siziva singathembi, kwaye sikufumanisa kunzima ukuthetha ngokukhululekileyo kwabanye abantu kuba sinoloyiko lokuba bangasenzakalisa.
  • Sihlupheka kukuzithemba okuphantsi kunye nokuzithemba okusenza sizibone njengabantu "abangakulungelanga ukonwaba njengesibini."
  • Kwaye kuqhelekile ukuziva ukuba kungcono ukuba ungathandani, kuba ngandlela thile, sidibanisa uthando kunye nokubandezeleka. Zonke zifunyenwe kubudlelwane obudlulileyo obubuhlungu

Kuya kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba kubalulekile ukuba uzinike abanye abantu ngaphandle kwawo wonke umthwalo okhoyo oqhubeka nawo emqolo. Indlela oyamkela ngayo idlulileyo yakho igqiba okwangoku. Kungoko ukubaluleka kokulawula ngokufanelekileyo nakuphi na ukuphazamiseka.

Ubudlelwane bakho bangaphambili abukuchongi, bayakuchaza ngokwezakhono ozifumeneyo:

  • Ulumkile kwaye uzuze ulwazi olwaneleyo lokuzazi.
  • Ngoku uyazi ukuba ufuna ntoni kwaye ayikulungelanga.
  • Ufundile ukuba kunyanzelekile ukuba uhlale ukhathalela ukuthembeka kwakho, ukukhula kwakho ngaphakathi, izithuba zakho. Ayisiyonto yokunikela yonke into ngelize.

Uyazi ukuba ubudlelwane busekwe ekuqondeni, kwintlonipho, kunxibelelwano, nakwinkohliso yemihla ngemihla eyondla izinto ezincinci. Musa ukuzivumela ukuba ube libanjwa lexesha elidlulileyo, awusiso isiphoso sakho, ungazondli nge-nostalgia, kwaye uphile ngokuqina apha nangoku. Uthando olufanelwe ngokuqinisekileyo.


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