Ukwahlukana lixesha elinzima kakhulu kuye nakubani na. Kubandakanya ukugqiba inqanaba elinye lobomi kunye nokuqala ukwenza elitsha. Kuqhelekile ukuba emva kweli khefu umntu azive engenamdla, enomsindo kwaye elusizi. Kukho izinto ezilindelekileyo ezithi shwaka kunye noloyiko lokuqala ubomi obutsha ngaphandle kweqabane.
Kule meko, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuzithemba ukuba konakaliswe kwaye umntu akazithembanga.
Yintoni ukuzithemba?
Ukuzithemba ayikho enye into ngaphandle kovavanyo lomntu azenzela lona. Ebomini kubalulekile ukuba nokuzithemba, kuba kungenjalo umntu uziva elusizi kwaye engadwelisi mntu. Ukufezekisa ukuzithemba okuhle, into yokuqala ekufuneka yenziwe ngumntu nawuphi kukuba azamkele.
Iimpawu ezibonisa ukuba ukwahlukana kuchaphazela ukuzithemba kwakho
Ukwahlukana ayisosidlo sinambitha nakubani na kwaye ke yinto eqhelekileyo ukuba neengxaki ezithile zeemvakalelo. Nangona kunjalo, uthe ikhefu ayisosiphelo sayo yonke into Kwaye nangona ilixesha elinzima ngokwenene, kubalulekile ukuqhubela phambili njengoko ubomi buqhubeka.
Kukho inani lezinto ezinokubonisa ukuba ukuzithemba kuyachaphazeleka emva koqhawulo-mtshato:
- Ubomi abunantsingiselo kulomntu osokoliswe yile break.
- Akukho nto ibalulekileyo kwakhona nomntu uqala ukuwutyeshela umfanekiso wakhe.
- Ukungakhathali kubakho ngamaxesha onke kwaye akukho mdla kwinto.
- Umntu ucinga ukuba akukho mntu uza kumqaphela kwaye ukuba akazukufumana mntu okwaziyo ukwakha ubomi bakhe.
- Ukuziva unetyala yenye into eqhelekileyo ebantwini ukuzithemba kwabo kusemhlabeni emva kokwahlukana. Uziva unetyala ngokwenzekileyo kwaye awunako ukuzixolela.
Yintoni omele uyenze ukubuyisa ukuzithemba kwakho emva kokwahlukana
Ukuba ukuzithemba kuchaphazeleka kukhefu, kubalulekile ukuba ulandele uthotho lwezikhokelo kunye yibuyise ngokukhawuleza okukhulu:
- Sukuthula ngalento uziva emva kohlukene. Kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukuphuma nomntu omthembileyo.
- Ikhefu linqanaba ebomini kwaye alipheli apho. Ayisiyiyo yonke into ejikeleze ubomi bomntu owaqhekezayo. Kuya kufuneka uye phambili kwaye uqale inqanaba elitsha.
- Kuya kufuneka umisele iindlela ezintsha kwaye ulibale ngezakudala.
- Kubalulekile ukuba uzithande kwaye uqinise isiqu sakho sangaphakathi. Jonga phambi kwesipili kwaye uzithande ngokwembono yomzimba kunye neemvakalelo.
- Ukuba kukho imfuneko, kulungile ukuya kwingcali ukuze uncede woyise inkqubo enjalo yokwahlukana.
Ngamafutshane, nangona ukuphela kobudlelwane kungekho lula nakubani na, Kuyimfuneko ukunqanda ngalo lonke ixesha ukuzithemba kukonakaliswa. Kuya kufuneka uqonde ukuba ukwahlukana kuthetha ukuba nakho ukuqala ngaphezulu ukusuka ekuqaleni. Umntu ngulowo kufuneka athathe isigqibo sokuba uza kukhetha eyiphi indlela ukuqala ubomi obutsha ngeenjongo ezintsha kunye nemibono. Ukwenza oku, kuya kufuneka ukhulise ukuzithemba kwaye uzive wonwabile ngesiqu sakho.