Ukukhohlisa ngokweemvakalelo kuthanda ukuvela rhoqo kubudlelwane. Eyona njongo yayo iphambili kukwenza ukuthobela, emva koko kuxutywe nemvakalelo yokuziva unetyala. Kodwa kutheni isebenza ngqo kubantu esibathandayo? Ngaphantsi kwesi siseko phantse yonke into uloyiko lokuba nesizungu, uloyiko lokuphulukana neqabane lethu. Ukwazi indlela yokuchonga kwaye wazi izikhokelo ekufuneka ujongane nazo kwezi ndlela zokuziphatha akusayi kusinceda kuphela ekusekeni ubudlelwane obunempilo, kodwa kunye nokukhusela ukuzithemba kwethu.
Eyona mfuno iphambili yokuba umntu osebenzisa ubuqhetseba ngokweemvakalelo kukuba neqabane lakhe lanelise iinjongo zakhe. Kuqhelekile kuthi ukuva amabinzana anje ngala "ngayo yonke into endikwenzele yona", amabinzana onke ahlola imeko yetyala ukuseka iqhina lokuxhomekeka. Yindlela yolawulo, kwaye kufuneka sicace malunga naloo nto. Ukuphathwa gwenxa ngokweemvakalelo kunokusetyenziswa kwiindawo zikawonke-wonke nezabucala, uhlala ujonga ukuba sesichengeni. Kungoko kunjalo uhlobo lokuxhatshazwa Ukugcina engqondweni.
Iindidi zokukhohlisa ngokweemvakalelo
Ukuphathwa ngokweemvakalelo kunokubakho kubudlelwane bethu ngaphandle kokuqonda kwethu. Inokuba yinto efihlakeleyo kangangokuba asinako ukuyichonga, kwaye inokwenzeka nokuba siyisebenzise ngaphandle kokuyiqonda. Kodwa inye into icacile: ukuba olu hlobo lokugculelwa ngokweemvakalelo luyaqhubeka, lunokuba njalo gqiba utshabalalise ubudlelwane bethu.
Kutheni sisebenzisa ngobuqhetseba?
Xa sicinga ngomntu onobuqhetseba, into yokuqala ethi qatha engqondweni kuthotho lwemilinganiselo emiselweyo: ukuzingca, ububi, ikratshi… Ngamanye amaxesha izimvo ezigqwethekileyo, kuba ngandlela zonke sisebenzise ubuqhetseba beemvakalelo ngamanye amaxesha, nangendlela engenabungozi ukufezekisa into. Ukukhohlisa kuthetha ukusebenzisa isixhobo somntu ukufezekisa into. Kwaye xa oku kusenzeka kwinqanaba lesibini, akunakuphepheka ukuba iimvakalelo zivele, kwaye ngenxa yoko ukubandezeleka. Sisebenzisa ngobuqhetseba kungekuphela ngokuzingca, kodwa nangenxa yokuzithemba okuphantsi okusibangela ukuba silawule enye ukuze singalahleki.
Amaqhinga asetyenziswa sisidenge somoya:
- Ukohlwaya: Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo yeyona ndlela ithe ngqo. Isoyikiso sisetyenziselwa ukuxhaphaza ngokweemvakalelo ukulawula umntu omthandayo. Isoyikiso singangqala okanye singangqalanga, kodwa siyacetyiswa ukuba ukuba asithobeli okuceliweyo kuthi, kuyakubakho iziphumo ezibi.
- Ukuzohlwaya. Kuqheleke kakhulu ebantwini abahlala besebenzisa ukuxhatshazwa njengesixhobo sokuphumeza into ethile. Bayasilumkisa ukuba xa singenzi into ethile, baya konakala, basenze sizive sinetyala. Kuqhelekile ukuva amabinzana anje Ukuba awukho kunye nam kule nto, akukho nto iyifaneleyo. Ubomi bam abwenzi ngqiqweni«.
- Cwaka. Oovimba abangakhulanga njengobuntwana. Umntu oxhaphazayo ukhetha ukuthula de iqabane lakhe lisabele okanye linikezele. Yindlela yakhe yokubonisa hayi umsindo kuphela, kodwa nolawulo. Ucinga ukuba xa ukuthula kwakhe kuphela (kwaye uyifezekisile injongo yakhe), ubudlelwane buya kubuyela esiqhelweni naselonwabeni.
- Uxhoba. "Akukho mntu unokuma ngaphandle kwakho", "ukuba awundixhasi kule nto, ndiza kuba ndedwa" ... amabinzana aqhelekileyo kwabo bantu babedla ngokulahla iimfuno zabo ngasemva kwekhuselo losizi kunye netyala ..
- Izithembiso. Iiprojekthi kunye nezithembiso ezizele lulonwabo, ikamva eliqaqambileyo ukuba sihlangabezana neemfuno zomntu oqhubayo. Kuya kufuneka silumkele olu hlobo lokuziphatha, ngakumbi amabinzana anje ngala "ukuba undinika ithuba lesibini, ndiyakuthembisa ukuba yonke into izakuba ngcono, andisokuze ndikonzakalise kwakhona."
- Nikezela ukufumana. Kwezi meko, kuqhelekile ukuba iqabane lethu lisebenzise izinto ezithile elizenzele zona njengamabango amnyama okufuna ukuba sibuyisele inceba. Uxhoba luxutywe nokuzingca.
Ungajongana njani nokuphathwa ngokweemvakalelo?
Kuya kufuneka sazi ukuba ukuze kusetyenziswe ubuqhetseba ngokweemvakalelo, kufuneka kubekho amaqela amabini: umlawuli ophethe amandla, kunye nalowo uzisebenzisayo lixhoba. Into ebalulekileyo kwasekuqaleni kukuziqonda ukuba sikweyiphi na icala kwaye sivakalelwa njani kukuba yeyiphi loo ndima. Ngokuqinisekileyo asonwabanga kuwo omabini la macandelo. Ingakumbi ukuba singamaxhoba. Ukuba kunjalo, kuya kufuneka uyisombulule le meko ngokulandela la manyathelo:
Hlala uyikhumbula loo nto abakhohlisi beemvakaleloBazama ukubonakala bomelele. Kodwa ngaphakathi kuhlala kuyinto ecekeceke kunye nokuzithemba okuphantsi. Ukulawula kubanika amandla. Funda ukufumanisa imikhwa yabo ukunqanda ukuwela kwesi sangqa seemvakalelo apho nobabini niza kuphelela ekuhluphekeni. Beka imida, kwaye uhlale ukhumbula ukuba ukuthanda akufani nokulawula.