Ngokwedatha evela kwi-CIS (iZiko loPhando lwezeNtlalontle) kunye ne UVavanyo lwezeNtlalo Jikelele lweZiko loPhando, ukungathembeki kuqhubeka kusanda kwizibini ezitshatileyo. Amadoda asengawo awathembekanga (21% ngaphezulu kunabafazi). Nangona kunjalo, inyani yeyokugqibela iiklasi, kukuba kule minyaka mithandathu idlulileyo, sithi abaqale ukuphakamisa isimilo sethu "sokungathembeki".
Yeyiphi inkcazo ebangela ezi ndlela zokuziphatha? Enye yezinto esizichazelwa ngoochwephesha bezengqondo kunye noochwephesha kukucaca okukhulu ekusebenziseni iiplatifti ezibonakalayo apho sinokubhalisa ngokungaziwayo ukuze sifumane iqabane okanye ukuseka iintlanganiso ezithile. Konke oku kwenza ukuba kufikeleleke ngakumbi ukuwela kwezi ndlela zokuziphatha, kula mava apho "okutsha", "okungalindelekanga" kufunwa khona. Nokuba kunjani, kukho into ecacileyo. Ukungathembeki kukungcatsha okona kubi kunakho ukubakho emntwini, kwaye inxeba leemvakalelo elishiya kuthi lihlala lihlala ngonaphakade.. Kuvuliwe "Bezzia» sikuxelele ngayo.
Ukungathembeki, ukwaphula isivumelwano
Ukunganyaniseki kunokuchazwa, ngokufanelekileyo, njengokwaphula isivumelwano phakathi kwabantu ababini. Kufuneka kuthiwe xa kusungulwa ubudlelwane obunomdla, aba bantu babini kufuneka bazi kakuhle "ukuba zeziphi na izivumelwano eziqinisekileyo."
Kukho izibini ezakha ubudlelwane obuvulekileyo, apho zinokwamkela ukuba kukho ubudlelwane obufanayo. Akuqhelekanga kodwa kuyenzeka kwakhona, kwaye le yinto ekufuneka siyazi kwasekuqaleni. Into oyifunayo noyifunayo kufuneka ilungelelaniswe nale nto ndiyifunayo nethemba, kwaye kulapho isivumelwano sisekwe khona, eso sivumelwano esisithathayo sobabini ukwakha ulonwabo lwethu.
Ngoku, into abantu abaninzi abajamelana nayo kukungcatshwa, ukuqhekeka kwesibophelelo apho besakhe khona ukusondelelana, ukuzibophelela kunye nesicwangciso sekamva esiza kuthi gqi ngesiquphe. Kukho abo emva koku, bagqibe ekubeni baxolele kwaye balwele ubudlelwane. Endaweni yoko, kukho abantu abangenako ukuqhubela phambili ngasemva kolo donga kwaye loo ntlungu baya kujongana nayo ne-duel.
Makhe sibone ezinye iinkcukacha.
Yintoni esiyiqondayo ngokungathembeki
Ngaba ukwanga kukungathembeki okanye ukukopela komnye umntu kuthathwa njengokufikelela kwisenzo sesondo? Ngokuqinisekileyo le yinyani enzima, kuba kwezinye iimeko, ngaphandle kokufikelela kwisenzo esicacileyo sokusondelelana phakathi kwabantu ababini, ukunganyaniseki nokungathembeki kuyenzeka xa iqabane lethu lisungula ubudlelwane obunamandla kunye nomntu apho kungekho sini, umanyano olufanayo Kumiselwe njengokungenabulungisa njengoko kubuhlungu.
- Ke, ukunganyaniseki kunokwenzeka nakwezinye iindlela apho yonke into eyakhiweyo neqabane yaphulwayo. Kuba ukuba siyamthanda umntu asenzi sizathu sokuchitha ixesha lethu nomnye umntu, ukuba siyamthanda siyayihlonipha kwaye siyayinyamekela loo bhondi isisityebisayo.
- Ukunganyaniseki kuyaqondwa njengaso nasiphi na isenzo apho ukuthembana komnye umntu kwaphulwe. Inokuba kukumanga, ukuphulula, ukuxoka kwiqabane lethu lokuchitha ixesha nomnye umntu kwaye kunjalo, ukungathembeki kukwabudlelwane bezesondo, nokuba ngaba ngamanye amaxesha, nokuba kwenzeke kube kanye.
Ukwenza njani xa ujongene nokungathembeki
Lo ngumcimbi obalulekileyo ekufuneka siwuqwalasele. Akukho mntu ngaphandle kwethu oza kuthatha isigqibo ngendlela yokuphendula ukungathembeki. Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuxolela, yinto ekufuneka uyixabisile. Ukuba sikhetha ukophula ubudlelwane, akufuneki sithathele ingqalelo kuye nabani na osixelela oko "Bamba kancinci, ziyenzeka ezi zinto."
- Ukwenza isenzo sokungathembeki yinto entsonkothileyo ngaphezu kwako konke, kufuneka sikhathalele ukuzithemba kwethu. Ukuba sithatha isigqibo sokuqhubeka nokuxolela, kuya kufuneka sicinge ngendlela esiza kujongana ngayo kunye nendlela eya kuthi ichaphazele ulwalamano lwethu. Kwaye ngaphezulu kwako konke, ukuba siza kuba nakho ukuqhubeka nokuthemba omnye umntu.
- Nokuba siyayifuna okanye ayifuni, ukungathembeki kushiya inxeba elinzulu ekungekho kuthi sonke esikulungeleyo ukujongana nalo. Ngoku, kuye kwadingeka ukuba uqonde ukuba ukunganyaniseki kunokuxolelwa kube kanye. Ophinda abuye amaxesha amaninzi akahloniphi, kwaye ayiqondi ukuba yintoni eyakha ubudlelwane obunempilo nobonwabisayo.
- Enye into ekufuneka uyiqwalasele yimeko apho ukungathembeki kwenzeka khona. Ngamanye amaxesha, sihamba ngamaxesha abalulekileyo obunzima xa uxinzelelo lunokubangela ukuba singaluhoyi ulwalamano lwethu.
- Simisela ezinye izinto eziphambili, ezinjengomsebenzi, apho singaqondanga, sibeka omnye umntu ecaleni. Ukungathembeki okukodwa, kwicala lethu okanye kwiqabane lethu, kwezi meko yinto esinokuyiqonda kwaye eya kuthi isilumkise ukuba "ikhona into ebesiyenza kakubi." Ukuba siyekile ukukhathalela ibhondi. Yinto ekufuneka sicinge ngayo.
Ukuba uyayithanda imbeko, ukuba awuthandi mbono
Ngamanye amaxesha inkohliso iyanyamalala, i-monotony ivela, ithatha yonke into ngokungakhathali. Kude kube ngequbuliso, kuthi gqi umntu aze asinike imvakalelo ehlaziyiweyo yokuziva unqwenela, yokudlala kwakhona, yokuzivumela ukuba sithwalwe yinto engalindelekanga, entsha ...
Inokwenzeka. Ke ngoko, kufuneka siziqonde kakhulu iimvakalelo zethu. Ukuba uyamthanda umntu kwaye uyaqonda ukuba uwela kwi-monotony, kuyafuneka ukuba wakhe kwakhona ubudlelwane phakathi kweenkosi. Ngaphandle koko, sinokunikezela kwezi ziganeko ziqhelekileyo apho kungafuneki mntu, ukungathembeki ngamanye amaxesha, ukungcatshwa okuncinci, umnqweno ongalindelekanga womnye umntu ...
Asifanele sibenzakalise abo basithandayo. Kubalulekile. Ke, kufuneka senze ngokuqola kunye nobulumko.. Ukuba uyathanda, khathalela, ukuba uthando luyaphela, xabisa ukuba kufanelekile ukuqhubeka okanye hayi.