Ukuba neqabane kubandakanya izinto ezintle ezisusela ekomelezeni ukuzithemba ekuphuculeni imeko yabo bobabini abantu. Nangona kunjalo, kukho iimeko apho umntu anokuziva elilolo ngokupheleleyo, ngaphandle kokuthandana ngokupheleleyo.
Ukuba oku kuyenzeka, kubalulekile ukuba ufumane isizathu okanye unobangela kwaye uzame ukusombulula ukuze ubudlelwane bungaphuli okanye buphele.
Ubangela ukuba kutheni umntu eziva elilolo kubudlelwane
Zininzi izizathu zokuba kutheni umntu eneqabane, usenokuziva ulilolo. Ngamaxesha amaninzi obu bulolo bunokubangelwa ziingxaki neqabane, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha lubangelwa kukungaziphathi kakuhle okanye indlela oziphethe ngayo.
- Esinye sezizathu zokuba nesizungu sinokubangelwa, kuba uncamathiselo isibini esinaso asifunwa okanye asifunwa. Ubudlelwane phakathi kwesi sibini ngundoqo xa bobabini abantu beziva bethandwa kwaye beqondwa. Kubalulekile ukuba okuncamathiselwe kuhambelane kwaye le inqwenelekayo bobabini abantu kwaye ngale ndlela kuthintelwe ukuba elinye lamaqela kubudlelwane azive eyedwa.
- Ngamanye amaxesha, Isizungu sibangelwa ziingxaki zeemvakalelo ezichaphazeleka lelinye lamaqela kubudlelwane. Ezi ngxaki kufuneka zisonjululwe ngokukhawuleza kuba kungenjalo zinokulonakalisa kakhulu ikamva elilungileyo lesibini. Awunakho ukubek 'iqabane lakho uxanduva lwezo ngxaki kwaye uzivalele kwilizwe elingena nto.
- Ukuchitha ixesha elincinci neqabane lakho kunokubangela isizungu. Umsebenzi okanye izibophelelo zobuqu zihlala zibangela ukuba abantu abatshatileyo bangabi nalo nexesha labo.
- Ukuhamba kunye nokuhamba kwexesha kunokukhokelela kukungabi namdla ngaphakathi kwesi sibini kwaye ngayo ekubonakaleni kwesithukuthezi esoyikekayo. Ubophelelo buya buthathaka kwaye oku kwenza ukuba umntu azive elilolo nangona enobuhlobo.
Yintoni ekufuneka yenziwe ukuba ubulolo buvela ngaphakathi kwesi sibini
Isisombululo siza kuxhomekeka ngalo lonke ixesha kwisizathu okanye kwisizathu esivelisa ubulolo. Emva koko sikunika uthotho lwezikhokelo okanye iingcebiso ezinokunceda umntu ukuba aphume kulolo lonwabo:
- Into yokuqala ekufuneka yenziwe kukuhlala ecaleni kwesi sibini kwaye uhlalutye imeko ngokuzolileyo. Kuqhelekile ukuba uzive uwedwa kwaye yinto ekufuneka isonjululwe ngokukhawuleza.
- Kubalulekile ukuba kuqala ukonwaba ngokwakho kwaye ukusuka apho, nikela uthando kwiqabane.
- Ukunxibelelana neqabane lakho kubalulekile kwaye kubalulekile kuyo yonke into ukuba ihambe kakuhle kangangoko. Ukuba kukho naluphi na uhlobo lwengxaki, kubalulekile ukuba uthethe ngalo nomntu omthandayo.
- Akukho sidingo sokwenza iinkuni zomthi owileyo. Kungenzeka ukuba ubudlelwane abusebenzi kwaphela kwaye kungcono ukubulala esi sibini ngaphambi kokuba umonakalo ube mkhulu.