Ngamanye amaxesha kukho abantu abakholelwa ukuba xa ubudlelwane buhlungu luthando, kodwa akukho nto inokuthi iqhubeke nenyaniso. Kukho imiqondiso yolwalamano enokubonakala ngathi luthando kuwe kodwa eneneni iyityhefu kwaye kufuneka ubaleke ngokukhawuleza. Kumanqanaba okuqala othando, sonke simfanyekiswe ziiglasi ezipinki. Kwanaxa sibona imiqondiso elumkisayo, asiyiboni ingozi esinokujamelana nayo kwixesha elizayo.
Ngenxa yokuba sifuna olona thando lukhulu, kunzima ukuba samkele le miqondiso njengoko ibonakala imsulwa kwaye isenza sizive sikhethekile. Nazi ke izinto ezilahlekisayo oko kunokubonakala ngathi luthando kodwa eneneni kuyityhefu kwaye kuya kufuneka ubaleke ngaphambili.
Ufuna ukwazi ukuba uphi ngalo lonke ixesha
Akukhathazi ukwaziswa ngezicwangciso zomnye nomnye xa nobabini nixakekile nizama ukwenza izicwangciso. Kodwa xa ukwindawo apho iqabane lakho lisebenza njengesixhobo sokulandela umkhondo ekufuneka sazi ukuba uhlala uphi ngalo lonke ixesha, oko kubonisa ukungakhathali kunye nokungabi nasempilweni. Oku kunokubonakala ngathi luthando, kodwa kulawulo kunye nokuthabatheka.
Imiyalezo kunye neefowuni kuzo zonke iiyure
Ngokucacileyo, lonke ubudlelwane budinga unxibelelwano kwaye ekuqaleni, kuninzi yokwazana. Kuyaqondakala ukuba abanakufumana ngokwaneleyo omnye komnye. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, ifika kwinqanaba apho indlela aziphethe ngayo umntu iba yexhaphazayo xa ebuza ixesha lokuphendula okanye umnxeba ophindaphindwayo ade aphendule. Xa beqala ukufuna ukuba kufuneka uphendule ngalo mzuzu banxibelelana ngalo, ayilulo unxibelelwano olufanelekileyo. Iyakhohlisa, inendawo kwaye iyoyikeka.
Ukunyanzela ukuba uthethe izinto ongazifuniyo
Wonke umntu unemida kunye neendawo zokuthuthuzela ngokubhekisele kwinto abakulungeleyo ukwabelana ngayo. Kodwa xa umntu enyanzelisa kwaye ephantse anyanzele kwaye anyanzele omnye ukuba abelane ngeenkcukacha angazifuni, kuyingxaki. Eli linyathelo elilula lokuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo. Kwakhona, ukwazi iimfihlo zakho kunye nezona ngcinga zimnyama kunika umntu okucinezelayo ukuba abe nempembelelo kuwe kwaye avumele ukuxhatshazwa kwixesha elizayo. Kungabonakala ngathi bakubambile. Oku kuyityhefu kakhulu kwaye kukuziphatha okungathandekiyo kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo akuhloniphi.
Hlola iinethiwekhi zakho zentlalo
Kungabonakala kukuthandeka ukuba banike ingqalelo kwimisebenzi yakho kwimidiya yoluntu, kodwa kwangaxeshanye, bazama nje ukukugcina. Akufanelekanga ukuba baqwalasele izithuba ozithandayo okanye uvakalise izimvo zakho, okanye i-retweets zakho okanye ii-memes ezimakishwe. Isenokuba yingxaki yomona okanye ukungazithembi, kodwa ikwanayo kwaye ayifanelekanga. Emva kwexesha oku kungakhokelela ekuboniseni imiyalezo yabucala nabanye abantu, ukwabelana ngamagama okugqithisa kunye nolunye ulwazi lwangasese, okuyindlela yokuziphatha enetyhefu.
Lila ithuba lesibini
Ngexesha elithile, "ixhoba" liza kuqaphela iimpawu zalo ezinobuthi kunye nokuziphatha. Xa besenza, banokukubuza okanye bakufowunele. Inokuqala ukwenzeka rhoqo kananjalo. Ukuba omnye umntu uhlala ecela uxolo kwaye ecela elinye ithuba lesibini, bayazi ukuba babanjiwe, kodwa basenokukukhohlisa ukuba ubuyele kubo kwaye uqhubeke nomjikelo ombi. Bayazi kakuhle ukuba mabathini kwaye badlala njani ikhadi lexhoba.