Uvakalelo oluphezulu ngumqondo ophuhliswe kwiminyaka ye-90 njengesiphumo somdla kubuntu obungenisiweyo. Iincwadi ezinje nge "The Gift of Sensitivity" ebhalwe ngu-Elaine Aron ziphawulile ukuthatha kolu hlobo lokuziphatha, indlela yokuphila kunye nokubona umhlaba apho phantse i-20% yabemi ichonga khona.
Ubuntununtunu obuphezulu buthathelwa ingqalelo njengolunye uhlobo lobuntu obunxulumene kodwa kwangaxeshanye kwahlukile ekungenisweni. Iimpawu zayo ziphawulwe kangangokuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukukwazi ukubona umntwana onobuntununtunu, kwaye kwangaxeshanye, uya kuba nomdla wokwazi ukuba ubudlelwane obunomdla abuzange kube lula ngakumbi kwaba bantu donde las emociones, son especialmente intensas y donde pueden sentirse heridos con facilidad. Hoy en «Bezzia» queremos hablarte sobre ello.
Iimpawu zabantu abanovelwano kakhulu (PAS)
Into enomdla ngovakalelo oluphezulu kukuba abantu abaninzi bafumanisa namhlanje, abachonga olu hlobo lobuntu. Kufuneka siyicinge lonto Inzala yokungeniswa kunye nobuntununtunu, yaqala ukusonjululwa kwii-90s zonkeKe ngoko, abantu abaninzi abangaphezu kweminyaka engama-25 baqala ukufumanisa umxholo.
Ke masibone ukuba zeziphi ezona mpawu zibalaseleyo.
- Ebuntwaneni kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba singaziboni njengabanye abantwana. Sazi ngakumbi izinto ezithile, siyazazi iimvakalelo zabantu abadala, siyasokola kubuxoki, sinengxaki yenkohlakalo efihlakeleyo ethi ngamanye amaxesha abantwana babe nayo noontanga babo. Sasikhulile ngakumbi.
- Ubunzima bentlungu yabantu abanobuntununtunu obuphezulu busezantsi. Ukuchukumisa kubangela iintlungu, kwanezicubu ezithile, ivumba elinamandla kunye nezandi ezivakalayo zibangela intloko.
- Sinovelwano ngakumbi kwiintlungu zehlabathi, kwintlekele, kwintlekele zoluntu.
- Abantu abanobuntununtunu obuphezulu bathanda ukuba bodwa. Ayisi kuba befuna ukuzikhusela kwihlabathi, kodwa kungenxa yokuba baziva bonwabile xa bebodwa, befunda, bebhala, bemamele umculo.
- Izifundo zobugcisa zezi zinto zokuzonwabisa ezichaza umntu onobuzaza kakhulu. Bayabuthanda ubugcisa, ukupeyinta, ukufunda, kwaye nkqu kuqhelekile ukuba badlale isixhobo.
- Kubo bonke ubomi babo bazibona behlukile. Babenoluvo lokuba umhlaba, abantu, babehamba kwelinye icala ngelixa babehamba kwelinye.
- Ubudlelwane abusoze bululaAbasiqondi isizathu sokuba abantu basebenzise ubuxoki, kutheni kubangela ukuphoxeka, inkohliso ... Yonke le milinganiselo ibangela iintlungu ezinkulu. Kakhulu kangangokuba nezona zinto zincinci ziyathandwa ngabo, yiyo loo nto ibinzana eliqhelekileyo eliviwe ngumntu onobuzaza kakhulu yile: "Ngaba uthatha yonke into uyisa kwinto engummangaliso".
Ubudlelwane obuchaphazeleka kumntu o-ethe-ethe (PAS)
Ubudlelwane obuchaphazeleka kunye nezibini azihlali zilula kuye nawuphina umntu, kodwa kuncinci kumntu o-ethe-ethe. Kuqhelekile kubantu abaninzi abanolu phawu lobuntu ukuba babe noxinzelelo kuxinzelelo kuwo wonke umjikelo wobomi babo, yiyo loo nto bezibona besesichengeni ngakumbi.
Ngoku, kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba ubuntununtunu obuphezulu abufani nokubandezeleka. Sisipho apho iimvakalelo eziphezulu ziya kukuvumela ukuba uphile izinto ngamandla amakhulu kunabanye, kwaye kuhlala kulungile. Logama ukhathalela ukuzithemba kwakho, unokonwabela ubomi ngendlela ekhethekileyo.
Masibone ngoku ukuba zeziphi iimpawu kubudlelwane bababini nabantu abanolwazelelelo (PAS):
- Kuqhelekile ukuba izibini zihlale nomntu ongeyo-PAS. Oku kuthetha ukuba isibini asizokwazi ukubona kwaye sive ukuba uvakalelo oluphezulu luvumela iqabane labo ukuba lingene, kwaye oko kuthetha enye ingxaki.
- Umntu onomdla kakhulu unomdla ngakumbi kwiinkcukacha. Nasiphi na isenzo singatolikwa ngendlela ekhathazayo (ingaba undijonge kanjalo kuba ndenze into embi? Kutheni engasandithandi?). Amagama anokulimaza, kunye nezimbo zomzimba kunye nokuziphatha okuthile okuya kuthi kube yinto eqhelekileyo, kodwa kolunye kuthetha olunye uhlobo lwentsingiselo.
Akukho lula. Amaxesha amaninzi umntu ongeyiyo i-PAS akakuqondi okwenzekayo, akaqondi ukuba izinto ezithile zibangela ukubandezeleka kwesi sibini, kwaye oku kuthetha ukuba kungekudala umgama uyavela. Ukongeza, ikhefu libangela ukuba umntu we-PAS, awele kuxinzelelo okanye kwingxaki enokubakho, ukuba ayikulawuli kakuhle ukubandezeleka.
- Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba inyani yokuba umntu ongeyiyo i-PAS akaziboni okanye azive izinto ngendlela esenza ngayo, akasithandi. Basithanda ngendlela yabo, kwaye loo ndlela ayilunganga okanye imbi, yahlukile.
- Kuya kufuneka sicinge ukuba ubuntununtunu obuphezulu sisipho ekufuneka sisiqonde ukuze sizazi kwaye ngaloo ndlela singene ngcono kwihlabathi. Ihlala kumculo ophakamileyo, kodwa musa ukuza kubona ubomi njengehlabathi eligcwele izikhonkwane apho ukhoyo iglobhu.
Ikuvumela ukuba uzamkele njengoko unjalo, kwaye emva koko wamkele abanye njengoko benjalo. Bayakuthanda, bayakuthanda, nabo baziva kodwa ngendlela yabo. Kungangcono okanye kubi. Kubalulekile ukuba ufunde ukulawula ilizwe elinemvakalelo, ngakumbi iimvakalelo ezingalunganga, kunye nokuzithemba kwethu.