Ubumama abukho ibhedi yeerozi, yinkimbinkimbi, igcwele imiqobo kunye ne-roller coaster yeemvakalelo inokukhokelela ukuba ungayonwabeli ngokupheleleyo. Ayisoloko inento yokwenza nokuba ngumama, kukho izinto zangaphandle, ezentlalo, usapho, izithethe, okulindelweyo loo nto inokwenza ukuba ngumama kungabi kuhle kunokuba kunjalo ngokwenene.
Kuba ukuba ngumama yenye yezona zinto zibuhlungu ebomini. Xa unomntwana ezingalweni zakho, umntwana wakho, ithuku lokukhusela izilwanyana lizalwa kuwe ekunzima ukulichaza. Oko kwenza isidalwa sakho sibe ngaphezu kwezinto zonke, kuquka nawe. Kwaye laa nto inye ikwenza uzive uzele, ikwayiloo nto inye ngamanye amaxesha kukhokelela ekubeni ungabi ngumama owonwabileyo.
Kutheni ndingonwabanga mama?
Eyona ngxaki iphambili ye ukubeleka kukuba kangangeenkulungwane siye salungiswa kwiimuvi kunye namava abasetyhini kwamanye amaxesha. Sithengiswe ingcamango yokubeleka emnandi kakhulu, uthando, ngaphandle kobunzima kwaye luzele uthando, kuba uthando lunokwenza yonke into, bathi. Kodwa inyaniso yeyokuba umfazi akayeki ukuba ngumntu xa eba ngumama.
Ubomi bakho buyaguquka ngokwemvelo, kodwa awuyeki ukuba ngumntu onezidingo zakho. Y xa ezi zingagutyungelwanga, ungaphela ungakonwabeli ngokupheleleyo umama. Kwelinye icala, ulindelo olukhulu ngokuphathelele ukuba ngumama, indima yakho njengomama ngaphandle kokuzityeshela ezinye iinkalo zobomi bakho bemihla ngemihla, ukufuna imfezeko, yimiqobo ekuthintelayo ukuba uyinandiphe ngokupheleleyo indima yakho njengomama.
Ngokungathi oko akwanelanga, uluntu aluyeki ukuthelekisa oomama, ukujongana nabo nokubabuza izigqibo zabo. Ukuba awuncancisi, ukuba uncancisa kakhulu, ukuba usana lwakho lufuna kakhulu, ukuba alukho, yonke into inokwenzeka ukuba ibuzwe ngabanye. Into ejika ubumama kukhuphiswano olungenantsingiselo. Ngenxa yokuba nganye yahluke kakhulu kwenye, loo nto ibubudenge zama ukuzithelekisa naxa ungumama wabantwana abaninzi.
Imikhwa ekunceda ukuba ube ngumama owonwabileyo
Ukuba ngumama owonwabileyo kuxhomekeke kakhulu kuwe, kwindlela osondela ngayo kule ndima ebalulekileyo kunye nezigqibo zakho. Into yokuqala kunye neyona nto ibalulekileyo kukulibala ukuba i-cliché yomama ogqibeleleyo, enendlu ehlala ikhazimla kwaye inuka ikeyiki esandul' ukubhakwa. Loo mama uhlala enxibe kakuhle, ekwimo elungileyo kwaye akaze aphelelwe ngumonde ebantwaneni bakhe.
Loo mama akakho, akakho nyani kwaye xa sikhawuleza siyeke ukucinga ngoomama ngolo hlobo, siyakwazi ukubufumana ubumama njengoko bunjalo. Kuba ukuze ube ngumama owonwabileyo kufuneka uzicingele kwaye uzihoye iimfuno zakho, kufuneka uvumele ukusilela ngaphandle kokuzohlwaya, unikeze umsebenzi kwaye wonwabe umzuzu ngamnye njengoko usiza. Zixabise njengomama, kunye neempawu zakho ezintle kunye neziphene zakho kuba iseti yayo yeyona ikwenza ube ngoyena mama kubantwana bakho.
Cela uncedo xa lufuneka, enoba kukwenza umsebenzi wasekhaya okanye ukunyamekela abantwana. Awufuni kuzithwalisa uxanduva ngazo zonke iimbopheleleko zentsapho, zabantwana nezendlu, ukongezelela kweyakho. Nyamekela ubuhlobo bakho, jonga amaxesha okuncokola noontanga bakho kwaye uthathe ithuba lokuthetha ngezinto ezingaphandle kobumama. wonke umntu ufuna amandla Thetha ngobomi, ihlabathi, imidla yobuqu, imiba engenanto yakwenza nabantwana kunye nokukhulisa abantwana.
Ukuba ngumama owonwabileyo kubalulekile ukuba ungalibali ukuzinyamekela. Usoloko ukwazi oko abantwana bakho bakufunayo, ukuba basempilweni, banempahla eyaneleyo, ukutya okusempilweni etafileni nexesha lokuzihlaziya kunye nabahlobo babo. Kutheni ungenzi okufanayo nakuwe? Yiloo nto eya kukunceda ngokwenene ube ngumama ongcono. Kuba olwakho ulonwabo luya kukuvumela ukuba unandiphe indlela esempilweni yokukhulisa abantwana.