Kudla ngokuthiwa kubudlelwane obuphilileyo unika ungalindelanga mbuyekezo. Nangona kunjalo, kukho abantu ababa noxinzelelo kwaye kunzima ukujonga indlela abanikela ngayo uthando kunye nothando ngalo lonke ixesha kwiqabane labo kwaye bangafumani nto ngembuyekezo.
Kwinqaku elilandelayo sikunika izikhokelo ukuze wazi ukuba ngokwenene, Ufumana ngaphezu kokuba uqhele ukunika phakathi kwesibini.
Indlela yokwazi ukuba ufumana ngaphezu kokuba unika phakathi kwesibini
Abantu abaninzi abazi ngokupheleleyo ukuba kubudlelwane babo, Bahlala befumana iimpawu zothando kunye nothando, ngaphandle kokubuyisela nantoni na. Kukho uluhlu lweempawu ezinokubonisa oku:
- Inyathelo lokuqala lithathwa kuphela lelinye lamaqela enoba kuxa ulungiselela iholide okanye xa usenza umsebenzi othile wokuzonwabisa. Njengoko ixesha lihamba, elinye lamaqela kwisibini liyayiqonda kwaye iingxaki zivela. Akunakuvunyelwa ukuba elinye lamaqela libonise umdla kuyo yonke into kwaye elinye linokungafuni ukuba ligqibe ukulimaza ikamva elihle lesibini.
- Kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba ngokuhamba kwexesha, ingxabano okanye ukulwa kwenzeka. Ukuba oku kuyenzeka, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba omabini amaqela enze konke okusemandleni ukufumana uhlobo oluthile lwesisombululo esiluncedo kubudlelwane. Nangona kunjalo, Kungenzeka ukuba omnye wamaqela agqibe ukuwela iingalo zawo kwaye unethemba lokuba iqabane lakhe liya kuba lilo eliya kugqiba ukuyicombulula le nto. Passotism ayilunganga naluphi na ubudlelwane okanye impilo.
- Nabani na osebudlelwaneni uyalithanda iqabane lakhe ukuba limothuse ngamaxesha athile ngesimanga sothando. Oku kungundoqo xa kuziwa ekugcineni ilangatye lothando livutha. Ukubukela iminyaka ihamba kwaye ungafumani iinkcukacha zothando, Ithintela ubudlelwane ukuba buqhubele phambili kwaye bume ngendlela eyingozi. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uzinze kwaye ube, rhoqo, uhlobo oluthile lweenkcukacha ezinceda isibini sazi ukuba uthando luyaphila.
Ziziphi iziphumo zokufumana nokunganiki kwisibini?
Kukho uthotho lweziphumo kwimeko yokufumana kwaye unganiki nto kwisibini:
- Kungumcimbi wexesha ngaphambi kokuba enye inxalenye yesi sibini iphele ngokudinwa kwaye imilo neengxabano ziyaqala. Unyamezelo lunomda kwaye ukuba lufikelelwe, ulwalamano lunokuphela.
- Ukuchitha lonke ixesha kwaye unganikeli naluphi na uhlobo lothando kunokuba nefuthe elibi kwimeko yeemvakalelo zesibini. Ukuzithemba kunye nokuzithemba kusezantsi, nto leyo engafanelekanga ukuba isibini siqhubeke.
Ngamafutshane, akufanelekanga ukubandakanyeka kubudlelwane apho ungafumani nto nangona unika yonke into komnye umntu. Isibini asilokhuphiswano, kodwa kufuneka kubekho ukubandakanyeka kwamaqela ukuze yonke into ihambe kakuhle kwaye uthe ubudlelwane busempilweni kangangoko kunokwenzeka.