Ubudlelwane kufuneka busekwe ngalo lonke ixesha, ukuthandana phakathi kwabantu bobabini kunye nokufuna ulonwabo. Nantoni na engaphandle kwezi paramitha inokuthi ithathelwe ingqalelo njengobudlelwane obunetyhefu, ekufuneka buphetshwe kwaye bujongwe. Kwinto ebizwa ngokuba yi-trauma bonding, akukho luthando okanye uthando nokuba luyintoni na, umntu oxhatshaziweyo akanako ukophula olo manyano nomntu obenzakalisayo.
Isimo sokuxhomekeka sikhulu kakhulu, ukuba umntu osokolayo akakwazi ukubona nangaliphi na ixesha ityhefu ebudibanisayo obu budlelwane. Kwinqaku elilandelayo, siza kuthetha ngokudibanisa umothuko kwaye kufuneka kwenziwe ntoni ukukuphelisa.
Yintoni enokuqondwa ngokudibanisa umothuko
Luhlobo lwebhondi apho ukungeniswa kwelinye lamaqela kubeka phambili ngokuchasene nokusetyenziswa gwenxa kwamandla ngomnye umntu. Ukungeniswa kolu lwalamano kucace gca kwaye ukuxhatshazwa ngumgaqo wosuku. Ubophelelo aluqhawuki kuba ukuncamathela ngokweemvakalelo komntu oxhatshaziweyo kunamandla kwaye kunamandla.
Ngokudibana nomothuko, icandelo elihlukumezayo nelinetyhefu limele ukuba lilungile, Ukongeza ekubeni nokuzithemba okuphantsi kunye nokuzithemba okuncinci. Lulwalamano olunetyhefu olupheleleyo apho uthando lubonakala ngokungabikho kwalo, yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukuba uluphelise ngokukhawuleza.
Yintoni omele uyenze xa ujongene ne-trauma bond
Olunye lweempawu zolu hlobo lwe-bond kukuba umntu ophethe gadalala umhlukanisa yedwa umntu ophantsi kosapho kunye nabahlobo. Ngale ndlela kulula kakhulu ukukhohlisa nokuthoba iqabane lakho. Ukuba nenkxaso ethile kubalulekile kwaye kubalulekile ekupheliseni olu hlobo lwebhondi enetyhefu. Ngayiphi na imeko, xa kufikwa ekwenzeni ikhefu elicocekileyo ngokudibanisa umothuko, kuyacetyiswa ukuba ulandele uthotho lwezikhokelo ezicacileyo:
- Shiya ubudlelwane ngokukhawuleza Akohlukani nomxhaphazi.
- Isifundo kufuneka sazi ngalo lonke ixesha, ukuba ubudlelwane abukubo bunetyhefu kwaye uyaphathwa gadalala mihla le.
- Kubalulekile ukuba nakho ukuba noluhlu lwabantu abanokuthetha nabo kwaye babelane ngazo zonke iimvakalelo ezikhoyo. Uncedo lwangaphandle luyinto ebalulekileyo xa usivalelisa kwesi sibini kwaye ukwazi ukwaphula olo manyano.
- Uncedo lwegcisa elifanelekileyo kubalulekile xa kuziwa ekubeni nakho ukuqala ubomi kwakhona. Enkosi kunyango, umntu olulamileyo uyakwazi ukuzibona exatyiswa ngokupheleleyo kwaye enamandla, into ebalulekileyo xa usiya ebomini bakho obutsha.
Ekugqibeleni, kubalulekile ukuphelisa ubudlelwane apho kungekho thando konke konke kwaye ulonwabo lubonakala ngokungabikho kwalo. Akunakuvunyelwa ukuba kwisibini esisebenzisa gwenxa amandla kunye neemvakalelo zongamele imbeko nothando.