Nika isibini esitshatileyo izigqibo eziqhelekileyo, Luhlobo olucacileyo lokunganyaniseki ngokweemvakalelo kwakunye nokuba luhlobo lokuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni.. Oku kufuna umda othile wamalungelo omxholo kwaye usebenzise ulawulo olupheleleyo lobomi bakhe. Into ecacileyo yeyokuba kukho i-veto kwinkululeko ekungafanelanga ukuba ivunyelwe phantsi kwayo nayiphi na imeko.
Kwinqaku elilandelayo Sithetha malunga nokugqibela kubudlelwane nonobangela wazo.
I-ultimatum njengendlela yokulawula isibini
Umntu ofumana i-ultimatums evela kumlingane uphantsi kolawulo olupheleleyo kunye nokunyanzeliswa okugqibela ngokuthatha ubunzima bakhe kwinqanaba leemvakalelo.. Ngale migaqo, injongo kukunyanzelisa inkululeko yesibini nokulawula zonke izenzo neentshukumo zabo. Usongelo ludla ngokuba yinto eqhelekileyo kwimihla ngemihla yesibini, ebangela indelelo ethile ngakuloo mbutho uphantsi kolawulo.
Iimpawu zomntu obhenela ekugqibeni
Abantu abahamba rhoqo kwii-ultimatums Ngokuqhelekileyo banothotho lweempawu ezicace kakhulu:
- Iphathelele umntu onentswelo engxamisekileyo yokulawula ubomi besibini.
- Ukunqongophala kwezakhono zonxibelelwano ngoko ubhenela kwizisongelo kunye nokunyanzeliswa kwesi sibini.
- Unamandla amancinci okulawula umsindo kunye ukukwazi ukuthetha nesi sibini.
- Idla ngokuba ngumntu onengxaki ethile njengomda wobuntu ukongeza kwi-narcissistic kunye ne-egocentric.
- Ukungabikho kokuthembana nonqabiseko kuyabonakala.
- ukungazithembi icace gca.
- Kukho ukuxhomekeka okunamandla ngokweemvakalelo ngakwisibini.
Ngaba banokuba zizigqibo ezifanelekileyo kubudlelwane?
Akukho mathandabuzo ukuba ngokwesiqhelo ukuya ultimatums phakathi isibini, Luhlobo lokuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni nangokweemvakalelo. Awunakuhlala nomntu ohlala esenza izoyikiso kwaye ugcine iqabane lakho linyanzelisiwe. Bubudlelwane besibini obuyityhefu apho kungekho maxabiso kwaye kukho ukusilela okucacileyo konxibelelwano.
Nangona kunjalo, kukho amaxesha apho i-ultimatum ingaba semthethweni kwaye ifanelekile. Okokuqala, imele ifike ngexesha kwaye ingabi yinto eqhelekileyo. Kwaye okwesibini, i-ultimatum enjalo inokusungulwa xa isibini sinemikhwa ethile enokonakalisa ibhondi eyenziwe. Ngesi sigqibo, kuhloswe ukuba kubekho utshintsho olukhulu phakathi kwesibini esincedisa ukuqinisa ubuhlobo obunjalo.
Ngamafutshane, ukugqibezelana phakathi kwesibini akufuneki kuvunyelwe, ngakumbi xa kusiba ngumkhwa kwaye ukuze kuthintelwe inkululeko kunye namalungelo abo. Kukho iimeko ezithile apho ezi zingqinisiso zisisixhobo esisexesheni sokwenza isibini sitshintshe kwaye sikwazi ukuguqula iindlela ezithile zokuziphatha ezingonelanga nezingafanelekanga. Ngaphandle kwezi meko, i-ultimatum ayinangqiqo konke konke kwaye ibangela umonakalo omkhulu weemvakalelo kwisibini.